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Anyone else just starting their journey ?

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TTC73 · 23/05/2018 06:23

DH is going for his sperm sample to be tested today and hes so nervous and the GP wants me to have some blood tests done and swabs at a later date. So nervous of what to expect and terrified of the possibility of IVF I've heard its so painful ?
We've been trying to have a baby for over 3yrs with 2 chemical pregnancies so far Sad

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Cariad2017 · 25/06/2018 21:26

I was wondering how you were getting along Lopey. This is supremely exciting. Please do keep us posted as to how it all goes. We have our next appointment at the fertility clinic on Wednesday where we're hoping to get the ball rolling on IVF. I doubt we'll be able to start this cycle as I'll be 7dpo by the time the appointment comes around and I need to start down regging that day if I'm going to start this cycle (which I suspect will be too tight)...

squirrelnutkins1 · 26/06/2018 16:10

@thisisouryrfx18 hubby's SA is on the same day. 🙏🏻

thisisouryrfx18 · 26/06/2018 16:38

@squirrelnutkins1 no way lol so do u think they discuss anything when ur there or do u just hand in the sample?

squirrelnutkins1 · 26/06/2018 18:35

@thisisouryrfx18 I'm not sure tbh. I think it's just doing the sample. It's weird that I feel bad for him having to go do it when the tests I've had are way more invasive! 🙈

thisisouryrfx18 · 26/06/2018 18:41

@squirrelnutkins1 i know i feel bad for my oh aswell did they give yous a sample pot to take with u?

squirrelnutkins1 · 26/06/2018 18:46

The GP did yeah. He's going to go and 'do it' at the hospital so he doesn't have to carry his sample over to the hospital so I'm not sure if they'll give him a fresh pot when he's there? @thisisouryrfx18

thisisouryrfx18 · 26/06/2018 20:03

@squirrelnutkins1 b careful cause it said on our letter let them know in advance if u want a room at the hospital to get ur sample, it has to b booked in advance. My oh said he d rather do it in the house more private

squirrelnutkins1 · 26/06/2018 20:21

Yeah our hospital says you have to book an appointment whether you're doing it there or at home. I know how distracted hubby gets so he'd probably do it at home then forget to take it 😂 I'll get him to ring and double check tho. Thanks 👍🏻 xx

thisisouryrfx18 · 27/06/2018 00:44

@squirrelnutkins1 yh im not trying to sound like a know it all btw just dnt want them messing yous about x

LopeyLopez · 27/06/2018 06:59

Trigger shot done for me (last night) and all went well. Did it EXACTLY at the (very specific) time they gave me; was so proud of myself! Now just waiting for egg collection tomorrow morning. Looking forward to the two days off work more than anything!

Embryo transfer with either be Sunday or Tuesday depending on quality and quantity.

Good luck to all those just starting out xxx

squirrelnutkins1 · 27/06/2018 07:48

@thisisouryrfx18 never for a second thought that 🙂

squirrelnutkins1 · 27/06/2018 07:49

@LopeyLopez all the best!

LillyLeaf · 27/06/2018 08:09

@LopeyLopez fingers crossed. Can I ask if you were advised to take time off work after transfer? I'm trying to work out when we could start IVF but I have so many work trips I'm struggling to find a time where I'm in the UK for a period of time. Does the whole thing from first scans to testing take a whole month?

EstrellaMay · 27/06/2018 17:23

Hi girls, got a little bit of good news today - my DH's results came back on his SA. The recommendation is still that we need intervention. BUT there was a small improvement in every category and they've changed the recommendation from ICSI to IVF!

We will probably opt for ICSI anyway but we are so pleased to see an improvement Smile. I was worried it would be worse and he would be upset. Feeling v positive.

@LopeyLopez I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

thisisouryrfx18 · 27/06/2018 21:02

@EstrellaMay thats great news hun and it might continue to improve over time

Cariad2017 · 27/06/2018 21:51

Estrella - That’s great news.

Lopey - Good luck tomorrow. I shall be rooting for you.

Had another appointment at the fertility clinic today, with a view to starting IVF imminently. The current plan is to start down regging approximately a month from now (in late July) with a view to cycling properly in August. It feels like a weight off my shoulders to have a plan in place. The Dr said that I could have started down regging today (with a view to cycling as soon as AF arrives next week, but it all felt a little premature, and at least this way I’ve got more time to make sure I’m on top tip form).

EstrellaMay · 28/06/2018 10:31

@Cariad2017 Good to hear you feel better even making the plan. A few people have said that. My DH and I are going to chat at the weekend and then make an appointment for a first consultation ASAP so would also hope to get started over the summer. With the weather being great at the moment it's a great time to stay active and eat well.

Cariad2017 · 28/06/2018 17:56

How did your egg collection go Lopey? I’ve been rooting for you.

LopeyLopez · 28/06/2018 21:47

Thanks @cariad2017: it was absolutely fine. All went well and textbook. No pain, minor discomfort, lovely staff, virtually no waiting time.... and 7 eggs, which is OK by me. There were 12 follicles which considering my AFC at my baseline scan was only 9 is amazing! Obviously not all 7 eggs will be good enough, or fertilise, but I can but hope that some will; that enough will....

In terms of the procedure though I can say I was most pleasantly surprised. Not sure if I was lucky, but for anyone worrying, I would say, don't! It was all over in about 20 mins. I was awake but not in pain the whole time....can't really remember what happened but I guess that's the idea. I remember listening to people talking (there were about 6 people in the room!) but after that just snoozing in the recovery area.

I will find out tomorrow how many eggs have successfully fertilised, and how many embryos will likely be good enough for transfer. Transfer will be on Tuesday, all being well. They will only put one back as I'm under 40, so I only need one!! Obviously if I am lucky enough to have more than one - which would be lucky with 7 eggs retrieved, considering the attrition factor - they will be frozen.

It has been weird today and yesterday with no injections! Weird but good! Now I just have progesterone pessaries for the next two weeks, which is much easier.

@LillyLeaf I checked and the whole thing from me starting my injections to doing the pregnancy test will be just over 5 weeks. But that's just me and how my injections and appointments worked out; it is different for everyone. For example if you go back to our nurse appointment, which is really the official "start" of IVF, then you can add on an extra week and a half. And if you include all the tests and appointments / consultations prior to that you would be going back months....

However in terms of work and time off, as in when you will be having apps and scans and possibly needing time off due to feeling ill from meds, I would say 4-5 weeks in total. I have only ended up having three days off: today, tomorrow, and Tuesday for the transfer (fingers crossed).

I was not advised to take time off after transfer by any doctors or nurses, but just to take it easy. My acupuncturist did recommend time off but I just don't think I could manage it with my work. I can't just "take holiday" because I'm a teacher; I would have to phone in sick and get a sick note. So I am going to go in but just try to do the bare minimum as much as I can. If you can get time off then that's great and if your job is stressful then I would advise it. The hardest thing and the most stressful has been not injecting or anything medical but the worry of taking time off work, and having to speak to them about something so personal and private! My acupuncturist also said if you can only choose so many days, and are wondering "when?", then choose after transfer because it will maximise your chances of it working due to reduced stress; you would really be able to take it easy just as the embryo is getting settled in (hopefully). However make sure you always leave 2 days for egg collection as you can't drive after the sedation for 24 hours, so would have a hard time getting into work anyway! Good luck! :0)

LopeyLopez · 28/06/2018 21:50

Edit: just over FOUR weeks from injections starting to pg test for short protocol....obviously the sedation is still messing with my brain....!

CatRen27 · 29/06/2018 00:22

Eeeee @lopey that's all so exciting!! I'm so pleased it went well, no complications etc. Do they keep you informed daily of how the embryos are doing? My friend has a photo her phone of hers..!

Cariad2017 · 29/06/2018 09:01

Thank you so much for the update Lopey. I’m so glad it went well. I shall be keeping everything crossed that for good news later today and that you have at least one very good embryo come transfer day. Xxx

LillyLeaf · 29/06/2018 09:04

@LopeyLopez thanks for all the info. I'm so glad it went well and wasn't too painful. Fingers crossed for the next few days. Hopefully you can do something to take your mind off it (as if)

LopeyLopez · 29/06/2018 20:41

Hmmm only 3 eggs fertilised so not convinced we will have anything to transfer on Tuesday. Apparently the attrition rate from day 3 embryos to day 5 blasts is 50% and we are only on day 1 and already down to three!! So not looking good. Thought it was too good to be true for things to go so smoothly in the first cycle. I know "it only takes one" but all the stats are not in our favour. Very downhearted. Planning next cycle....

LopeyLopez · 29/06/2018 20:42

Yeah @LillyLeaf : take my mind off it, if only I could. Dr Google is really not helping me but I can't help myself....