Trying to conceive baby#2 following ivf treatment for #1

[lucieloos]

I thought I would start this thread as I can't see anything similar. We underwent many rounds of icsi and following a couple of bfns, and an ectopic pregnancy we were finally blessed with our beautiful daughter last year.

We recently started thinking about baby no 2 and had 4 frozen embryos of which 2 had been tested and found to be chromosomally normal so are meant to have a better chance. We didnt have the other 2 tested.

A couple of weeks back we had our first fet with one of the tested embryos and got a bfp super early at 4dp5dt. Sadly by 8dpt the line was barely visible and resulted in a chemical pregnancy. I've been feeling really down about it as this was meant to be a super duper embryo with no genetic problems which they said was the main reason embryos fail.

I thought it would be easier trying for #2 and of course it is in a way as I realise how lucky I am to have had a baby but I can feel the infertility fog starting to descend again as I realise although I've had a brief respite I will never be like my fertile friends and I do really want another baby and a sibling for my little girl.

Im feeling a bit negative at the moment. We will probably go back for the other tested embryo in the near future but I can't see how I would ever get lucky enough to get 2 bfps in a row. These things just don't happen to me so just not too hopeful about it at all. We said that if we used all of our frosties with no success we would be happy with what we have but already I am thinking should I do more fresh cycles. I will be 39 soon though so time isn't on my side for that.

Anyway just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation and would like to share the journey. Please come and say hi.

mist hoping the wait is not too painful

jen I like to be one step ahead but no more. So I always know what my next step is if my next step fails, iyswim. Probably a weird way to look at it but it suits me!

Tested positive this morning on my OTD. I actually did an earlier test and got bfp but it was faint and I didn't want to jinx it by posting until today.

I'm happy, of course, but can't get excited yet as I've been here a few times before and only 1 stuck around. The furthest I got the other times was 6w.

Thanks, Snowday and Jenbot.

Hope everyone else is doing OK.

Exciting @HelloMist!

Aaah very exciting news mist - congratulations!!

Congrats hellomist! Great news!

Hi everyone, sorry it's been a long time since I checked in.

Congrats @HelloMist! Hope everything goes smoothly from here for you

@twinkledag so sorry to hear about your FET not working. How are you feeling at the minute?

Glad to hear all is still going well @lucieloos and @Snowdayfet 

Have you got a start date yet @Jenbot78?

I've been off MN as things have been so up in the air for me. I'm awaiting some follow up tests as I've not stopped bleeding since my miscarriage 8 weeks ago. I had another scan 2 weeks ago and they found something quite worrying. It's called a uterine AVM. It's quite rare and would be very problematic in terms of pregnancy. They haven't 100% diagnosed it, I'm waiting for a follow up scan in 2 weeks. There is a chance it will have spontaneously resolved which is what I am really hoping has happened. I've been feeling very upset, I've had a few counselling sessions which have helped and I'm trying to keep as busy as I can to keep my mind off if all

Gosh that sounds absolutely dreadful cupcake. Are you ok? I’m not familiar with avm, but hoping you’re managing the stress ok and that things resolve themselves naturally.

Thanks everyone. I've had pink and now red blood when I wipe today. Really hoping things can still be OK but not feeling very hopeful.

NoCupcakes it must be a horrible wait for you. So sorry this is happening.

How are things now Mist?

Sorry to read Cupcakes - that sounds really harrowing. I hope the bleeding stops soon x

Sorry I've been absent - I've been waiting for my appointment, which finally happened the other day. I start injections on Monday - I know I want this but I can't believe it's all starting again.

Hello to everyone else!

Bleeding more like a period but still got positive test yesterday so clinic want me to continue meds over the weekend and retest Monday. Hoping it could be an early pregnancy bleed that will still be OK (would have to wait until scan to know) but not sure how much I believe that it feels too much like my other early losses.

Good news for you Genghis, glad you can get started!

Good luck today Mist. It sounds so stressful, and I really hope it's still positive.

Hope today is ok mist. Are you having a blood test or just more poas? How stressful. Really hoping your little bean hangs in there.

Cupcakes sorry you have been having such a shitty time, that sounds incredibly stressful. The counselling sounds like a good idea and I hope it is helping you.

Mist fingers crossed for today! I hope it is all OK. Sounds also very difficult and stressful. Hoping that it is a pregnancy bleed rather than anything else.

Well my news is that finally my thyroid is in range. Still got to go and see about my lumpy breasts tomorrow but if that's all clear (fingers crossed aaarggh...) then good to go next period which is the end of July.

Genghis can totes identify with starting this whole process again and the anxiety that goes along with it. Was just reflecting last night how things are going well right now; enjoying a new work situation, enjoying my daughter who is a delight at the moment, found a new hobby of running and enjoying feeling fit and well. Getting back to myself and wearing my old clothes. The thought of turning everything upside down again and feeling crap about myself and my body and what it can or can't do doesn't fill me with joy. At all.

I had a big wardrobe clearout and put all my mat clothes in the loft as I have literally no space. Some weird psychology around that like if I put them away I will be bound to need them. See? It's sending me bonkers already!!

Hi all, it's been a while since I've been on the Infertility board, feels odd to be back!

I have DS (12 months) conceived after 1 IVF (BFN), 1 ICSI (BFP m/c) and 1 FET (DS). Planning to go for our first clinic appointment in August to get going for DC2, but haven't stopped bf yet although cycles returned 2 months ago. Anyone on here had IVF/ICSI while still bf? DS loves milk, he'd have that over solids any day, so I feel terribly guilty weaning him for a child we might never have

Should've said, the reason we want to TTC #2 so quickly is my age (34 this year) and not wanting a massive age gap although that might happen anyway depending on how long/if it works out...

Yes I was successful while breastfeeding. I'm currently 17 weeks pregnant. Did a medicated fet.

Thanks lucie, unfortunately DS was our last frostie so this will be a fresh cycle.

Did you tell your clinic you were bf?

P.S. congratulations!!! Wonderful news that you're pregnant

It doesn't really matter you can still do it and breastfeed with a fresh cycle. No I didn't tell them I was breastfeeding. They were supportive of it but I knew they would want me to do a natural fet and I wanted to do medicated. There's a really good group on fb called breastfeeding while undergoing ivf and fertility treatment. Lots of women in the same position and lots of info about the safety of meds etc.

So I am all clear after my trip to breast clinic. They said that my lump(s) were my glands standing out more since breastfeeding. Very thorough actually; mammogram and ultrasound. Bottom line is I can FINALLY start treatment at end of July. Ordering medication next week 😀

That's great news Jen! Good luck.

Fantastic news jen! Finally!

mist thinking of you. Hope everything is ok.

Oh Jen, that's great news! Roll on the end of July.

Hi Hedgehog, good luck!

I'm a couple of days into taking gonal f, and wow, I feel awful - terrible headaches and numbness/dizzy spells. Last time, I had no side effects so I really hope this passes.

Also hoping everything is okay Mist

Hi Genghis! I remember you from last time round, great that you're trying again.

Excellent news Jen

Thanks everyone. Still waiting to find out for sure if it's a MC but seems increasingly likely. I haven't had a scan yet (it's booked for next Thursday). Bled for 4 days quite heavily (strong positive second day) then 3 lighter to none. Almost no cramping. But maybe progesterone altered it. I read up on pregnancy bleeds and still hoped it could be one and end OK but today's test, first in a few days, is weaker. EPU midwife (only spoke on phone) offered blood test but I've decided not to. DD has a sickness bug (so we've been stuck at home) and the results may just add to the rollercoaster of nerves. It may go negative in a few days but if not I'll stay on drugs and have the scan but be prepared for bad news.

I think this was our last go so will definitely need to find support, either here or on only child threads. I'll get counselling too. Have cried a little bit but need to see it through I think before I can really face my feelings (even though I hate this limbo). When we know, I want to explain it to DD in simple terms so she knows why I did all the injections, clinic visits, couldn't carry her in 2ww etc. And why I'm sad. She's already noticed that.

Great news, Jenbot! Good luck to you Hedgehog and Genghis with your treatment.