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[Jamon]

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Oh jam!! I'm so proud of you pleased for you!! I know it's seemed like forever for this, but you done good kid!!!

Everything is crossed. Paracetamol and hot water bottle if needed!!!

Jam - totally missed you had a very successful egg collection, what wonderful news. Well done lovely lady xx

jamon amazeballs job! Well done!
Do you have an idea of when in the New Year? I hope you do not need to wait long - maybe we can be on the 2ww together? Will you hear today about fertilisation?
Speaking of bakeries have you been to the one I suggested yet?
And where were you sending your DH to? Dunns? My mum makes the best mince pies so I never try elsewhere except at my aunts- they are really yummy too!

Good going jam! One stage down; hope the wait isn't too long

Thanks 🙏🏼 girls XX

Kwick I was talking about Dunn's. they make the best mince pies in the world 🌎

Got the call from the embryologist this morning. They actually got 25 eggs, all mature and DH sperm sample was good - no need for ICSI they went with straight IVF.

Drumroll - we now have 11 embryos! She said that fertilisation rate is typical - although I'm a bit like where are my other 13 eggs lady 🤨

So now they watch them and decide whether to do 3 or 5 day freeze. Argh.

Kwick fet will be 3-4 months 😫 really hoping it'll be March. Feels fucking ages so no choice.

Yay 11 is great and a strong fertilisation rate for so many eggs. I know it feels like ages but try and plan some lovely and interesting milestones between now and then - is the only way to stay sane!! It's been 6 months since my fresh cycle in July when I had my chemical and while sometimes the days seem to drag, really time has passed quickly. I'm desperately trying not to wish my life away until I get pregnant - life is good now. Enjoy the upsides as much as possible! Lie ins, wine with DH (he's done his bit now and all good!!). I know it's tough but you've got past an amazing hard part of the journey. Well done you! Hope the OHSS doesn't get you.

It's so true gee and I'm trying to focus on what we can do and enjoy over the next few months.

In some ways TTC and all this waiting really makes you focus in on the time you have and how you want to spend it.

I mean I didn't used to think right how can we fill 3 months properly and meaningfully?

Perhaps this has brought a focus and sharpness to my life that I wouldn't have had otherwise. A lot of people drift along and things just happen as they expect them to.

We've all been hit by the major bomb that is life majorly not going how we had planned. And we're all having to re think.

We are planning a trip to Boston for my birthday then hoping to go to Hong Kong to see BIL and his gf then it's also my sabbatical next year - we are planning to go to South Africa in February so that's already a lot!

Hi everyone - sorry I've been away for a while. Resigning from my job has triggered massive anxiety attacks and I've been in a hole ever since I resigned on Friday. I should be happy, it's an amazing opportunity, but all I feel is fear and panic. I'm trying to book a session with the counsellor because this isn't right. Why can't I just be one of those people who takes things as they come?! No, I have to obsess and overthink and not sleep and have panic attacks just because I'm going into the unknown, which loads of people do every damn day. I've been fully institutionalised. Sorry, rant at myself over!

Amazing news on your progress jam 😊

I'm so sorry hopeful 😢

Hi Pyjamas, sorry to hear about your very anxious weekend.
I wish you could see in yourself what they see, they've offered you a job because you're so fabulous at what you do. But I totally understand where you're coming from, I have had similar experiences when venturing into the unknown. 💐

Pjs so sorry to hear this lovely, I know what it's like when anxiety and panic get you in their grip. It can feel like there's no end. You've been there before and you can do this again. Definitely get to some counselling. Have you also tried beta blockers? I find those helpful for keeping the physical side effects of anxiety down. Please message me / get in touch if you wanted to chat - I've wrestled panic and anxiety on and off for the last 14 years! Xxx

Please dm me if anyone would like to join our whatsapp group. Regulars gee lemony and pyjamas in particular we miss you!

Quiet you too!
Hep are you around?
Hopeful I hope you are doing okay lovely

Aw thanks jam - having an introvert moment and angsting over not being anonymous anymore :) sound like great travel plans, btw - excellent work

PJs I'm so sorry you're feeling anxious - also, just remembered you'd asked about working in the third sector. Let me know if you have any questions (not quite sure what area you'll be in - did you say CSR or is that what you do now(or have I made that entirely up)? Sorry, have a terrible memory!) Hope you get a chance to speak to your counsellor soon xx

Hey ladies much as I'd like to know more about our little gang, I'm sticking to mumsnet for now but thank you! On my lower days I try and not look at mumsnet to forget about infertility for a bit or at least ignore it and if we're chatting on WhatsApp I wonder if I'll ever stop thinking about it!!
Sorry the anxiety has hit you hard @Pyjamas81 I hope you've found something to help you even if it's just listening to an audiobook.
I am on my way to work - xmas party tonight and think I just started my period/breakthrough bleed on the train. Fun day ahead.

No worries at all xx
Hope af clears off soon gee.

I'm feeling rotten still after egg collection, had terrible upset stomach yesterday and am off work today. Frustrating but perhaps at least they were right not to do the transfer.

False alarm. No AF yet.
Sorry you're feeling off still. Defo the right decision re waiting then - you want to be at your best for little mini jamon!! Hope you feel better soon. Drink lots of water and isotonic drinks like lucozade sport apparently x

Ahh I see that every time too lemon, not what you need! Sorry about AF and hope you're alright xx

Gee am trying to knock back the water, hopefully will be back to normal by the weekend. Glad it wasn't af, are you guys trying naturally at the mo?

No. I'm downregging and wouldn't like to get pregnant naturally when taking the artificial hormones not that it would ever happen. I don't think I'd ever forgive myself if something happened to the baby. Plus after 2 years I'm pretty confident I'm more likely to get pregnant by following the doctors orders and doing the FET than any shagging haha!
I actually enjoy sex more when we don't try naturally now. Takes the pressure off and it's like old times.
Glad you're starting to feel better. Sorry if I missed it but have you had an update on your embies? Have they frozen them yet? Do you know how many cells?

Too true re shagging. Was just working out when I might next be fertile and already felt a bit tired at the thought

We got 11 embryos from 25 eggs - so quite a drop. Not sure how many are still in the running, but it must be enough for them to take them to day 5 as they haven't called us today.

So sorry struggling :(

Jam 25! Amazing. 3 months waiting though. I'd be climbing the walls. Really hope it goes quickly for you both.

Pajamas Been following your job journey on Twitter. Super excited for you! Anxiety is a bitch though :( You can self refer to your local IAPT service for evidence based treatments for anxiety. For self help Google "Northumberland anxiety self help". Hope it passes soon.

Sorry ladies I am very behind again... I think I may have over committed myself in different communication channels and in order that this does not stress me out I have given myself permission to get a bit behind 😬

jamon March oh well at least you can give your body a chance to rest. Do you know if that wait is just for the initial FET? I am sure you will get preggers first time but it seems IVI don't care for back to back FETs which is a right bugger.

pyjamas what a fcuker. I hope you are feeling better. I think you are amazing and cannot wait for the day you are knighted for your endeavours for the advancement of fertility treatment. 😘

jamon hope you are feeling better. Hoping you get lots of frostiers 🤞🏼

I have sent off my consent forms to IVI for a January FET. I have not paid though as they keep insisting I can pay on the day by credit card - how civilised!!! I also need to sort my hotel out but will wait for flights until dates are 100% confirmed.

Oh fingers crossed jam!!! You've been through so much and really deserve good news!!

Appt tomorrow with consultant... likely three more months of clomid?? Cd 7? Today? Losing track... want to ask what steps after that would be, but worried about a telling off for being negative. On top of that massive fires in my hometown. Most friends and family evacuated and I'm stressed being so far away and can't help!!!

Hi girls, just popping in to say hello 👋

Have been having some space from mumsnet for the last couple of months and clearing my head, which I think had been helpful, but I just wanted to wish you all good luck and tell you I think of you often. Sounds like things are moving forwards for lots of you with appointments and IVF- hope you get lots and lots of BFPs on this thread!

I'm starting IVF myself in the new year so may pop back then to get advice- and hopefully you'll have all moved onto the antenatal club section by then 🤞

GOOD LUCK TO YOU ALL and thank you so much for the support you gave me 😘😘😘