TTC 18 months or more -moving on to IUI/IVF/ICSI part 3

[bluebird3]

We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Gee I'm so sorry 😔 there are no words it's just horribly unfair and cruel. I hope you and your DH are looking after each other.

Bluebird I can only imagine how much that must have hurt. You must be reeling. Ugh why does this have to be so hard for some people and such a breeze for others? It's the cruellest.

Big un MN hugs to you both xxx

So sorry for you both . I can't even imagine how it must feel. I'm very sorry

Oh blue that really is shit, I'm sorry

Oh blue god that's hard. Puts into perspective my situation. Really feel for you. It's fucking tough.

gee that's just so unfair. I'm so sorry. It's just so cruel to get a bfp and have it snatched away. I asked the clinic why they say don't fly and they said there's no evidence it's more risky, just would prefer you to be local if anything goes wrong.

blue awful timing. Have been hit with a few horrible baby bombs in my time and it hurts every time, particularly when others find it so easy. I'm sorry lovely.

Massive unmumsnetty hugs to you both

Thanks everyone. I'm just really upset at the total lack of consideration that she decided to tell me now, when she's only 9 weeks and knowing what I've been through. I just don't understand why she couldn't have waited till she was 12 weeks like most people. It would have still been hard then but I would have understood. We've never been close and always have a passive aggressive relationship so it grates that this happened so easy for her and that she couldn't wait to tell me.

I didn't realise that she knows about the miscarriage. That's really awful. I'm so sorry lovely. You deserve a lot more consideration than she showed you.

That's incredibly inconsiderate of her bluebird and shows no regard for your feelings. I would be so hurt too. I hope as time passes the pain eases. I find each new step or hard bit of news sets me back a few days but then I take it all into my stride again and carry the F on.

How's everyone doing? Anyone else starting treatment? We need some more good news to cheer up the thread.

I picked up my meds yesterday. Boxes and boxes of them! I'll be starting in just about a week. I can't quite work out how I'm feeling about it tbh. It's really all a bit surreal still!

Great news nolm. You must be itching to get going.
Blue - I'm feeling very meh. FET seems ages away - consultant evaluation on last cycle not even until end of August as he's off for a 3 week holiday

It is a weird feeling nolm. Exciting to get started, nerve wracking, and a bit sad that it's come to this.

gee I hate this waiting part. We have our review appointment 8th of August. We don't have any Frosties so it will be fresh again. Probably not till Nov. Such a long time.

The waiting must be so difficult. I will be keeping my finger crossed for you all.

nolm exciting! Hope you're feeling ok about it all

Yeah I think there is some excitement and hope in there! I guess like everyone starting for the first time there's a bit of fear of the unknown. And I'm a bit worried about my response. I'm repeating "it just takes one" over and over. Currently in the clinic waiting to have a genetic test to see if there's a specific cause of my prematurely aging ovaries. Hoping we'll get the result before transfer as we've decided to assume it'll be negative rather than be over cautious and postpone our cycle. My Dr said this test wasn't necessarily indicated in my case yet as ovaries haven't actually failed, my reserve is just diminished, but we thought a simple blood test could save us further worry and hopefully unnecessary testing later on, fingers crossed we're lucky enough to be in that position.

So, yet more gambles and decisions! I hope we're making the right ones!

Sorry you're both waiting again. It's horrible having your life immobilised like this. Do you have any small afternoons or days out planned at all in the next few weeks? We're hoping to get to the cinema this weekend to break up some of this last week for us.

Good luck nolm hope it all goes well for you.

Blue & gee that's so shit that you're both having to wait

Just how's things? Everything going ok I hope.

Afm, still stuck somewhere on the waiting list, still really impatient that nothing's happening, still shitting a brick about the thought of treatment at the same time

I will be waiting until probably November as I have to do fresh cycle #3 since we didn't have any frosties.

On another annoying note...I'm still not discharged from the hospital yet. When my bloods started falling 2 and a bit weeks ago I had to go back on Friday 14th, then back last Friday, then today. Everything was going down as it should but then today's test only went down a few numbers. Last weeks was 60 and today was 48. They said it was strange it didn't go down more so another blood test in a week. . I just want it over. My periods and ovulation won't start again until it's down to 0. Next week will be blood test #8. I don't understand why it would stall out.

Good luck nolm

blue how upsetting, I don't know why it would still be dragging out either. Really feel for you darling.

angel argh the waiting list is the worst! Baby fine, 8 weeks today and all measuring perfectly. Me not so much, have hyperememis and got so dehydrated I was on a drip yesterday.

That's rubbish just. Take care of yourself. Hope it passes sooner rather than later.

Blue so so shit

Just great news about bambino, not so great about you. Take care of yoursef

How are you getting on nolm?

angel do you have an idea of when you will come off the waiting list?

Just checking in to say sorry I am silent. Have literally nothing to say as am in the limbo land between ivf cycles. Two weeks till period then three weeks till downregging starts again so here to offer support to you all but eff all to contribute.

Blue we were put onto waiting list just before Christmas & at that stage it was 10-11 months long. So a while longer to wait yet

That's a long wait angel. How many goes do you get on the NHS? We had one but are private now. However, we are still going to our NHS clinic as they seem really good and a lot cheaper than the other private clinics. But a bit annoying to be paying but still getting the same treatment (feeling like on a conveyor belt) as everyone else who is getting it free! I shouldn't moan though. I'm not sure how many goes we should do at our clinic before changing. My dh is an NHS doctor and doesn't think you get any better care at fully private clinics/hospitals just better amenities. He probably has a point as most private doctors are NHS doctors who do private a couple days/week.

gee 5 weeks isn't too bad although it feels ages when you're going through it. It will be here before you know it.

We are waiting till Nov. I work in a school, so trying to 'Chunk' the waiting. First summer hols, then first half term, then half term hols...then next cycle.

Only 1 cycle for us as well unfortunately Although the way things are going now in some areas, I guess we should be happy to even get just the one.

AF arrived today so my baseline scan is booked in for tomorrow, and all going well I should be starting stimms tomorrow evening. So today I'm drinking milk and giving my ovaries a bit of a pep talk

I agree with you all re. the waiting. It's all private here in ROI, but I had to 'try to get lucky' for 6 months after my lap in Feb so that's been pretty awful. We did the whole time chunking thing too, still had spells of utter misery.I still sometimes wish I could go to sleep and wake up to the bit when I'm pregnant. But the time will pass. Hope it goes as quickly as possible for you all.