IVF cycle buddies March/ April cont.

[Hobbes39]

I saw that we were nearly at 1k posts and think we get cut off at that point, so hope that you all find this new thread - going to post a link to it in the old thread...
Will be nice to keep updated with how everyone is getting on x

Hi everyone, thanks for your kind and supportive messages, it really helps. I'm in limbo at the moment waiting for next weeks scan. Bleeding has settled down to barely there discoloured discharge so I'm just hoping everything is progressing as it should.

musha so sorry about your news. It's utterly heartbreaking.

ozzy still keeping everything crossed for you.

Hope everyone else is doing okay xx

Well AF came in full force today whilst away in Belgium with work.. The universe really does hate me! At least I've got my definite answer and can move on now!
Hope everyone else is ok x x

Oh and my best friend has just told me she's expecting & sent me a scan picture 😭🔫

ozzy what horrible timing m. I hope your friend didn't know what you've been going through when she sent that announcement.

I'm glad you're seeing AF as a good thing so you can move forwards. Hope or orant too horrendous whilst you're away xx

Oh ozzy poor you. You are being so positive though, well done. Not sure what to say about your friend, if she knew.
silver fingers crossed everything is still going the right way for you.
hope, nemo & anna hope you are all doing well and looking forward to next steps
hobbes when is your follow up appt?
Mine is friday, and dreading it, the closer it gets to be honest. Not sure I can face going back to the place that I had such hopes and dreams at. Also unsure what they will say to me. OH is adamant we do go. Going to ask if we can have all my test results in case we can manage to try again and at a different clinic.
I've been pretty upbeat lately - odd cry here and there but just think Friday will bring it all back. Probably just need to put my big girl pants on and deal with it!!
Feeling a little jealous of all your Frosties - hope you don't think that's mean of me, just would have made round 2 easier I guess.
Anyone else I've forgotten sorry, hope you are ok xx

ozzy am so sorry - I know you were expecting AF but it doesn't make it any easier, especially when accompanied by your friend's baby bomb. Hope work is ok and you can have a lovely weekend with your OH.

bjones it's not mean of you at all - I would feel exactly the same way. I think one of the hardest things about infertility in the unfairness and lack of reason of it all - why do some people struggle to get pregnant when others don't, why are some people successful first time with IVF and others aren't, why do some people get frosties and others don't etc. etc. I really hope your appointment is helpful and doesn't bring back too many unhappy feelings. Definitely get a copy of your file - you may not decide to change clinics, but it's good to give yourself the option. Will be thinking of you and hoping you can find a way to do another cycle xx

Thanks all, no she doesn't know so I am painting on my biggest smile and congratulating through gritted teeth!
Bjones not at all, I think we are all pretty familiar with the feeling of wanting what somebody else has! It's an awful feeling usually followed by guilt and feeling like a bad person (for me at least) I hope your follow up appointment makes you feel a little excitement at the possibility of becoming a mummy again x x

Ozzy - I'm so sorry. Even though you were kind of expecting it, still hurts.
Sorry if I'm a bit quiet - am in limbo land. My usual cycles are 27 days but the failed ivf cycle has clearly mucked it up as I'm now CD 31. Have done two internet cheapies over past few days and a FRER today - all snowy white - so looks like I just ovulated late/not at all and am in the longest luteal phase of my life. Waiting for AF to start ivf cycle #2 so feels like whole life on hold. Sorry that was very me me me!

oh geeup you have every right to be me me me. Poor you, its all such a f*er isn't it for us all.
sorry lulah I forgot to ask how you were and you said such kind words in return
ozzy thank you too
xx

Keeping my fingers crossed that everything is ok for your scan next week Silver

I'm so sorry Ozzy what a horrible double whammy for you :(

bjones don't ever feel bad for feeling jealous, pretty sure we're all guilty of that, I know I am. Hope your follow up isn't too difficult for you.

geeup it's always the way, we spend so long praying AF won't arrive when we're ttc, then when we actually need it to turn up its late. I had the same thing happen at the start of my first cycle. Hope it turns up soon for you.

I'm just waiting to go in for my official blood test tomorrow so I can arrange my follow up appt and get the timing for my FET sorted.

Hello my dear IVF thread sisters. I've mentioned earlier on the board that my husband and I had IVF with pre-Implantation screening, where each 5-day or 6-day embryo is tested to check it has the right number of chromosomes. We have had five miscarriages and PGS is recommended by some doctors for this, because so many miscarriages are caused by chromosomal abnormalities, e.g. trisomies where there are three copies of a chromosome rather than two. This risk increases sharply over 35.

Well, of our 5-day and 6-day embryos, two in three were abnormal. Wrong number of chromosomes. Too many or in two cases too few, or a partial chromosome missing or duplicated. These embryos would likely never have implanted and resulted in a BFP or implanted but ended up as a chemical or a 1st trimester miscarriage.

I mention this only because for me it finally explains why so many IVF cycles and early pregnancies end in miscarriage. Many, often most embryos, are never meant to make it. Our results of one in three normals (with two inconclusives still to be re-tested when my husband agrees to us paying more money) were actually very good. Our consultant says for a woman aged 40, 10-12 eggs are needed for one good embryo. So I want to share this with everyone. Our failed treatments and BFPs are more likely than successes. Most embryos are never meant to be. I wish clinics would be more open about these stats. We will get there, it's just a numbers game! Apologies for long post, but really wanted to share. Good luck everyone X

Sorry I mean BFN!! Not BFP. Hope it makes sense Xx

Thanks laurel. It is indeed a scary numbers game. I hope very much you have a goodie in your clutch that goes on to be your bfp. Keep us posted!

Wow laurel that must be a lot for you to take it, but glad you are finally getting some answers! How are you feeling? X

Wow laurel very interesting figures indeed. Hope you are feeling ok about everything and you have at least 1 good one x

Thank you geeup ozzy and bjones I real appreciate it.
We do have some good ones, so hopefully we will do FET next month. As I've had lots of miscarriages I'm not getting my hopes up, but at least this time we know that the embryo is likely to be chromosomally normal, which takes away some risk.
Anyone else got updates today?
Love and good vibes to all ladies X

Not been on for a while as just trying to get myself to stop being obsessive about the whole thing... but just caught up and I'm so sorry Ozzy, I know you were prepared for AF coming, but it's a right b*tch to come when you are away and with the double whammy of your friends news, it's just so unfair... hope you are home soon and doing ok?
Bjones - don't worry about it, I think we all know how it is - I am truly delighted for those of you that have been successful but also wish so much it could have been me...
Anyway, my follow up is on the 29th, so still a while yet. In the mean time I'm waiting for my period to start and it's late, like yours Geeup ...I know I'm def not pregnant as I'm embarrassed to admit but the whole ivf thing has meant that my interest in DTD is currently zero.... I think all the hormones have just thrown my system and will be a long cycle this month, but it's v frustrating!
Anyway, laurel - v interesting numbers but that's great you have some you know are good ones - good luck for when you transfer xx

Sorry about the crazy bold there - not sure how that happened?!

Urgh sorry you're in the same boat hobbes. I'm now 5 days late which I have never been in my life and it feels cruel to be going through this knowing I'm not pregnant. I can't imagine how amazing it must feel to be late on a normal cycle and then one day decide to test and be like ++++++++++

Hello ladies, hope everyone is doing ok.

I'm afraid i am out, went for my 7 week scan today and they found a small empty sac, said it was an anembryonic pregnancy. Totally gutted, didnt see it coming, have had no spotting or anything and have had pregnancy symptoms, life is so cruel.

Got to go back to EPU next friday for another scan as ive had no bleeding which will feel totally humiliating.

Oh no hope. How devastating after all you've been through. I'm so sorry.
I really feel for you and can't imagine the pain you're going through.
AFM after being 6 days late I've finally come on (nothing like peeing on a £7.99 FRER to bring on AF) so although I'm really sad I haven't had a miracle ironidiff post IVF cycle, at least the limbo is over. Have emailed the clinic to say I want to go again so expect I'll start downregging in about 3 weeks.
Hobbes - any sign of yours?

Oh hope I'm so sorry to hear that 😞 I can imagine what a shock it was for you.. it's always worse when you're not expecting it! Sending you lots of hugs x x

Geeup it's always bitter sweet when AF shows up.. it's good you're out of limbo but I'm sure there was still a little part of you that was praying for a miracle!

Hope everyone else is ok x

Just devastating hope. So sorry to hear. And too cruel indeed. After scan next week, next steps?

geeup glad for your sake you're out of limbo land but not nice. Sounds like you are already focussed forward. Good for you!

Not much news from me aside from making most ahead of my cycle 3 consultation at end of May to enjoy drinking & eating what I want. Also going away for long weekend next weekend to get some sunshine & drink sangria. Try & take mind of sadness if past 2 negatives & every day life where I'm baby-obsessed. Or lack of baby, rather

Hoping everyone can enjoy their weekends ahead!