IVF Cycle buddies March/April

[Hobbes39]

I know we are only partway through February, but I'm down to start our 2nd round of IVF once my period starts at the end of this month, so thought I'd start a cycle buddies thread now as I gear up..!
Our history is that we have a 3.5yo DS, naturally conceived, but have been trying for a sibling for 2 years now... we had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago, but after that nothing... so as I'll be 40 next month, we decided there wasn't time to waste anymore and had all the tests last year but we are 'unexplained'... so we had a cycle of IVF in November/December but sadly was unsuccessful as ended in a chemical pregnancy. So here we go again - fingers crossed it's 2nd time lucky...! If anyone else is starting soon then would be great to have the support! Xx

So sorry Jody it really sucks. Good luck today, it's so hard.

Sorry jody, it's so unfair x

I really feel like it's my fault. Like there was something I could have done. Must have a really unhospitable womb that it rejected all my embryos. Don't have any spares so worried that the funding for a frozen cycle will be cancelled

Jody I am so sorry.. it has nothing to do with what you did or didn't do though, honestly we put ourselves through so much for this chance there is literally nothing more you could have done, take care x

Jodybug I'm so sorry I know this will be a really thought time but try to believe that it will happen for you speak to the doctors and see what they say ! I remember thinking I had a unhospitable womb and it would never happen don't lose hope because one day it will!!
I really wish everyone luck try and stay positive x

I'm really sorry Jody. It must be such a terrible blow after the weeks of treatment to get to this point. I hope you can look after yourself today. Let us know what the clinic say about next steps.

jody i am so sorry, it is just so unfair, please look after yourself

Had my call this morning, of 9 eggs they were able to inject 8 (had icsi) and 6 have fertilised. Now more waiting till they call on saturday.
Was really hoping we would make day 5 this time but not so sure now as last time we had 8 fertilise and only made day 3, this time we have less. I know you shouldnt compare numbers etc... but its so hard not to, especially when your just sat waiting!

hobbes and bjones any news on your embryos yet? Got my fingers crossed for you x

hope thats brilliant, remember it only takes one. x
No news here, had a sleepless night worrying about the phonecall today, think its worse as the clinic couldn't give me a rough time they would call so its just a waiting game, could be a long day!
hope everyone else is ok

Sorry Jody, hope you're ok. GL to everyone else whatever stage you're at, finding it difficult to keep track!

A friend of mine who was pregnant started bleeding badly, she's about 11 weeks, went in to hospital and was told the foetus had stopped growing at about 7 weeks. Feel so bad for her, this is her 3rd miscarriage so she's getting referred now.

It did make me think, what's worse, not being able to get pregnant at all or to get pregnant but miscarry? Both are equally awful but a small part of me thinks well at least you're able to get pregnant. Is that really bad of me?

jody - am so sorry, that's such disappointing news. I can only reiterate what everyone else has said - it won't be anything you did or didn't do. Take care of yourself - will be thinking of you

Hope - congrats on both the EC and the fertilisation rate. I understand why you're worried about less having fertilised this time, but it's quality not quantity - fingers crossed for some day 5s!

bjones and Hobbes - hope you get good news today on your embies.

Hope everyone else is well.

Hope your numbers sound good to me. We had 9 eggs, 6 fertilised (not ICSI). On day 1 when they told us that 6 had fertilised they said they wouldn't look at them again till day 5. Day 5 there were 2 which could have been transferred (we went for one and froze one), 2 they wanted to leave for one more day and 2 they said were poor. By the next day the middle 2 were deemed poor too so not frozen. Having gone through this, am envious of those who end up with several frosties. Am dreading having to try a FET cycle and the possibility of our lone one not surviving the thaw.

Hope - that's good numbers. Try and have "hope" (all in the name!). We had 5 fertilise and ended up with 4 at day 5 although we lost 2 at day 6 as they were too poor. You could easily get there so keep the faith!

Sorry Jody. Xx

Got the call. We have 1 good quality and the other 2 are a bit behind so average quality. Hope they catch up by sat but keep saying to myself (and everyone else!) it only takes 1.
Hope everyone else is ok today, hobbes got everything crossed for you x

Well done bjones and great attitude. Yes! It only takes one. Keep on keeping on. And those 2 could still catch up!

Hi all - Jody I'm so sorry, I had high hopes, I hope you are taking it easy and looking after yourself. Xx
Hope - your numbers sound great - finger crossed that continues!
Bjones - will keep everything crossed for you for Saturday... hope they hang in there.
AFM - I am back from embryo transfer, so I'm now PUPO!
Was a very tricky morning and am still not sure we made the right decision, but all 5 embryos were still alive, but there were 2 clearly better than the others - one a 6/8, one a 5/8 and the others are about a 2-3/8, so they advised, given my 'advanced maternal age' 🙄 that we should put 2 back today. I really wasn't sure as while we had 2 put back last time, they were poor quality, whereas these were decent, so we took a wee while debating it and while the thought of the risks associated with twins scares the sh*t out of me, we ultimately went with the embryologists advice. So there are 2 decent embryos hopefully nestling down inside me - they will culture on the others but don't hold out much hope for them... so fingers crossed - OTD is Tuesday after Easter!

Congratulations hobbes got everything crossed for you.
Find it very interesting how different clinics have different rules. I wasn't told the grading of mine today, wish I'd asked now. but find it strange how mine are waiting til sat and yours decided to transfer today. )I'm also what they would call 'advanced maternal age' (40'is not old!!) You'd think everywhere would have the same rules. Anyway let's hope they know what they are doing!!

hope that was a great number. Hope you're feeling less sore today x

Bjones - I know - I really struggled with deciding as when they called they told me nothing, just that I was to come in for transfer today... so my worries about deciding about that were pointless! I found it frustrating they didn't tell me over the phone whether we had just one still going, or if we had 5, and tbh I was pretty sure we must have lost a couple for them to be calling me in, so was surprised that all 5 were still going albeit with some not looking good...
they told me on day 1 that they'd only go to blast if there were 4 or more of good quality on day 3 and cos I only had one 'good' one and one 'borderline' good I guess that's why they did it today. I agree with you -m though, it's frustrating they vary so much..! It does make me doubt whether they are doing. The right thing...

hobbes poor you not being told on the phone. Maybe it's because I had less eggs to start with than you did. Who knows!! I could go over and over the differences and still not come up with an answer

Congrats on being PUPO hobbes. Wish I'd had two put back in but was too scared to ask as I know they advise against it with blasts as I'm 34. What are you doing today? Feet up on sofa? I'm starting to go for small walks but wonder if I should stay put as I'm on holiday at the moment.

Geeup - I know had I got to blast they would have only put one back unless they looked really ropey and then cos I'm just the wrong side of 40 they'd have considered 2.
I'm just having a normal day today - my DS isn't in nursery on a Thursday-Friday, so spending the day running around after him after having to drop him with a friend this morning... while I know I so so lucky having him, it's one of the things that's makes this process harder for me is the amount of time I'm not spending with him, I feel so guilty...
Hope everyone else is doing ok? X

hobbes congrats on being PUPO!

It is so strange how everywhere differs so much with when and how many embryos to put back.
We had 8 still going last time but 2 were front runners so they advised putting them both back on day 3, (i'm 32) it was a really hard decision as the risk with twins terrifies me too but the odds putting 1 back at day 3 were low so we went with 2.
The rest survived but not good enough to freeze.
So i pretty much know this time even if all 6 are still going on saturday unless there are great quality it will be a day 3 transfer.
Where as some clinics would keep going till day 5!
I'm really keeping my fingers crossed its day 5!
Guess we just have to trust that we know that are doing!

Bit of a cheek they said 'advanced maternal age' tho, 40 isnt old!

Still really sore today, been really lazy and stayed in bed most of the day watching tv, its where im most comfortable, its sore to sit up on the sofa for too long!

Hope everyone else is ok x

Oh Jody I am so sorry x x make sure you take some time to look after yourself x x

Hope congrats that's a great number! And like you said you shouldn't compare numbers, as everyone's favourite phrase goes 'it only takes one'! Stay positive! Fingers crossed for day 5s 🤞🏼

Bjones hope your little embies hang in there!

Hobbes congrats on the ET! Everything crossed for a positive result! And if it makes any different I would have made the same decision. I always think if I go against what they recommend and it goes wrong I would always blame myself! At least if I go with them they can take the blame 😂

Hope everyone else is ok x x So much to catch up on x x

Thanks literally the worst day. Spent all of lunch in tears. Just wondered if I tested too early in the morning. It was like 430 but I was dying for a pee. Aunt flo still not fully appeared but more in volume than before but more dark brown and clots. Sorry if tmi! Is that progesterone withdrawal? If I wanted to do another test on Saturday just to be sure should I take the pessaries still? I've had today without any