TTC for 18 months or more. Moving onto IUI/IVF/ICSI -part 2

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We have relocated from the conception board where we were previously chatting under the thread 'ttc for 10 months or more'. A lot of us are now long term ttc-ers and are going through infertility treatment or looking to take steps in this direction so we feel this might be a more suitable home for us!

Feel free to stop by and say hi and hopefully we can share the journey together and make it a little easier along the way!

Blue congrats for being PUPO! Sorry to hear none to freeze but fingers crossed this little blast is a sticky! Hope OTD comes round quickly and you have a nice couple of days off.

blue congrats! It must be disappointing but focus on the one you have. You're PUPO!

Congrats blue. I know it's disappointing but my clinic said only 1 in 7 couples have an embie to freeze so nothing wrong with yours or anything, just an incredibly hard numbers game. Hopefully this little one is the one anyway!

Thanks lovelies. That does make me feel a bit better gee. They did say that this blast was top quality. I've been trying to watch funny things as I read somewhere that laughing helps implantation. And I'm over here eating my pineapple. The things we do...

Congrats blue!
Sorry I'm crap at mentioning everyone individually.
I've completed 7 days of puregon 50iu and had the day 9 scan today- had a 23mm follicle on left ovary so they triggered me with pregnyl and due back tomorrow for iui. I'm really not getting my hopes up too high, the 20% success rate isn't exactly inspiring..have spent €1000 on this cycle though so will be pretty gutted if it doesn't work.
Part of me thinks 23 is too big, she said if we did another cycle they'd bring me in on day 8 rather than 9. And I just had some light spotting- would that be an ovulation bleed?
Thanks in advance for anyone with more experience in this!

Congrats blue that's fantastic you have a top quality embie on board. Good luck with the tww - I hope it flies by for you. I'm sorry you didn't have any to freeze but I think the important thing was a top class one to implant. How did you find the transfer?

Good luck for today where. I'm not sure about the spotting - sorry. I hope everything goes to plan today. Let us know how you go on.

Good luck today where!

blue I meant to ask what progesterone you are on and how much?

Congratulations blue! All the best for a relaxed tww

Gee, amazing you're starting next week! All the waiting does finally come to an end doesn't it!

Good luck with the iui today where.

Day 5 here and period is on the way out. The heaviness was only for 2-3 days in the end and I usually have a couple of heavy days, so not too differ not from normal. Urgh, gearing up to trying naturally this month. Can't be bothered. It's been so nice to not have monitored my cycle or had ttc sex since Christmas!

Hope everyone else is doing well. Tea, how you doing? Dare I ask if any symptoms?

Congrats on being pupo blue!
Good luck for today where, hope all goes well.
Bless you star. Maybe just have a break? Easier said than done I know!
Afm i had a surprise visit from af today. This was my second month on clomid. I got a peak smiley on clearblue opk but have had no symptoms like the first month, boobs don't hurt, no cramps or anything so I wondered if it was a false PCOS high it had picked up. I even contacted clearblue who advised me not to use their product cos of the PCOS so was feeling fairly miserable that it hadn't had any effect this month then surprise! AF this morning. As I didn't think it had worked i didn't order any more clomid either so can't take it tomorrow which would be day 2. I am debating leaving it to see if losing a (tiny) bit of weight coupled with clomid kick starting ovaries will mean I get a natural af next month, or ordering more today to to hopefully receive them tomorrow or sat. Tough call! Think I will get another 2 month course and lose some more weight and see if it happens naturally then. It is nice knowing we have a teeny tiny chance every month as opposed to nothing

Good luck where

Thank you all, I'm currently sitting in the waiting room ready to go!!

Well I'm done and dusted, it was very quick. Finding it hard to believe it will work but fingers crossed.. does anyone else feel like they would actually die of shock if they were pregnant? I'm so used to it not happening that I really think I would go into a state of shock if I was pregnant!

where I know what you mean about shocked if it works. More shocked if there is a real life baby at the end of it all!!!

That's awesome about af ptera hopefully the clomid has kick started everything for you and got the hormones flowing but at least you know the clomid is helping and can always get more if needs be. Is it worth leaving it a month and seeing what happens or will you feel like that's a month potentially wasted?

star I'm not sure about symptoms. I've got bigger, sore boobs and nipples, cramps and weird twinges but that could be af on its way or the progesterone - it's hard to tell. Yesterday I had a horrible feeling it was all over and kept expecting to see blood but I'm hanging in there. Only 3 more days to go!!!

Good luck where! Very exciting. I know what you mean...I certainly don't feel like a baby will come at the end of all this. It just seems too removed right now.

Glad the clomid seems to be helping ptera. I was never on it but if it gives you a chance thats better than nothing!

star - we have had some of the best sex ever since beginning ivf and knowing that it wasn't for a reason. Ttc sex sucks!

tea I didn't find the transfer too bad. Speculum was a little uncomfortable. The worst hit was the doctor was wearing glasses and I could see EVERYTHING reflected in them. Not a pretty sight! The worst bit has been after...I feel pretty rough. Lots of cramping and today loads of trapped wind, bloating, and unexpected farting! So embarrassing! Might be the progesterone...not the transfer. I'm on 2 cyclogest pessaries a day. What are you on?

Oh no blue that's hilarious about the glasses - it's the kind of thing you don't really want to see! I had a male do my transfer and was a bit mortified as it has been women doing all my scans, e/c etc up until then.

I'm also on 2 cyclogest a night - 800mg.

Oh and I think I forgot to mention that my OTD is next Friday. Which also happens to be my birthday. Not looking forward to that this year!

Oh tea really not long to go now!! Feeling like you're about to start af could be a positive thing. It's supposedly a very common early preg symptom too. I have everything crossed for you
blue that's so funny about the reflection, can imagine it really wasn't what you wanted to see though! And OTD on your birthday....I am crossing everything you are going to have the best birthday ever this year.
where glad it was over quickly. It may well work, it works for some people and no reason why you wouldn't be one of them! I also would probably keel over with shock if I ever get a bfp. Some days I feel like I will never see one and others I feel like one day it will be my turn.
And thanks guys. I'm trying to be positive about it all but can't help feeling I am kidding myself a bit with a potential blocked tube and OH's SA results it really would take a miracle haha but I suppose miracles do happen and we don't have any other plan for the next year and a bit so....I gave in and ordered some more, 2 month's supply. It is really weird having 2 af's in 2 months. I know that's the general idea of them lol but I just got so used to never having them it is a bit of a shock. A good one though! Anyway after these 2 months I may see if my body does anythinf by itself. I'm hoping I will be another stone down by then so more or less back to the weight I was when I had regular natural periods and I am hoping that will help!

And another thing this week - my OH's cousin and his gf announced they are expecting recently. I was actually pretty down about it but then heard they had been trying for 2 years so felt bad for feeling that way, they obviously had their own struggles to get to this point too. But the point is, my dd is now saying things like "when do i get to be a big sister?" "All my friends have baby brothers or sisters, why haven't i?" Or "when you get a baby it can share my toys and i can teach it things'. It's horrible. Obviously she means nothing by it or anything but it just makes me feel even worse than I already do. I loved having siblings growing up and I hate that she doesnt have any. This is without a doubt going to be the longest 18 months of my life saving up for ivf. Defo going to look into saving half and borrowing half to shorteb the wait, wish me luck haha.
Now to do the school run, surrounded by babies and bumps. I know I am lucky that I have a child so I feel bad talking about i here where most (all?) of you are ttc #1 but ttc #2 is no fun either.
Anyways. Have a lovely weekend everyone and I am really hoping you have some fab news on monday tea!

Oh thanks ptera I want Monday to come quickly but I also don't want it to come!

Good luck with the school run - it does seem like everyone I know is having babies. I do sometimes wish they didn't find it easy and it's sometimes difficult to be happy for them. It sounds horrible I know but I guess I'm trying to say don't worry about feeling upset about your cousin, it's bloody hard being happy for people sometimes even when we don't know the full extent of their ttc. How old is your little one? It must be so hard. I'm already worried about where no 2 will come from and I've not even had my first! Chin up and you never know, you could be pregnant naturally with no 2 within 18 months. Have to keep the hope alive!

blue it might be the happiest birthday ever and if not, great excuse to crack open a bottle or 5! I'm definitely missing having a lovely, hot bath and a glass of wine

Thanks tea. I'm glad you said that, I feel the same. Although I don't really want anyone else to go through the same as we are, another part of me kinda wishes they did just so it wasn't just us struggling. It is difficult.
She will be 8 in June. I only wanted 2 years between her and a sibling! But I split with her dad just after her first birthday and so those plans went totally to crap really. The age gap bothers me but not a lot I can do about that unfortunately. Fingers crossed for a natural bfp while we save, you never know do you! I have read of people in similar situations having it happen. I'll keep saving as a back up mind you lol.

I'm the exact same tea. Already worried about #2 when I don't even have #1. I'm trying to stay positive but I just can't really believe that this will really work. I'm just not that lucky. Already wondering if my weight has been a problem.. I'm about 1.5-2 stone over ideal weight. I've felt soooo rubbish the last week since ec I'm struggling to see how I can do this again. I will definitely need a few months off to get my weight down and forget some of the less pleasant side effects of treatment!

ptera I don't think already having a child means you don't feel just as wretched as those of us who have none yet. Infertility is a bastard no matter where you are with the rest of your life. Longing for a baby is soul destroying, your feelings aren't somehow less valid because it's not your first.
Have you thought about egg sharing? In a lot of clinics you get free IVF if you share. It's my plan if our NHS go doesn't work. Not for everyone but I think it's worth it.

tea eeep so exciting. I have no idea how you are so calm. You're like a picture of serenity! Hats off to you!

Thanks just. I feel like cos I have one I shouldn't moan. Probably cos most people who I have told always say "well at least you have one". Like a second is being greedy. Which is crazy because if you can have kids easily nobody thinks having 2 is weird. Like "you already have one why do you want another?"...that isn't a thing yet because I am struggling to have a second then one should be enough. It makes me so mad when everyone says "at least you have dd". Like I am very grateful to have dd and of course I know no matter what I will always be a mum so yes, that is good, but the fact I have her doesn't mean I don't or shouldn't want another. Got a bit ranty there, sorry.
I spoke to one clinic and they said I don't qualify for egg sharing. They didn't say why though. I assume it will be the same at all clinics though. Definitely a good option to look into though if you are self-funding
blue you might be that lucky! What is it, 3 or 4 out every 10 ivf's that are successful? You and tea are going to be in those stats :)