2ww cycle buddies November 2016

[H2016]

Has anyone recently started a cycle. I had a fet on Tuesday 8/11/16 and had spotting prior to this and then today a gush of bleeding. Has anyone else experienced this ? It's now completely gone. I'm so confused. I'm hoping its implantation bleeding but after my last fet failed and first fresh attempt resulted in early misscarriage I'm so scared this time has failed as well.

Kez just because they are Day 3 that doesn't mean much! I've read loads of people getting BFP's from Day 3. Who's to say 1 or both would have made it to day 5?! They don't know....but one things for sure they are better off in you! Do they grade them the same way as they grad Day 5's?

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Thanks H. As I said I'm off to New York on Friday so that will be 6dp3dt - definitely won't test then. I land back in the uk 9am on 26/11 which is 14dp3dt. I would rather wait till then and stay positive till then!
I'll be sure to check back while I'm away and see how you ladies are getting on though!

Thanks lolly . I guess deep down I just thought they weren't strong enough to make till day 5 so they're no good. But the embryologist seemed very happy with them, they were at the right size and stage for transfer.
Not sure about the grading thing, he didn't mention anything about grading. Just said that '2 high quality embryos are being transferred'.
Were both your 5 day blasts good grades?

Well that's great then!! I wouldn't worry u till you're back. Enjoy the break and then when you get back it'll be Test time!! I can understand the worry but the embryologist sounded really positive and if they were at the right stage then there's every chance they'd have made blast! Especially being in you!

Mine were good grades. I transferred 1 x 4AA and 1 x 4AB.

It'll be on my mind constantly, but at least I'll be very distracted!!
Your grades sound great, well done and hopefully they stick for you!!

Can I just ask you ladies?
Were you given an information sheet after transfer?
Such as do's and dont's?
Eating less of certain things/eaten more of certain things?

My nurse didn't give me anything like that - only a sheet to say continue with the pessaries every 12 hours until test date.. Etc.
Nothing about aftercare as such.

Only from digging around on google I've found no hot baths or hot water bottles - I assume showers are ok? (Well I've had a shower past 2 nights so tough if it isn't)
Just wondered if you had anything that may help me?

Yer I did get a little sheet it said no running or exercise beyond a walk. But to resume usual day to day activities.
Then I also read about no baths or hot water bottles on the tummy. Other than that I think that's all that was really on there. Oh no good that's likely to upset your tummy. So like a really hot curry or something! And no heavy lifting.

I keep thinking I've done everything and so had science. Now it's up to them and a bit of luck! I sound relaxed but I honestly think it's because I wasn't even sure I'd get here. I was a wreck last week and I'll probably be the same on Sat as well!! But whilst in this weird stage I seem to be ok... weirdly!

Ah yes my sheet did say about gentle exercise and no heavy lifting, also to stay stress free if possible.
I work in retail & the big C word is approaching so it's difficult to remain stress free!
I keep reading things over and over again to the point where my OH has to take my phone off me because I'm driving myself mad.
Eat this, don't eat that, keep your feet warm, don't sit in the same position for too long but don't be too jumpy at the same time, refrain from sneezing or coughing (wtf? Like the little embryo is going to shoot out?) no baths, no hot water bottles, no lying on my tummy.
Honestly some of the suggestions out there are crazy.
As you said, we've done the best we can, so have the scientists, doctors & nurses, we just have to let Mother Nature take over now.

It's good that you're in a good place at the moment! It certainly beats having all the crazy thoughts.
To be fair (I know my ET was only yesterday, feels like last week already!) I'm ok in the day, because I have lots going on to keep me busy.
It's when I get home, and I'm relaxed, and me and my OH are either chilling on the sofa or in bed watching a film and he'll pull me close and hold my tummy and say 'get snug in there little babies' - man I fall to absolute pieces then!
These bloody hormones.
It's a frigging roller coaster alright!

Aw that's totally normal. The whole process is a rollercoaster! It puts strain on us physically, mentally and emotionally. Keep saying this is probably the toughest thing we will ever do and if we can get through this we can get through anything.
I thought the sneezing and coughing was just at ET! I've def sneezed and coughed a few times - that can't make a diff surely! Otherwise they'd give us something to stop it!!

I didn't sleep well last night. Kept waking up. Think I'm nervous about sat and going back to work today. I have quiet a stressful job at times but I'm not letting that get to me this week - I'll just come home!! xx

Morning ladies.
Kez they wouldn't have transfered them if they didn't think you have a good chance of it working. As lolly said plenty of people have had bfp with 3 day. They didn't give me a grade either just said the same as what they said to you two high quality embryos. Im struggling not to test even though I know it's early. The test is calling me. I'm going to hold out until Friday if I can!!! All they have ever said to me is no hot baths only short showers. No heavy lifting and just do what I would normally do. :)

Lolly I'm not sleeping well either. As for your job, if it gets 2 stressful go home. I'm
Just glad I'm only working part time as I'm studying. My job is very stressful Aswell. This is so hard isn't it 😔

Yep it really is! H2016 step away from the tests it is too early! If you did one and it was negative you'd be upset but tell yourself it was too early anyway (so what's the point) if it was positive you'd only then test every day to see if it sticks....so again what's the point?! It's SO hard but i think testing early is more torturous! I don't have any tests in the house. We've just got to hang in there!!

I know I done that both times before and then ended up In tears till test date. Turned into a complete emotional wreck. Made myself so much worse. I know what will be will be but its just so hard waiting. Even tho it's prob failed again. I just don't think I'm meant to be a mum 😔

Don't say that - you are meant to be a mum and you will be. You wouldn't have put yourself through all this if you weren't. There's no need to give up hope from this cycle yet - its early days so just hang on in there! I know it's super hard, I feel exactly the same. Just try and relax and be nice to yourself. Worrying and getting all upset won't change the outcome. xxxx

I know Hun even tho this is my third attempt it doesn't make this any easier at all. I just feel like I must have been a terrible person in a previous life to have all the bad luck that I've had thrown my way. I'm sure u and anyone going through this knows that feeling. I've never wanted something so much in my whole life. 😔 Now I've got myself all upset sorry to go on I'm just really not coping well right now. Thanks for your kind works and reassurance xx

How you're feeling right now was literally me last week. I was sobbing to my DH saying the exact same words. How you're feeling is totally normal. But just because you haven't got there so far doesn't mean you never will. This could very well be your time! You just have to try and calm yourself down. Have a nice tea or a hot chocolate and try and relax. You're doing everything you can.

Sending you a big hug! xxx

I'm on my way to the clinic for a blood test checking progesterone level. I'm assuming it'll be ok given my boobs are so bloody sore!

I know Hun same for you. It's just so hard :(. Hate all this. Yet you see people that only have to look at a man and they are pregnant. Well at least that's kind of how it feels. I struggle being around anyone with babies or who are pregnant. Can't even meet up with a close friend of mine as she's due in Feb. Can't even have her on fb as the scan pics etc just kill me a bit more inside. I actually feel broken if that makes sense.

Good luck at the clinic. Sure all will be fine. I'm in agony with mine. I was sitting on the sofa last night and my dog came over and kind of head butted my boob I was In tears. 😔😪

Hey H2016, how are you doing today? x

I'm a complete mess. I couldn't help myself testing even though I knew it would make me feel terrible. Negative yesterday, negative today. Feel exactly how I do before my af comes even had pink when I wiped ( sorry if tmi) same as before I get a few days before af. I just know I'm out. I just wish someone up there would give me a break to end this mental torture. All I want is to be a mum. I can't even talk to my friends coz they either have 3 or more children or are pregnant. I can't bear bearing near them. Plus can't deal with people saying when you can try again. I don't want to try again I want this time to be the time. 😪😪 sorry I feel like I'm having a breakdown.

How are you xx

Aw I'm so sorry H2016. It's still too early though isn't it? There's nothing anyone can say to make you feel better - it's shit and life can be so cruel and unfair.
Have you called the clinic? What have they said? Be nice to yourself and try and stay calm. Thinking of you xx

Well Af is due around the 20th and I'm experiencing what I usually experience beforehand. Tbh I can't call them I just break down in tears just as I am now writing this to you. I will text at the weekend if Af doesn't show however the progesterone may keep it away but doesn't always.

Hope you are doing ok and hope I've not stressed u out but being so miserable I'm just not coping xx

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Of course not. It's such an emotional rollercoaster and I'd be exactly the same I'm sure. I'd say just try and keep calm, I know it's hard. But getting yourself into a state isn't going to change the outcome or make you feel any better. Wait until you know for sure. You're not out yet regardless of how you feel. xxx

The clinic just called me I just about managed to speak to the nurse. I'm in bits. She said everything I'm experiencing is normal ( from what others have said ) she told me testing today would be too early. Even that doesn't make me feel better. She said wait Til at least Thursday.

Exactly! It is too early to test. That's why they say to wait so you don't get yourself into a state unnecessarily. Yes it could be negative but there's as much chance of it being positive too! I've read loads of stories on here about people getting BFN right up until OTD. Just try and relax until then. No more testing!! xxxx

Thanks lolly. I couldn't help it but I won't test until Thursday as she said ( even tho they originally said next Tuesday which I thought was a bit long ). How u doing ? X

H so sorry to hear you're having such a tough time. How many days past transfer are you now?
Please don't give yourself the heartache of testing early. They say 2 weeks after transfer for a reason but yes in some women it shows up on day 5 or 6.
I would personally just wait until your 2 weeks is up and just go through the whole emotional process once rather than over and over again. You'll only torture yourself bless you.
Hope you've been keeping busy and keeping your mind off it.

Lolly how you doing? Not long now till you can test - eeeek