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We need an 'anonymous' egg donor/egg share Liverpool Women's Hospital,I'm a private patient.Can anyone help?

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tw33qj60 · 04/08/2015 20:03

Hello! My husband and I have been trying for a baby for nearly five years. We had a course of IVF few months ago but unfortunately my eggs did not respond as they should have and were advised we would need to use donor eggs.
We are on a waiting list at Liverpool's Hewitt Centre,We have been advised that the best way to speed things up would be for us to find our own donor. Our preference is for an anonymous donation so we were wondering if there is anyone out there thinking of egg donation/egg sharing who would be willing to help us out?

We are paying for the treatment so if you are between 21 and 35 years old want to go through privatly financed IVF and willing to share the eggs you will get help towards your treatment.OR we are looking for a kind donor to help us.

The egg donation coordinator has given us a unique code number so that anyone contacting them on our behalf is recognised in this way.
If you think you can help please call Liverpool Hewitt Fertility Centre on 0151 702 4212 and please quote the Reference Number "569R".

Thanks for reading & good luck to all!!

OP posts:
AngryWildChild · 23/09/2015 22:52

With egg donation, is there a chance the baby can trace the donor at a later date? This is the only thing deterring me as I wouldn't like did to suddenly have another sibling appear. I know this sounds ridiculously selfish and I would love to help its just something that plays on my mind

Thistle13 · 23/09/2015 23:09

AngryWildChild, Hi I understand your concern and I would feel exactly the same. Once the child reaches 18 years of age they are entitled to look for the egg donor but that's only if the birth mother (egg recipient) has told the child. It is not compulsory to disclose where the child came from. In my case I have no intentions of ever disclosing any information. I feel if I have given birth I am the babies mum. Hope that makes sense x

AngryWildChild · 23/09/2015 23:25

So if I was to donate my eggs in your case, the baby would know you and only you as their mother? Would you be on the birth certificate etc and no legal link to me?

AngryWildChild · 23/09/2015 23:33

Final question sorry! Is their a certain kind of person you are looking for as obviously if we are different ethnicitys baby will soon guess somethings going on

Thistle13 · 23/09/2015 23:33

AngryWildChild, Yes it would be me on the birth certificate as the mother & you would have no legal links or dealings whatsoever with the child. There is only myself and my husband that knows that I am a egg recipient and that's how I would like to keep it. Thank you for taking an interest x

Thistle13 · 23/09/2015 23:36

Im white British and as for hair and eye colouring there is a range of different colours in my immediate family so it doesn't really make a difference to me x

AngryWildChild · 23/09/2015 23:40

Ok perfect I will look into it. If I turn out not be a good option I wish you lots of luck

Thistle13 · 23/09/2015 23:43

Thank you so so much for showing an interest, it means alot to me and I really appreciate it. Fingers crossed x

Thistle13 · 24/09/2015 00:06

rvms thank you for taking an interest, it's so frustrating when there are ladies out there like yourself that want to help but can't :-( x

kindatheart91 · 23/10/2015 23:48

Hi,
I am 23 in Liverpool and would be happy to donate eggs for you and your husband.
I have just started looking at egg donation as I eventually want to be a surrogate, but think that 23 is a little young to be making that choice.
Message me if you are still looking for a donor.
Hope you both the best of luck :)

Lauren83 · 25/10/2015 00:51

Hello

I'm a donor egg recipient and a moderator on fertility friends, I do suggest you join the site if you haven't, just wanted to see I'm surprised you are looking for donors, most private clinics offer no waiting list for donors as they have more donors on the books then recipients and you can get a choice from lots of psychically matches. Even as an NHS patient cycling there so I would really consider moving clinics. Altruistic donors through the NHS are few and far between as they don't get compensated like the private clinics pay the £750 fee

Thistle13 · 26/10/2015 13:01

Hi Lauren83.
Thank you for your advice its very much appreciated, I understand exactly what you're saying about private clinics having egg donor banks but we are getting funded by the NHS for our treatment which is why we are on a long waiting list, unless we find our own donor through advertising etc.

Lauren83 · 26/10/2015 15:09

Yeah you can cycle NHS at a private clinic that's what I mean, call your CCG and ask who they have contracts with, mine did with 1 NHS and 2 private clinics so the CCG paid for me to cycle at the private clinic as the NHS ones have no donors

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Beetlebaby42 · 14/03/2016 18:34

Hi all. Thistle I hope you are having some success in your donor search.
I am also searching for an egg donor as I had leukaemia in 2012 and have premature ovarian failure. Myself and my partner are desperate to start a family and would appreciate any help you can give or if someone could point us in the right direction to get the word out, as the normal advertising routes don't seem to be getting us anywhere. Thank you Smile

Thistle13 · 14/03/2016 22:22

Hi Beetlebaby42 wishing you lots of luck in your search for an egg donor, I can relate to everything you & your partner are going through & it really is such a frustrating & emotional time.
Me & my husband still haven't found a donor :-( everyday I pray & hope for good news.
Some of the ways we've advertised are by printing off letters stating our situation & asking for help, we've put the letters in supermarkets, hairdressers, Hospitals, we even posted some through people's doors. Some ideas for yourself & partner to try, you may have more luck than us. Could also advertise in local papers.
We also applied to switch our funding to a private clinic but unfortunately was refused because Liverpool womans hospital didn't have a contract with this particular clinic :-( so the search goes on for us.
It's worth trying all these ways & hopefully you will soo find a donor too.
It's worth a try visiting your local Doctor & asking if they will apply to switch your funding to a private clinic, just make sure they have a contract with the hospital before doing so though to save on weeks of waiting for an answer. Good luck x

Beetlebaby42 · 15/03/2016 16:50

Thanks Thistle13 that is really helpful. I'm sorry you're still not having much luck. Hopefully everything you're doing will prove successful very soon!
We have done some ads in local newspapers and posted on lots of forums. We are making flyers up to put in a few places.
It sounds like it would be worth trying to switch the funding... Do you mean whether the ccg have contracts with different clinics? or the Liverpool women's contracts? I've heard that Care Manchester is supposed to be very good? It would be really useful to find out exactly who and where have shorter waiting lists wouldn't it. X

Thistle13 · 15/03/2016 18:02

Beetlebaby42..
Hi yes sorry I meant your ccg have a contract with the clinic you choose, we are thinking of looking into trying again to apply, it was so disapointing waiting for 3 months to be told it's a 'no' but we've got to keep trying.
Alot of private clinics have egg banks so you can start treatment straight away, ive heard that care Manchester is very good too so worth looking at.
its just a living nightmare isnt it... im 38 in a few months & funding ceases when Im 40 but yet the waiting list at Liverpool womans is 4 to 5 years, it's £6,000 to fund it ourselves which would take a few years to save, it's very frustrating isnt it when all we want is a family.
It sounds like you & your partner are doing all that you can to find a donor & im sure someone will come along for you. It's nice to know your not on your own x

Beetlebaby42 · 16/03/2016 09:42

Thistle13
It is very frustrating especially for you in your position. Surely if the ccg has approved funding for you now, then you can have treatment whether you are 38 or 40? Something doesn't sit right with me there, because you have done everything you should and shouldn't be penalised for their waiting list surely?
I have worries that I won't be able to carry if we wait too long because of my health etc. It really is so frustrating and emotional. But yes it is nice to know you're not on your own even though I don't wish any of us to be in this position.
I have booked to go and speak to my GP on tues so will hopefully get some clarity on the funding and where to go (even though it hasn't been approved yet).

Thistle13 · 16/03/2016 17:00

Beetlebaby42
Your doing the best thing seeing your GP & looking further into it, hopefully they will be able to get the ball rolling for you then, it's just a waiting game.

I know it's ridiculous that my funding ceases when I reach 40.
We got excepted earlier last year for NHS funding with Liverpool womans but it stated on the letter that if we hadn't received any treatment by my 40th birthday I would no longer be excepted, we just took it that was the case for everyone but maybe not.
Fingers crossed it all goes well for you next week x

Beetlebaby42 · 13/04/2016 20:20

Have you had any luck thistle13? I have my fingers crossed for you. We haven't had any luck as yet and are still waiting for funding to be approved x

Thistle13 · 13/04/2016 22:31

Beetlebaby42
Hi, aww thank you so much, no not having any luck at all :-( still waiting to find out who my Ccg's have got contracts with but its taking them to get back to me, feel like im forever chasing people up & getting nowhere :-( so frustrating.
Looks like il have to do alot more advertising to find a donor.
Sorry to hear you still havnt heard anything, im sure you will hear very soon & it will all come together for you, I really do feel for you & know exactly what your going through, nothing worse than waiting you desperately want. Let me know how you get on & il keep my fingers crossed for you x

Jed2632 · 27/04/2016 13:48

I would like to help. Message me for a chat and further info. I have genuinely been thinking about egg donation for a few years as I will need help conceiving as well.

jadey568 · 05/09/2016 20:20

Hi I am 26, I have a 5 year old healthy stunning daughter and I am very fertile, I only know this as I had my fertility tested, I would be intrested in helping you if you still need help, did you mention that in return you will fund ivf for the person who donates?

friends123 · 05/09/2016 23:44

Hello, I justt wanted to add that I swapped clinics and I'm now attending a private one under the NHS. My GP did this for me. I went with somone who my ccg used but you can also put in for an individual funding request. Good luck to you all. X