The All Things Donor Conception Thread

[foxinorangesocks]

Thought I'd start an ongoing thread for all mnetters that are having, thinking about having or have had treatment using donor eggs or sperm or who are considering/have been a donor. Come and talk about all stages of using or being a donor, from exploring the idea of donor conception and pursuing treatment (or not) to parenting donor conceived children or being a donor- all in a supportive and encouraging space. Whilst I say All Things - this is NOT meant to be a thread for expressing concerns over the ethics/morals of donor conception in negative/forceful/hurtful ways. Please start a thread elsewhere for this.

Resispa I am so sorry to read your news and for your dh what a huge thing to try and get your head around on top of everything else. You have been through so much already, life can be an asshole. I know your head must be all over the place but would embryo donation ever be an option? This is on our list as possible option for the future. Not because of sperm issues but for speed/cost/quality of treatment abroad. But it's a tiny seed of thought at the moment.

Lauren glad to hear from you, I was itching to know where you were up to. So are you still on the evil dr? How have you been on it? When do you start other druggage?

Bob hoping you had a better sleep.

Resipsa what a rotten, shitty thing to happen. I am so sorry. I really hope for the best possible outcome all round for you. That is an awful lot for you to get your head round. Do you have a good rl support network?

fox yes, I thought I recognised your name. Like you have been around the conception boards a few years so you do get used to seeing the same ones pop up from time to time. You sound really positive about your ED, that can only be a good thing.

Sorry for quick post, just sneaking it in before I have to wake DP to get ready for work (he sleeps through me getting up at 5:45 to shred, the swine!)

ControlGeek what is OTD??
foxinorangesocks pinky and perky are fine, but i am covered in red rare eczema, and can't use my steroid cream as it says don't use if pregnant, another trip to the g.p this morning to get something i can use!! sleep is still a bit dodgy mostly sleep for 4-5 hours to start with but then awake between 1-4am, feeling incredibly itchy!!
pinky and perky are a whole 7 days old today!!
its been a very busy week at school again, the new intake came for lunch tuesday and wednesday, so i did a double dinner lady shift, so i may have been in the sun too long then, then i did an extra dinner lady shift to help out yesterday and the long walk to and back from swimming lessons for the year 4's, plus i had too many clothes on, so today the shorts and sandals are out!!
hope you are all ok ??
i had my consultation on the 12th of april both donor sperm and donor egg were matched within a month and treatment started on 27th of may and then implantation on 30th june!! so quite quick i think!!

Sorry sideshow, otd = official test day, when the clinic will do their test. Yay to pinky and perky, but boo to the eczema. That sounds really nasty.

I'm starting to lose faith in the timescales given by my uk clinic. They have always told me that there is a five year wait for donor eggs/embryo adoption, and that this is prety much average across the national rate. They also told me sperm donors are hard to come by and there would be quite a wait if I wanted to do own eggs, donor sperm. I'm starting to think they just don't want to hansle the donor process. They were very quick to tell me that their 'donor' clients mostly went to Spain, and to give me the clinic details.

Yeah I'm still DR, on day 41 :(

I keep DR til they tell me to stop, I think she might bleed fri/sat so i'm guessing they scan her maybe Monday then she starts stimms

When's your estimated ET? X

Control that doesn't sound right to me. My clinic said that donation has increased a lot for eggs since the 750 pound payment was introduced. I'm not sure about embryos. But five years?! That can't be right?

Lauren ugh to 41 days. I thought you might be on estrogen now. I don't really understand what happens next with me but plan on finding all that out tomorrow at my scan. They estimated late July for transfer so presume me and buserelin will be partying on for some time yet. Agh!

ControlGeek OTD is thursday 10th, not at clinic just home pregnancy test, but i'm not doing it til the 12th as my friend is on holiday and i need my hand holding plus she has been there every step of the way, like a good luck charm, so i'm waiting!! also there is the london sperm bank in london and you can have sperm couriered to your chosen clinic, sounds like you are at the wrong clinic, they sound very bias to their way or no way!! tbh
Lauren83 they scanned me on day 2 of my bleed as mine was delayed for ages too, so don't worry!!
foxinorangesocks good luck with the buserelin!!
all is good the gp said i can use very low dosage of steroid cream for 2 weeks only, i am now on a steroid management, he wants to see me if i get worse, get an infection or am i still using the steroid cream in 2 weeks!! he was really good and very understanding!!

Lauren - don't fret. I was on the drugs for the best part of 2 months and still got a BFP. It's tough to wait but it won't affect your chances of success.

Thanks resispa

I'm not worried about it affecting things I know some ladies stay on it for ages, I'm just knackered, got terrible indigestion too

How did you feel on your DR? X

Lauren83 hi when i the injections made me go off all sweet food, chocolate, sweets and biscuits, also made me wee loads in the night and feel very tired!!

Lauren - don't kill me but I found DRing fine - no side effects!

Thanks girls

I have overactive bladder and on meds for it so peeing is normal, I was fine with my own egg cycle last year on short protocol, I have just come off Morphine, Tramadol and Fentanly so I think it might be bring off those that's making me feel so rubbish though x

Hey everyone. I am meh as day21 scan showed I'm not yet downregged and that I'd clearly ovulated in the past few days - even I could see that on the scan. There was a clear luteal cyst so noresithrene or whatever it's called for 8 days to get my 5mm lining smaller and dissipate the cyst. I feel fed up. I have never in one billion scans had the scanner turn to me and say everything looks fine.

Exactly same as me, they didn't say I had ovulated though but I'm guessing I did? I had loads of EWCM too, I had cysts, thick lining too

8 days on the meds then a scan and I was sorted, I bled 2 days after stopping them

I know exactly how you feel xx

morning everyone, feeling quite strange lately, memory is poor, body aches, tops of thigh bones ache and stomach muscles are sore, what are these?? extreme tiredness or something else??
one more week til i can test, nervous and excited, pinky and perky were well behaved last night when i went out for a curry with my work buddies, but then i did ask them to be kind and behave on the way!!
the little boy i look after in the mornings has been stroking me alot, yes he is high functioning autistic, he occasionally strokes me, but this is nearly everyday, he is a twin, does he know or does your body let of a different smell that only sen children can sense!!

Sounds very promising sideshow! X

Hello. I'm new here.

I am nearly 39 and have a nearly 4 year old son conceived after 2 years TTC (conceived after a laparoscopy diagnosed and treated moderate endometriosis). We have been trying for a sibling since our son's 1st birthday and had 2 chemical BFPs. Self-referred for IVF last year and found out my ovarian reserve is low. Had 3 natural IVF cycles (no stimulation) but unsuccessful. Now deciding whether we want to try donor eggs. Have been thinking about it for a few months but just can't make up our mind. Mainly my mind really as husband has said it's what I feel comfortable with. He has ruled out adoption though.

I haven't read the rest of the thread but wish everyone luck.

thanks Lauren83!
its been the longest weekend ever!! stomach muscles very sore, very tires and generally ache all over, been bored stiff most of the weekend, loads of things i wanted to do but just didn't have the energy, tesco's was hard work this morning, so i've ordered online for next weekend, can't wait to get back to work tomorrow so i have something to focus on!!
day 10 today, really miss my best friend and my lovely nephew, i know they are only in cornwall but they have really bad service in the place they are staying, glad they are only on holiday for a week, so much to look forward to next weekend!!
how is everyone else??

How you feeling today sideshow? Don't blame you for ordering the shopping in!

My donor started stimms yesterday the clinic called today, I started my tablets for my lining today and there for a scan mon

hi Lauren83, i'm feeling quite rough, only slept for about 3 hours last, crying for no reason, think its just total exhaustion, so restless!! pinky and perky are fine though, they are 11 days old now, been suffering from night sweats as well as living in the loo!! picked up more pessaries today too!! don't really know what to do with myself go to bed early or late, no matter which i do i just don't sleep!!
good news for you that everything is going to plan!! are you doing injections too or just tablets??

Lauren83, i know this is a bit tmi, but my bits are burning bit like before your period comes and i have 3 spots on my face too!!

Ok I work as a moderater on FF like I said and the amount of ladies who are convinced their AF is due in the 2ww is crazy, pessaries might be causing spots, how many dpo are you now?

i usually get spots before i come on, what is dpo??
embryos are 11 days old today!!

Sorry dpo (days past ovulation/collection) what are you testing? I should be in for ET in 2 weeks! :)

hi dpo (egg collection) was 26th june (my birthday day)
supposed to do pregnancy test on thursday, but not brave enough to do it on my own, my best friend is on holiday til late friday/early saturday morning so waiting til then!!
ahh thats great news that you have ET in 2 weeks, do you take aspirin before ET or just after?? fingers crossed for you!!