The All Things Donor Conception Thread

[foxinorangesocks]

Thought I'd start an ongoing thread for all mnetters that are having, thinking about having or have had treatment using donor eggs or sperm or who are considering/have been a donor. Come and talk about all stages of using or being a donor, from exploring the idea of donor conception and pursuing treatment (or not) to parenting donor conceived children or being a donor- all in a supportive and encouraging space. Whilst I say All Things - this is NOT meant to be a thread for expressing concerns over the ethics/morals of donor conception in negative/forceful/hurtful ways. Please start a thread elsewhere for this.

Toodaloo

I transferred over from an nhs clinic to a private as I needed donor and the nhs clinic couldn't provide it, I will tell you the process if you still want to know?

good news everyone!! i have a transfer date!! egg collection is on thursday for my egg donor, so earlier transfer for me is saturday, just got to wait for the phone call on thursday to find out how many eggs i have!
how is everyone else??

Sideshow that is fantastic news! Do you stop downregging now?

Lauren, keep going lovely. When is your next scan?

stop injections on wednesday morning and start pessaries on wednesday night, also got to start 8mg a day of the progynova tablets from today instead of 6mg!
i little excited now, but very very nervous!!

The good thing about cheering on other people is you just get to be excited for them sideshow but I totally get that it is a super nervous time. Wishing you loads of luck and that you get to christen the thread with our first bfp

Hi everyone

I am just starting out with donor eggs and was looking for other people in similar situations

I'm no stranger to IVF and have a 3 year old DD who was conceived on our 7th IVF cycle and have had a further 4 unsuccessful rounds since DD was born

This will hopefully be our last shot at having a sibling for DD

Hello

Great news sideshow I will keep everything crossed

fox how are you? The tablets worked I'm there wed to check if I'm DR this time

you're welcome! And congrats on your DD

Mm I do love me a good spell. If only I'd contacted a spell caster before! Please go away spell lady or fear my wrath.

Lauren hope things are all moving in the right direction. I'm day 11 dr now and have ewcm. I don't think that's good news. I did have bleeding again all over the weekend. Poor body.

Welcome Dave (struggled to shorten name!) you have had an epic journey and I'm glad you had your baby but what a tough road before and since. Nestle in here for some company.

Bob how goes it?

Fox I had that, loads of it, is it a bad sign? I will know tomorrow what's going on I guess x

I think I just presumed everything would dry up and switch off?! But it feels like I'm gearing up to ovulate. I do feel crap so the drugs are def going in. Who knows. Huge luck tomorrow, things can change so fast x

hi everyone, bit nervous about these pessaries, first one tonight, i've never used tampons, so do you guys have any tips??
will be here tomorrow at somepoint as its egg collection at 9.30am, so again excited and nervous all rolled into one!!
also my birthday tomorrow and we have ofsted at my school today and tomorrow so its all go at the moment!!
hope you are all ok??

That is one busy old time. I think the only way is to just push it up there! They can be a bit 'leaky' so wear a liner would be my advice. It will be ok. Wishing you all the best for tomorrow and with ofsted (I know the feeling well).

thanks fox, i was warned that they leak/discharge so i have a liner on!! just hoping i did it right!!
do you work in education too??

I do indeed. Knackering! You must be exhausted. Do you get a phone call telling you about egg collection tomorrow?

yes i am knackered, luckily i'm not a teacher with all the paperwork and stress, i'm an LST(learning support teacher) as we call them in my school, currently i'm in year 1 working with a lovely little lad with high functioning ASD in the mornings, then i work with a year 4 lad with severe S+L difficulties and mild ASD in the afternoons and also i run some intervention groups in the afternoons too!!

and yes i get the call about egg collection this afternoon, as i only get a half hour lunch break today!! scared and nervous and excited all rolled into one!!!
been awake since 5.15am, but at least i didn't wake up at 2.30am for the toilet and then not go back to sleep as that what usually happens!!
at least i don't have too much planned tonight, just a take-away curry with my best friend that has been coming to all my clinic appointments!!
what age do work with fox??

I'm excited for you! Will check for update later. Out if interest what drugs are you taking now? Prog and estrogen? Did you stop the buserelin? I've worked with all sorts of ages 4-20 but mostly early years. Won't say much more for fear of outing myself

Lauren hope scanning goes well (I think it was today)

Hi
Can I ask a quick question?
DH and I are starting IVF next month. I'm still trying to figure out all the ins and outs. If we have left over eggs/embryos that we decide not to use (after we hopefully get our family) are they able to be donated. I know eggs can be but what about an embryo?

hi everyone i had 6 eggs and 4 were mature enough to be used, so now got to wait until tomorrow to see what happens to them!!
fox i took my last buserelin yesterday morning and my first pessarie yesterday night and increased the progynova tablets from 3 x 2mg a day to 4 x 2mg a day, not sure which are prog or estrogen to be honest i'm new to this game!! sorry just know i have to take the pessaries and tablets til pregnancy test day, if pregnant i have to continue taking both until 12 weeks.
hope you are all well!!

Hello, may I join you please? I don't really feel like I belong in any of the 'normal' ttc groups any more. All the friends I have made there have either had their dcs (some are 1-2 years old now) or have made the decision to stop ttc.

My potted history - DP and I have been ttc for 13 years, his sperm are knackered and I've got a rake of issues that may or may not affect my eggs - the consultant couldn't make his mind up. I've had two failed IVFs with OE/OS but we've decided now that we have exhausted our NHS funding we want to put our money into the thing that will give us the very best shot of success, so we are going to Spain for Embryo Donation. We had our initial consultation with the Spanish clinic via Skype this morning, and hope to do ET on my next cycle, which is due to start end of July.

hi everyone all 4 survived the night and growing nicely, so we will see what happens in the morning, barely had any sleep the last few days, due to excitement, nerves and stupid Ofsted, but all good now as i spoke to my boss today and she was really positive too!! fingers crossed!!
how are you all and welcome control geek, why are you going all the way to spain for treatment??
i'm using donor sperm and donor eggs in a local essex clinic

Well done on your 4 sideshow! My local clinic kept going on about five year waits for donor eggs, two year waits for donor sperm and at least 5 year waits for donor embies. Spain can do everything immediately for about half the cost. Because we're going for embies we also don't need to worry about donor timing, donor meds or how many eggs will get retrieved/fertilised/make it through each night. We're jumping straight to the end point with a guarantee of two good quality embies being transferred. Hope that makes sense.

thanks!! wow is that more expensive to skip all those stages??
as my ivf cycle started on may 27th and i'm nearly at transplant stage now and the team that care for me at my local clinic have been brilliant all the way through, the main lady is actually on call all weekend and i just spoke to her!! is your spanish clinic an english speaking one??

Oh blimey, so you've had a whole month of torment then. Was it difficult to synch your body up with your donor's?

Thankfully everyone in my care team at the Spanish clinic all speak English, and the clinic itself is officially partnered with my UK clinic where my scans will take place. The original price quoted for the procedure was 3000 euros but they have various options including paying more, but then getting a refund in the event of a failed cycle. I'm just waiting to hear more about those. I think it's kept low because the embies were created as part of another person's cycle, so I have no med costs etc to cover, no scans for the donor, the embies are already sitting there on ice waiting for me.

no it wasn't too difficult, there was a hairy moment in the middle when i didn't get my with drawl bleed for ages after i came off the pill but it all worked out in the end, off to bed now as i'm exhausted, talk later!!