The All Things Donor Conception Thread

[foxinorangesocks]

Thought I'd start an ongoing thread for all mnetters that are having, thinking about having or have had treatment using donor eggs or sperm or who are considering/have been a donor. Come and talk about all stages of using or being a donor, from exploring the idea of donor conception and pursuing treatment (or not) to parenting donor conceived children or being a donor- all in a supportive and encouraging space. Whilst I say All Things - this is NOT meant to be a thread for expressing concerns over the ethics/morals of donor conception in negative/forceful/hurtful ways. Please start a thread elsewhere for this.

control thankyou! It was last sat but only got 1 poor quality embie so not feeling hopefull, so exciting for you, you and fox next!!

sideshow I never did the aspirin, lady cycle I went back to work but this one took it off as I had taken no hols but its really dragged, kinda wish I was in work, going to go back mon

lauren that's what i was thinking, if i took time off i would be bored stiff and over think everything, which i have a tendency to do anyway!!
i just wondered about the aspirin thing as the consultant that put them in said i had to take the baby aspirin daily while on the ivf medication because they can cause dvt's, also there are mixed messages about others taking it before implantation and other that only took it after, just wrote my list for tomorrow, excited that i least have one more chance!!

Hi everyone. Quick post. Lauren agh to waiting! Cramps could be good couldn't they but know what you mean about google not being very helpful. I am always too scared to test and waddle on in a pretend state of possibly pregnant. I start bleeding before I ever get in with a real chance anyway. I so so hope that embryo is burrowing in there!

Bob sorry to hear the drugs are still floating about. I stayed super bloated for a few weeks post ivf and my first two periods were different but then all back to normal. There is a list on the fertility friends site by a poster called agate of all the things you could ask about your cycle, might be worth a look?

Control it's nice when it's a period you want isn't it this is happening!
Keep us posted.

I'm now on my 4th day of estrogen and aspirin. I've had some very bad headaches over the last week. I now have a fair bit if ewcm which I'm hoping is normal, whatever that is. My scan is next weds. No idea about transfer though.

fox i'm glad to bloating is normal side effects of the drugs floating about too, either that or being constipated is making me feel really fat!!
so fox you were advised to take aspirin before implantation?? is that as well as after implantation?? so how long before implantation do you take it??
what's ewcm i'm really useless at all these acronyms!!
ok i'm going on fertility friends now, seeing as i'm having trouble trying to drill my first ever hole in the wall with my new drill!! so now taking a break!!
good luck for wednesday, how many scans have you had so far?

Fox I had such bad headaches when I started them too, they pass so hang on in their

ok fox and lauren i'm on fertility friends now, user name of sideshowbob, can you see me and where do i need to look for the info guys??

Go on....

Forum

New to fertility friends/introduce yourself, start a new post called something like 'Newbie single ladie 1st failed cycle' or something similar, already pulled some links together for you, there's one with info on what to ask at a failed cycle consultation and a thread full of single ladies having treatment too

I will wait for you in there

lauren, waited for the reviewed and approved email, it hasn't come through yet!
thanks when i finally get the email i will definitely look at those!!

I will look out for your post and give you the links x

Bob I read fertility friends for information but don't post on there. Lauren was just reading another thread by Esther (who I'm sure I recognise as erilou but didn't read whole thread) and read about your transfer escapades, I can't imagine all that happening!

fox i'm quite rubbish at these forum's etc, can you can me the exact directions to find the information i need to ask my consultant in the morning, please

Take a look here bob.

A lot of it is for own egg cycles but there may be some useful bits in that you hadn't thought of.

thanks fox i've printed it, so i can highlight the important parts

Bob I have asked them to see to your request to join

thanks lauren

And fox yeah my transfer was funny! I woke up in the room nearest the waiting room you know the one facing the nurses station? That was my hospital room and was in Nr Patels office for first few hours

I know that thread was weird, there's no way it wasn't her, I spent ages months ago helping her don't know why I bothered

Bob they approved you they said it might be in your junk folder?

thanks lauren

hi everyone just got back from the clinic, all as the co-ordinator had already discussed after the blood test, so now have a couple of options

1. continue with this plan, save and get a £5,000 loan, to start treatment at the end of the year/beginning of 2015, which will cost around £9320 again or
2. challenge the nhs and ccg and see if i can get some or all treatment paid for or
3. go abroad, possibly spain as treatment is cheaper there, what do you think ladies, would like your opinions please

sideshow I've pm'd you with my experience so far of my Spanish clinic. I'm a little biased as I've had such rotten experiences with UK clinics, both through the NHS and privately. I think my Spanish consultant is the bees knees even though he does look like Ross from Friends

fwiw I do think it is worth challenging your ccg, you have nothing to lose and the worst that can happen is that they say no.

Control I'd be really interested to hear about your experiences too if that is ok? Bob did they give any insight as to possible reasons it didn't work this time?

Bob you must do 2 regardless I told you!

Then I would do 3 rather than 1, I'm not clued up on treatment abroad but there's some great offers from the clinics offering 2 donor cycles for something like 3/4k and there's some that will guarantee you 4 blasts and things like that, younger donors too

thank you control for getting back to me so quickly!!
fox, no reasons i had a 50:50 chance and there was nothing that went wrong or major that would change for next time, i had 1st grade eggs too, so it was just luck of the draw i think, i think next time will be alot easier as now i know what to expect and how to prepare myself mentally to deal with all the odd things that occur during treatment!!
i will be speaking to everyone and anyone i can about treatment on the nhs, as i feel that its just not fair that i can't get something on the nhs especially as i've always contributed to the income of the uk, sometimes wish i was gay and then i wouldn't have this problem!! sorry guys having a its not fair moment!!

fox I've pm'd you too - not because the info is hush-hush-top-secret, just that I'm not sure whether it's too much detail for a public forum!

hi everyone, I've been very busy on the phone today, I've spoken to the ccg and they are emailing me the ivf criteria and an individual funding request appeal form, also got a appointment with the GP to discuss an exceptional funding request or to see if they will just back the individual funding request, also got advise from the hfea and they told me how to find my local NHS clinics or private clinics that take NHS patients, then got some brilliant advise from the local fertilisation and health advise UK, i also have the number for NICE too!
so how is everyone else and thanks all of you for your help with the phone numbers for all the people i needed to talk to!!