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Our Infertility Support forum is a space to connect with others in the same position, discuss causes, treatment and IVF, and share infertility stories of hope and success.

Anyone starting IVF soon? Join me.

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Shellster52 · 06/03/2014 03:35

After 3 full failed IVF's last year, I am about to embark on my second last attempt. I started an IVF thread during my last IVF, and everyone got pregnant but me. So I swore I wouldn't do that again this time. But I find myself wanting to chat with people going through what I am, so I am starting the thread again. Join me as I seem to be a BFP magnet!

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Happilymarried155 · 31/05/2014 06:52

Unfortunately still on a crazy mission for number 1 as that ended in miscarriage.

I'm off for my ET today, not sure how many made it to day 5 or what grade they are so looking forward to finding out! Have a great day!

purplemeggie · 31/05/2014 09:13

Oooh, good luck, Happily - everything crossed for you x

minibmw2010 · 31/05/2014 09:29

A quick question about crinone gel and apologies if TMI. The first couple of nights I did it, there wasn't any mess or sticky feeling but after last nights there definitely is. Does this mean I wasn't doing it right or just that it's building up (if that makes sense ???) Hmm

Happilymarried155 · 31/05/2014 09:42

Just got back! All done, had one really good one transferred and then 5 left to freeze. The waiting begins!

minibmw2010 · 31/05/2014 09:45

That's brilliant Happily! Good luck. We have our ET on Monday x

Happilymarried155 · 31/05/2014 11:49

It's actually quite exciting to get to this point but it feels abit wierd now that it's all out of our hands and we just have to wait and see!
Good luck for Monday x

purplemeggie · 31/05/2014 19:55

Fantastic news, Happily - and wow to 5 frosties, that's amazing. I know what you mean though - I definitely found the waiting the hardest part.
What are you writing, Emma?

purplemeggie · 31/05/2014 20:01

Damn, posted too soon. Meant to say Mini - I had cyclogest instead of crinone, so can't help, but I'm not sure anything's TMI on here!!!

bluemoonday · 01/06/2014 09:46

Hi all, I've been following this thread with interest and thought I would join in.... I'm currently 5 days past ET, with one 5 day blasto. Not really experiencing any symptoms at the moment, not sure if that's good or bad, but I'm determined to wait until 16DPO before peeing on a stick! This is our first Ivf cycle. Good luck to everyone x

bluemoonday · 01/06/2014 09:51

Congrats on the frosties happily, we didn't get any, I only had 2 eggs at ER. One turned into a nice 5 day blasto though, and hopefully it really does 'only take one' as our doctor keeps saying!

Shellster52 · 01/06/2014 10:11

Welcome bluemoonday. I think your story is just what I need to hear right now. I am having EC probably on Wednesday and it's looking like not many eggs (as usual). So your story really is a reminder that it's quality over quantity.

Congrats Happily!!!! You must feel a bit relieved with 5 left. That's amazing. With your 6 embryo's, there seems a very good chance that one will be your future child. Although I am sure you hope it is all over with the one inside you now instead of dragging the emotions out for many more months. And then the pressure is off if you ever want a second because you don't have to worry about your eggs aging with 5 ready and waiting for when you are. Sorry, I'm getting ahead of myself... just excited for you!!!!

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bluemoonday · 01/06/2014 10:55

Good luck Shellster, try to stay positive.

EmmaGH · 01/06/2014 12:23

Hi everyone, I don't know about you, but I have had the biggest rollercoaster of a weekend! I was so certain Friday that it was all over I'd gone from lightish brown spotting to thicker, darker plummy spotting, but I've been spotting on and off since then. It's been flipping between brown/nothing and more red-hued, but it's not yet got 'menstrual red', and it's been more sporadic and much lighter since the episode Friday evening. The cramping isn't at all like my normal menstrual cramping either and I haven't felt the way I did when I miscarried. All in all, the nurses at the ACU are still pretty encouraging and I'm still taking the pessaries just in case, but it's been emotional.

Happily that's brilliant! Wow, 5 for freezing. Well done you both!! How are you feeling today?

Shellster, I also was expecting to get 6 (that was the estimate when we went for our scan) but we got 11 in the end. There's heaps of growing time between now and the EC, so try to stay positive (and busy, 'relaxed' has never worked for me!).

Mini, good luck tomorrow!! Remember to have a super full bladder. I hadn't the first time they tried, so had to drink up while another couple went in. By the time the doctors were ready, I ran to the chair. Needing to pee really helped keep my mind off what was happening, haha!

Bluemonday, that's great, you're about a week after me then (I'm currently day 11 past ET). I'm first cycle, too. Have you seen this post? It's a really honest appraisal of what it's all like, and very reassuring about symptoms, etc.

Purple, I'm writing my PhD on heroic agency in spy fiction. That was the first draft of my FINAL CHAPTER! Whether this cycle works or not, the last few days will always be associated with making progress.

bluemoonday · 01/06/2014 17:10

Thanks for the link Emma, I haven't seen that blog before. She makes a good point about the 'IVF symptoms' disappearing after ET, and how easy it is to assume those are pregnancy symptoms. I felt bloated, nauseous and cranky for a few days after ET, and now I feel....fine. Slightly sore boobs but that's about it. Oh, and I got emotional and cried watching a documentary about Carole King and James Taylor because they were 'such good friends'. Erm, yep! Going a bit mental. Blush

Anyway I'm trying not to think about symptoms/lack of symptoms and just see what nature has in store for me. Determined to wait until 16DPO to test but it's extremely tempting to test early.

Happilymarried155 · 01/06/2014 18:49

Thanks shellster, you have hit the nail on the head it's a relief to know we have some frozen so have another chance so to speak, although I'm hoping it's not needed at the moment! Been feeling fine, really tired and had some twingey pains but I'm trying not to symptom spot & I'm not going to test early either!!!

Emma what an emotional roller coaster you have been on-I have my fingers crossed for you! When is your actual test date?

Good luck tommorow mini!

EmmaGH · 01/06/2014 20:03

I'm glad it was useful, bluemoon. I sympathise with the absurd crying! I cried during a battle scene in an episode of Angel last night.

It has been emotional indeed, Happily! I've not been tempted to test at all, which is odd because I'm not usually this restrained. I think it's because I've been so worried that I'm not pregnant that I've been too scared to do an early test (plus the amount of hormones in the body earlier would have skewed the results anyway). In any case, we test tomorrow, so we'll know soon enough.

Shellster52 · 01/06/2014 22:45

Yes Happily, here's hoping they are not needed and the 5 in waiting will be a little bro/sis for number one on board now. And then you don't have to worry about the age factor increasing the number of your eggs with chromosomal abnormalities as your embryo's are from eggs your current age.

I could only dream of having frosties. This is my 6th attempt and I've only made it to transfer twice. Okay, I am off to get ready for my day 12 scan! Going to stick with my original plan and not ask about number and sizes of follicles. I can't change it and knowing only stresses me out in past experiences.

Anxiously waiting to hear EmmaGH. My thoughts are with you.

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purplemeggie · 02/06/2014 08:53

Thinking of you Shellster and hoping the sonographer understands what info you do and don't want today and can give you good news.
Got everything crossed for you, Emma. I love that you have a positive outcome for this week regardless of your results and here's hoping for this to be one of those truly life-defining weeks. (I write, too, but such very different things -journalistic/academic legal stuff and rhyming children's stories for fun - as yet unpublished. Your PhD sounds very cool.)

minibmw2010 · 02/06/2014 14:57

Hello ladies, apologies for lack of personals. We are back from ET. Only one survived, apparently it's an 'excellent grade' but I'm pretty shattered now after thinking we might have 6. So one put back and no frosties. X

EmmaGH · 02/06/2014 17:42

Hallo everyone, I started bleeding heavily last night and although I haven't since about 6 this morning, two tests have come back negative. I just feel so sad and frustrated and lost. I don't know what to do now. It really sucks.

Mini, I hope you have better luck. A grade excellent is nothing to sniff at.

Shell, I hope everything went well at your scan. Fingers crossed.

Happilymarried155 · 02/06/2014 19:17

emma I'm so sorry :( I don't know what to say, I know how sad and disappointed you feel. I hope your husband is talking good care of you. Sending you loads of love.

mini you only need one! :)

How did you get on shellster? Hope your ok x

bluemoonday · 02/06/2014 20:21

Emma so sorry to hear your news.

purplemeggie · 02/06/2014 20:52

Emma, I'm so sorry. There's nothing helpful I can say, but I'm sending a hug and hoping that you find the comfort in people's words on here that I did when I had that news. Several of us have been there and we're here for you x

Mini chin up my dear, maybe that one is the one. It's been said before, but it is such a rollercoaster.

You okay, Shellster? I worry when you go quiet.... X

Fingers crossed for you, Bluemoon.

EmmaGH · 02/06/2014 20:56

Thanks, Bluemoonday and Happily! My pregnant sister-in-law just came over; I'm debating whether or not I should go hang out with her. (I really hate how all this turns you [me] into such a bitch. I really want to be happy for her, but I'm only about 78% there. Awful.)

I do have a question for anyone who sees this tonight: I have not spotted since early this afternoon and now am not spotting at all; it's like nothing ever happened. Should I take a pessary just in case the tests are wrong? My mum didn't test positive with me till she was about 8 weeks along. Am I hoping too much to take after her? Even as I write this, I'm calling myself deluded.

Shellster52 · 03/06/2014 03:56

Emma, I'm not sure how your system works but here I have all the pessaries included in the cost of my cycle so it wouldn't waste me any money to take the pessary until I knew for certain. But I would think that if it was implantation spotting, it would happen at around day 6-7 post embryo transfer, and if you are spotting now just as your period is due and you normally spot before your period arrives, it doesn't sound to hopeful. That sounds horrible sorry but you sound like you want an honest objective answer. How many funded rounds are you eligible for? I always find it helpful to move on to plan B so that I don't fall in a heap when plan A fails, but you have to do what is right for you.

Thanks for your concern Purple and Happily. Went for day 12 scan and only 3 mature. I was upset but knew I had done all I could and hoped it was a case of quality over quantity. However, Drs rooms phoned in afternoon and said that after I started with 14 follicles, its not usual for only 3 to be mature and if we postpone and try again, she is sure I can have more. Hubby has 100% abnormal sperm but with 3 mature eggs about to ovulate, we tried naturally in hope. Will let this cycle finish and then having a one cycle break while we go on holidays. Will be back just before next cycle ends and will start IVF AGAIN the following cycle around 17th July - this never ends!

Mini, I can understand your disappointment when hoping to have 6 and only having 1. I hope it is replaced by elation with a BFP in about a weeks time! Out of curiosity, did you do any particular diet in the lead up to this IVF. I read a study that showed eating > 25% protein and

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