The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

[PhoenixFromTheFlames]

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

In real life I have cried at DH, made him agree to stop all alcohol/take ttc horse pills (AKA wellman) for the next 6 months and then pay for a donor egg cycle in the autumn.

Despite saying treatment is over for me it looks like it isn't. So, any bright ideas on recruiting an egg donor anyone?

Delilah you have a great outlook, I have a friend who has been a surrogate, she is on here and posts under Glask, altho she isnt on much if you wanted info im sure i could get you in touch with her?

Carrie, the sooner its done the sooner its over,one step closer! Will be thinking of you!

How are you feeling now pink?

X posts! Is there an agency for that type of thing? Sperm seems to be easy to get so hopefully eggs would be

Hmm adoption sounds like a good choice and you can pick the age you want a child from or even go crazy and take on a new born with an older sibling and be a full family straight away.
Donor egg sounds like a plan can't you ask a family member to donate, is this even possible or allowed or even a friend lol. I am sure I have heard of people paying less if they could get a donor and get them to donote the left over eggsn plus it will move you up the list.
I would say have a good drink and have one for because right now I could do with one lol

Donor egg is out from my family - my sister has POF, and I cant see my 17yr old cousin offering (nor would I ask). I think at least some of my infertily might be genetic, which is a shame because other than that all my recent ancestors are hugely healthy, with no history of heart problems, cancer or demetia - they have all died in their sleep in their late80s/90s with all their marbles.

Donor egg from my friends is also out for the moment, I have 3 close friends and none have completed their families, they are all on 1st/2nd pregnancies. Maybe in a few years..

I am open to the idea of adoption, so is DH, but he wants to try for his own genetic child first - hence an anonymous egg donor or straight surrogate would be needed.

BBisBBack if you could point your friend towards this thread so we could meet/PM I would be very grateful - I would love to talk to someone with a bit more know how about surrogacy.

And everyone else - sorry my recent posts have been a bit self obsessed, I really appreciate your support. This forum is a real life saver.

Delilah we are all self obsessed at times its a coping mechanism! I am on, on my phone so cant get PMs but i can send them, If I PM you my email address if you reply i'll pass yours to her via FB? Convoluted I know!

Thanks B, if you PM me I will reply :)

Sorry missed point there... She is limited on internet atm not on here much hence suggestion of email etc, if you are more comfortable I can just ask her for links etc? X

If I could give you one of my eggs I would. I only have one tube but two working ovaries and ovulate fine. It looks like its the endometriosis that is my problem. I know from previous that I don't have fibroids and the only time I had cysts was when I was pregnant.
I feel like all I am doing is self obsessing when I post but frankly I need the support at the moment to keep me sane lol
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X posts! Have pm'd

Carrie i know what you mean, i think i bore / drive people DP mad in RL so for their sake you all must suffer my moans i started paul mckenna today, so far so good... Hoping for continued loss! and miraculous bfp

I think its time I looked for the book again and gave it a try, all the comfort eating has meant I have put nearly a stone on recently eek.
I try not to drive people mad in RL but I know sometimes I do. One of my close friends is pregnant and yet she's been the best support due to her trying, she says she's living her pregnancy test addiction through me and reminds me that I'm not crazy. I had my ectopic during her first pregnancy and was still with her when she was in labour I don't know why but her pregnancies don't bother me its everyone elses

This is probably my most open statement and i openly admit its wrong to feel lile this BUT im never jealous, im bitter or happy. Happy as certain friends are fab parents and bitter that the ones that aren't conceive easily! Wrong isnt it? Not healthy, I know, but deep down thats how black and white i feel about it

BB I agree. It's the third friends pregnancy that has hit me the strongest. She doesn't live with her boyfriend, drinks a LOT, smokes like a chimney, is financially insecure... A lovely person, but her pregnancy was not planned, and I can't manage one despite years of trying.

It's just not fair - but then who ever said life was fair?

Carrie - DH has told me I have got to get fit again / restart C25K before he will consider more treatment. Trouble is I love food and don't love exercise!

It definitely isnt! Bitter cackle (quick namechange for funsies)

Right, night all, Good luck those having scans tomorrow, we need some good news in the hut for once :)

Delilah, sympathy for dealing with everything. I know it's not easy for you to keep finding the positive...you're very brave! Re exercise/diet, Paul Mckenna! Honestly! I ran 5.6k today :) ran pretty much solid for 50mins ok had one quick walk in January I could only run for one minute! :) I'm really enjoying my food and feel motivated to exercise!

Right that's it McKenna for me to I feel seems to be doing some good so I'm giving it a go... Well after yesterday I'm not holding out much hope for this cycle blazing cold last week during AF, I have daily injections of gonal f and now have a chest infection from the cold and a respiratory Tract infection from a virus... Hmmm so antibiotics for 7 days thrush imminent and a scan tomorrow woohoo

Have you tried eating probiotics to help combat the thrush? Helped me.
Paul is awesome. I'm on a thread in big/slim/whatever as well which keeps me motivated.

No may have to if it sets in hehe!

I guess I am lucky really as I'm sat here waiting for my scan and I can overhear another lady in the waiting room discussing doner sperm... At least I have a dh to provide that for me and im not doing this alone something to be happy about I suppose

Just a quickie, delilah havent gotten your email yet?! My email is obviously playing silly buggers!

Hope scans went well for pink and carrie

Hello, scan all done with a small mix up. They said all was ok but I would get full results when I see my consultant in two months, I'm still waiting on that appointment. They then gave me results to take up to his department which clearly had a cyst wrote on it. I've googled and it looks like one that's not cause for concern but they should think a little more, I mean who wouldn't look at it? It was a little painful which suprised me as they have never been before but then again firstt time while AF.
Hope your scan went ok pink?

Hey BB have PM'd you again, and emailed again.

carrie glad the scan wasn't too bad, I hope the next two months fly by.

pink any news?

Phoenix I was on the C25K thread - but then stopped at week 4 when I had a cold. I have just done Day 1 of the 30 day shred. I am quitting alcohol and chocolate for lent, and will do the Shred every day as well, hopefully by Easter by body will be a bit fitter/more toned.

Anyway, feeling slightly happier today. I have a job interview next week, thought I had missed the deadline with my application so all good. And DH is home tonight too, he's normally away in the week and we do everything by Skype, so it's going to be nice to see him.

Hope everyone is well :)

Glad your scan was ok x

Mine was fine as comfortable as it can be I suppose 2 follicles one on each side but only 8mm and 7mm at the moment so a bit more to go (well a lot really) have asked for IUI as it is going to be our last shot before ivf we decided we might as well cut out the middle man and put the sperm where it's going to at least give it a go still might not work but least the little spermies won't have to swim so far so they won't be tired hehe weird talking about them like they are real little things just waiting now till the nurse can ask consultant tomorrow then she'll tell me on Monday at me next scan woohoo!

Well I shall keep my fingers crossed for you.
We are still at the looking at what is wrong and not solutions just yet. Still holding onto the thought that it will happen on its own