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The hut of gl/doom: ttc against the odds

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PhoenixFromTheFlames · 10/02/2012 22:51

This is a safe haven for those ttc with difficult, with ?sub-fertility or sub-fertility labels. Where like minded people offer encouragement at times and commiserations at others.
I've decided the theme is Cocktail style: Flanagans. With a pink neon sign: Cocktails and dreams. Blinkity blink.
Newbies are welcome. Come share your tales of woe

OP posts:
pinkapples · 17/05/2012 21:56

Yup my nails are looking lovely gold tips with black flowers Grin

Start the northiserone next week GrinGrin

queenrollo · 17/05/2012 22:15

i'm up to my ears in packing for our weekend away. the problem with having more space (ie not a tent) is that i'm now packing every bit fancy dress I own and more clothes than I will need.
Gone are the days of taking fresh undies and living in the same clothes all weekend.
Have I grown up?

pinkapples · 18/05/2012 06:34

I'm not sure queen but I'm exactly the same got so cross I decided to stop packing now I have it all to do tonight grrrr

Neveomd I guess I better get out of bed dogs and hubby weren't home last night/this morning so am finding it rather difficult :-)

raspberrytipple · 18/05/2012 07:15

I need to rant-or cry! We DTD in Wednesday morning and this morning I finally got my peak on cbfm after loads of CM yestersay and tried to have sex this morning, DH was so unkeen and has a sore knob because he's had thrush after antibiotics but said it was getting better. We tried but he couldn't finish :( now he won't want to try later and I just feel like I've been through the lap & dye for nothing :( I need to cry :( I'm so frustrated, why can't things ever just be simple. To top it off last night I got stuck talking to some gob shit at exercise class telling anyone who would listen that she was 5 weeks pregnant with her 6th baby after mis carrying twins in February (don't believe that for a second I'm sorry) and 'ohhhh look at my baby bump, I get big so quickly.....' fuck off

queenrollo · 18/05/2012 08:41

last minute packing here and then we're off.

but a quick ((hug)) for raspberry

carrieonlaughing · 18/05/2012 17:55

Aww raspberry how frustrating. Get him some cream that might help and try for tomorrow morning.
We missed the time after the HSG due to my kidney problems and I was so upset especially as everyone says they fell just after.
More odd burning sensation today but I think that's a good sign

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 18/05/2012 18:54

raspberry as tough as it may seem, you have to be really careful with thrush - it can be passed between partners through sex and is liable to make you very sore Confused From what I've read your fertility is increased for several cycles after a HSG because it flushes your tubes out. While it probably feels like the end of the world, maybe you need to ease off this cycle and let him heal?

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 18/05/2012 19:15

Sorry the HSG comment was meant for carrie.
raspberry the lap and dye wasn't in vain lovely, it gave lots more info on what's going on. I'm worried I sounded unsympathetic - I'm not! I've been there...it just sounds like you're putting an awful lot of pressure on yourself. I hope DH recovers soon enough to hit the right time.

carrieonlaughing · 18/05/2012 19:40

Sometimes you have to accept that this month is a lost cause no matter how crap it is. My OH wouldn't come near me while I was ill and I was upset at the time but sometimes it is for the best. I totally understand the frustration and wanting to cry its understandable

raspberrytipple · 18/05/2012 19:59

Thanks girls, sometimes I just feel its an excuse though, really upset me this morning. I spoke to the dr a while ago about thrush and TTC and he said we didn't need to stop, just make sure we treat both of us at the same time and it's worked so far. I think DH just woke up in a bad mood and took it out on me. Hopefully we'll manage a quick BD tonight, only needs to be a few minutes I really don't care-anything to get some swimmers up there!! I think it's the thought of doing it with thrush that's putting him off rather than it being uncomfortable. I'm just not coping very well at the moment, everything is really getting me down.

carrieonlaughing · 18/05/2012 20:51

If he has thrush he will be sore and might not be able to dtd.tbh I know I wouldn't want to either lol its just bad timing isn't it

raspberrytipple · 18/05/2012 21:03

He was ok for it on Wednesday when he had thrush Angry. I still think he is being a princess about it all, just needs to man up and get it in there lol Grin I know I'm being harsh, I was just so excited this morning when that little egg turned up on CBFM and then he said he couldn't, I just felt completely crushed and he could tell and got angry and we had a big argument. I don't have any perspective at the moment but to be honest, I don't know why I would, three years in next month without not even a sniff of a BFP, I think I've just hit rock bottom now and having had the lap and dye I've pinned all my hopes on that so to miss the first month feels like I've been kicked in the guts. Anyway, I got the first peak this morning and he said we might be able to give it a go tonight. I'm hoping that might not be too late but to be honest I've still not worked out this ovulation malarky! Sometimes I just wonder whether we've always done it just at the wrong time for three years Hmm

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 18/05/2012 21:21

Do you tell him when you're ovulating? I've stopped telling DH, it creates too much pressure. I mean he has some idea but I don't say 'go time' shy more. might sound a bit graphic and we don't really do it in the hut but can you primarily use your hands and then just get him to ahem complete the journey inside? He feels like he's bring treated, avoids too much contact thrush wise but still makes it likely sperm will meet egg?

raspberrytipple · 18/05/2012 21:36

I don't know, will see how it go goes later. I think this next few months I kind of need it to be both our responsibility rather than me just keeping an eye on it, I need the support. I'm not normally this delicate and I know I've given the same advice as you gave me to other people but I just feel a bit lonely at the moment and very sensitive.

We did it Wednesday morning so I suppose I just have to hope that they can hang around another day :/

carrieonlaughing · 18/05/2012 21:59

I don't normally say too much to OH other than next few days would be good. It has caused arguments when he's not in the mood. Now I am taking meds I have been quite clear I am not messing with my health to waste it and as its our only hope we can't afford to miss it.

raspberrytipple · 18/05/2012 22:13

Exactly carrieon! I don't see how they expect us to take on all the stress of it and protect them all the way, it just can't be done. Anyway, I'm off to bed in a bit, hopefully I'll feel a bit more normal tomorrow!

raspberrytipple · 19/05/2012 07:38

No BD, guess that's the month gone now. Off for a hen do in an hr and I really, really don't feel like going. :(

carrieonlaughing · 19/05/2012 08:43

Aww I know it seems like a big deal but like you say its been nearly three years so one month isn't going to make that much difference. I'm not feeling sorry for him but let's face it we can dtd when not in the mood but for a guy they can have technical issues that mean its impossible and pressure won't help. Go enjoy your weekend its done and you can't turn back time. Sending a hug

raspberrytipple · 19/05/2012 16:35

That's true, I know I was being mean. Afternoon pimms has made me feel much better. Just home to power nap, change after pony trekking then off out for more drinks. At least I know I won't be pg for the hens wedding next month looking on the bright side :)

carrieonlaughing · 20/05/2012 17:52

Well we are ready and waiting for the right time. I have opks, charts, taken clomid and multivits, healthy eating and lost a few pounds. Really tried to concentrate on realxing and not stressing myself out so hopefully this will work.
Should ovulate the next few days, dtd this morning and have booked in tues, wed and thurs with break time Mon and Fri. Hardly romantic but we don't want to waste our last chance, fingers crossed for us

flixy102 · 20/05/2012 21:55

Get a pregnancy announcement today via text from a close friend.

I feel so awful but I can't even bring myself to congratulate her Sad Just feel sad that it's not me and obviously there will be lots of talk about it within our group of friends in the coming months and I'll have to look and act happy.

And I was having such a lovely day with plenty of things to look forward to in the coming weeks/months. Feel like she's spoilt my happiness which is just such a horrible thing to say about one of your best friends Sad

pinkapples · 21/05/2012 20:49

4 days and counting till the start of my ivf cycle very nervous and have started to think about what happens if it doesn't work

carrieonlaughing · 21/05/2012 20:50

Its a hard one flixy. Do all your friends know about your struggles?

flixy102 · 22/05/2012 18:05

No only me and DH know what's going on. I've got over it a bit now I think, had a lovely day out with DH today, it's our wedding anniversary this weekend and my birthday the week after so trying to focus on those positives atm.

HaveALittleFaithBaby · 22/05/2012 19:30

Glad to hear you're feeling a bit better flixy. It gets to us all at times.
Good luck pink. Try not to dwell on the negative 'what if it doesn't work'. Just think sticky thoughts!