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I never wanted this many children. I wanted babies.

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TrillianAstra · 18/02/2009 11:39

Another 'is it bad for the environment to have more than 2 chidren from the BBC website 'magazine' (which I quite like) but what really gets me is this quote:

"I never wanted this many children. I wanted babies. They got to a certain age and I wanted another. I love newborn babies"
says Emma who has 6 children aged 10 and under

Isn't this a bit like loving kittens and ending up with 20 cats because they don't stay as kittens for long?

And how would your children feel if you said you really only wanted babies (small, nonverbal beings) and that now they can talk and have personailties you're not so keen?

Or am I being a bit harsh here?

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gingerninja · 18/02/2009 13:05

I wonder if it's an accurate quote. I suspect not.

Personally I hated the early baby stage with DD but am about to go through it again because I know that it's a short phase in a life. I'm sure that makes me bad, in fact my MIL has said I'm horrible for not really liking babies. I don't hate babies, I just didn't enjoy having one. I found it very unrewarding and very hard work. I much prefer the two way communication I get (most of the time) with my toddler.

I don't think it's wrong to say you enjoy having babies but find the child bit overwhelming, it really does depend on where you find your strength as a parent. Doesn't mean you don't love your kids. Personally I'm not looking forward to DD becoming a teenager either and I don't think that makes me bad. Maybe I am.....

sockmonkey · 18/02/2009 13:25

My Mum once told me she liked having babies because she hated having periods. LOL. That would have made a better quote.

hippipotamiHasLostThreePounds · 18/02/2009 13:35

errr, guys, Emma Quinton in that article is a MNer.
I recognize her children from pictures on her profile.

NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 13:53

It doesn't matter if she is a mnetter - if she goes around implying that she keeps having babies because she likes them rather than the children they become then she can expect a certain reaction. Of course if she has been misquoted then i'm sure she will be along to correct us soon!

hippipotamiHasLostThreePounds · 18/02/2009 13:57

That is fair enough NL, I was not saying it mattered. I just wanted to let you know, that's all
And I agree, it was a daft comment of hers to make.

I was actually quite chuffed at recognising her, normally I don't know one MNer from another...

Meglet · 18/02/2009 13:58

I just read that on the BBC site! I love children, but you would have to supply me with very hard drugs / alcohol & chocolate to get me to enjoy the newborn stage.

MaryAnnSingleton · 18/02/2009 14:00

you know me !!

lockets · 18/02/2009 14:01

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hippipotamiHasLostThreePounds · 18/02/2009 14:02

yup, I know you

NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 14:05

hippoetc - you were quite right to point it out of course - and kudos to you for your stalking spotting skills!

moondog · 18/02/2009 14:07

What a stupid selfish woman that Quinton is.

Lulumama · 18/02/2009 14:10

i imagine it was a misquote or a quote taken out of context as it is such a small paragraph in the article as a whole

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Upwind · 18/02/2009 14:13

I know a woman in real life who is like this - it makes me for her DC.

NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 14:19

errrr ladies - don't think it's a great idea to be associating her mnet name with her RL name. I have therefore reported those posts - sorry and all that - but even if she hasn't been misquoted she is still entitled to the thin veil of secrecy Met can offer!

lockets · 18/02/2009 14:22

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NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 14:28

Outing yourself - which we all do to some extent every time we post - is different from somebody else telling the www who you are!

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TrillianAstra · 18/02/2009 14:28

I didn't mean to out anyone!

(and actually from these posts I still don't know who she is anyway)

Given the number of MNers compared to the number of mothers in the UK I thought I was okay to quote an article and say 'look at that' without it being very likely that anyone would get outed.

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NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 14:34

Trillain - you haven't outed anybody imo! There's a difference between saying - look at x or x is a mumsnetter and saying x is the mnetter called y!

lockets · 18/02/2009 14:35

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hippipotamiHasLostThreePounds · 18/02/2009 14:35

oops, should I not have said anything? [fret]

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TrillianAstra · 18/02/2009 14:38

I actually said 'look at x who may or may not be a mumsnetter I have no idea' so I think I'm okay

Don't worry hippipotami, I understand that you wanted to tell people not to say anything that they wouldn't want to lady in question to see. It's an open forum so she could maybe have seen even if not a MNer.

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NorthernLurker · 18/02/2009 14:40

hippipotami - I don't think there was anything wrong with your posting - you were trying to avoid upset for the poster in question.

Lulumama · 18/02/2009 14:41

so orry. i think you are right

i was not doing so in a malicious way, but i think you are right, it is up to the MNer in question to say if she wants to.

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