Madeleine McCann info shown before Shrek, anyone else cross about this?

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I was. I have chosen NOT to tell my nearly 4yo about this. I haven't discussed it in detail with 9yo ds either I CHOOSE not to put the news on in our house. I really resent this being shoved at my children before a U cert movie. Completely inappropriate imo.

WHYDOES SHE HAVE TO
WHY DO WE HAEV TO TELL OUR KDIS ABOTU A TERIBLE THING WE DONT WANT HTEM TO

Implanting fear in their minds? Implanting it?

I give up.. I must be a crap mother clearly, but my kids seem pretty well balanced regardless.

my 5YO has been scared by it. Yes -- honestly.
Why is this so unlikely?
It was her third time in the cinema. She was hoovering the experience up.

shiney, with it being shown before the film there isnt time to explain it to your child. they will sit there for 2 hours-ish (how long is shrek?) worrying about it. and scaring themselves.

Shiny - in fact yes. We avoid shoving the bad news down dc throat at every opportunity. It gives a view of the world as a frightening and terrible place. We explain things as they come up, and try to give a balanced view.
Obsession with bad news just makes it all seem more likely.
The chance of getting kidnapped is virtually zero, compared say to getting knocked down by a car on a zebra crossing.

yes why should I have to?

it is, so far, an extremely rare event

stranger danger has nothing to with madeleienc mccanns disappaernce

it was a completely random and individual event

what is the point of telling them about it if they dont have to know?

'well darling it is so that you can remind mummy not to leave you on your own in a hotel room'?

"Just imagine if it was happening to your family"

Shiny I agree totally. I havent seen the advert so perhaps it was like the over emotive charity ones they show on Sky but I guess her parents just want to feel they have done everything they can. If it makes my children have a couple of restless nights when I have to give them reassurance and a cuddle then so be it, I am just glad I am not in her parents position.

Sigh. You don't have to tell them. But even without Shrek, you can't vet what other people will say at all times of every day.

Anyway, am clearly talking shit so will go off and do something more productive and try to tell myself I am NOT a bad mother!

How the &&&& will showing this ad at a children's film in the UK make the slightest bit of difference?? If you think it will then you are seriously deluded and living in a fantasy world.

"Shoving the news down their throat". Ok so now I can see that what I am saying it being taken totally out of context and at the exaggerated end of the sprectrum, so there's little point in my continuing to try to explain what I mean anyway.

i think we have all imagined it happening to our own family

I went into dd2s bedroom a couple of days after and she wasnt there. I nearly collapsed. (she was hiding under bed )

we all empathise but these ads are driving a wedge between parenst and the mccanns

Do you know what? I don't read a paper, I don't watch the news, I've not seen this Shrek thing yet but I still have the image of Madeleine burned into my mind. I know what she looked like, I know what her eye looked like.

Shiny... I don't object to the ad being shown in general. And I totally understand the family's need to do everything they can think of to keep Madeleine in the public gaze, as it were. I only object to it being shown before a U-certificate film with lots of children of, say, 3-5 present. That's the age where I think that how you explain what has happened is really delicate. (I heard, incidentally, someone from Newsround on R4 a while ago talking about how much thought they put into reporting the case so as not to cause unnecessary upset to children watching - stressing that this happened outside the UK and that such incidents are very rare, and so on. This ad is the opposite of that, it is emotive and sensationalist. I don't blame the family for making it emotive. That's understandable. But it's not appropriate - IMHO - in the specific context of a U-classified film.)

me too soupy (no newspapers here either - bloody rags )

SoupDragon, do you not think that a lot of other people might disagree with you or else the ad would not be being shown? And on that basis, it's possible that your opinion is not the only "right" one.

I am listening Speccy. I acknowledge that the cinema is not the ideal place for a chat with your child, but to be honest, if it had been my DD, she would have said "oh that's Madeliene.." because she knew already.

The campaign is about fundraising now.
Maybe the McCanns' campaign manager believes that parents taking children to a U cert will feel the McCanns' pain more acutely and so will donate accordingly.

Is showing this ad before Shrek actually a decision made by the McCanns?? I doubt it.

Shiny - yes quite, if we choose to go see Shrek for fun we don't want to see this.
You have one opinion, others have another. We don't think you are talking shit or suggest you are being a bad mother, just have a different view of the matter.
We are just stating our opinions.
Not meaning to accuse or offend.

No Shiny I don't. Do you not think that a lot of people think it pointless and inappropriate to show it before a child's film in the UK?

Exactly SD. The McCann's may (or may not)have suggested it but many others would have been involved in the decision to actually screen it.

The McCanns need the keep the profile high for the financial reasons as well as people keep saying.

I bet its the same ad agency that do the nspcc ads

Personally we take out dcs to the cinema for a treat - you go to see a film like Shrek to laugh etc.
Now I'm not saying that I am trying to avoid the MMc thing but I resent being told that I am not empathic to not think it was appropriate at a U film, every time we hear something on the news even my 13yr old wells up with tears.
I don't want to be made to cry and feel sad just before a comedy. Sorry if that makes me heartless but there is nothing any of us can do while sitting in the cinema and I don't want to have to start watching a film in tears.