When it comes to future implications, my concern is around other parents who are facing making end of life care decisions for their children and how this case has impacted on them. I am a member of a parent support group for children with disabilities and this has come up a few times. One poor mum is terrified that when it becomes impossible to treat her child any further, she will end up fighting with the doctors and it will be all over the press. In these discussions, many others weigh in about how doctors always get it wrong and their clinical team are playing god, telling them their child will never do xyz and yet here they are ten years later.
In my experience it often comes down to poor communication rather than godlike arrogance. We were told there might be many things our daughter might not be able to do, and she has done them all. Were the doctors wrong in writing her off? No, because they didn't write her off. They suggested to us what the worst case outcome could be. We listened carefully and they also said that it was difficult to predict as every case was different. I think, sometimes, people hear the worst case scenario and stop listening. And sometimes medical teams forget that the medical jargon and worst case scenarios aren't appropriate for all families.
I would like there to be a kind of "medical advocate". Someone who isn't a doctor but understands the medicine, someone who I can work with the parents to bridge that gap. Who isn't part of the hospital staff, but could be provided by the local authority, someone independent who can guide parents through it.
I would also love it if parents who had been through this with GOSH would come forward to share their story about how this hospital in particular is not failing patients and parents. These decisions are made every day and in the vast majority of cases, the whole team around the child come to agree on the next steps. Facing this decision is the worst thing in the world, the last thing parents need is to be afraid they will be railroaded by the doctors or forced by the court to relinquish their parental rights.