Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
News
Original poster

Woman, 9 months pg, told to get off bus because her 2 year old was crying...

94 replies

ELF1981 · 06/03/2007 13:20

I read the article in an open mouthed "oh my Gawd, really" kind of way but what has really shocked me are the readers comments against the article (I know it's in The Sun, but still)
People were suggesting that the woman should have smacked her child, that passengers should not be submitted to crying children and have no right to be on the bus, and that her having to walk a mile+ home was a lesson well taught.

Seriously? Who comments stuff like this?!

On the bus routes here, a crying child is going to be less of a distraction to teenagers swearing and chucking stuff around or a couple having a very public dispute.

Very now. That'll teach me to read the Sun online.

OP posts:
maisym · 13/03/2007 08:26

terrible for the mum.

When I was preg I was never offered a seat except by old ladies - never took their offer - & nobody else offered their seat. Difficult standing in rush hour in a crowded train plus had a huge preg bump.

paulaplumpbottom · 13/03/2007 08:45

Its awful that people act this way. Where is the decency?

trying2bgood · 13/03/2007 14:19

I think this is an example of how bus staff are too scared to throw off badly behaved teenagers and adults so instead take their anger out on more vulnerable passengers! Shame on the bus driver and fellow passengers who allowed it to happen.

whywhywhy · 13/03/2007 14:37

DEFINITELY, tryingtobegood.

Are you in London? the number of times I have sat in front of some blank eyed teen blaring out godawful r&b from his mini ghetto blaster. Or 2 or 3 of them howling with laughter as they blast us all with their polyphonic mobile ringtones.

I've never heard a single person raise a voice against them or known any driver to comment, ever.

Mind you have also never seen any poor pregnant women with kids being thrown off the bus either- but they do get the patronising comments and stares from other passengers (usually older people in my experience).

whywhywhy · 13/03/2007 14:38

i don't comment either, of course, though I sometimes glare.
I'm afraid of being the one who gets knifed

recoveringmum · 13/03/2007 14:41

i was 9 months pregnant and holding my 16 month old in my arms and pushin the buggy full of groceries.

it was 6 pm in a dodgy area and very dark out and also drizzly.

the bus came and i got on. i had only 1pound and 45 pence. couldnt find that extra 5 pence. looked and looked in my bag. meanwhile dd1 was crying.

the driver asked me to get off. i nearly cried. i looked at the bus passengers and asked - can anyone lend me 5p?

dead stares.

got off the bus. the next one came 24 minutes later.

Filthymindedvixen · 13/03/2007 14:43

An old woman screamed 'SHUT YOUR BLOODY CHILD UP' at us when ds was a toddler on a bus. He was doing that stream if conciousness running commentary thing they do''oh look a doggy. black doggy. Bus! Lookit flowers blah blah.''
Annoying? possibly. Worthy of verbally abusing us?......

KathyMCMLXXII · 13/03/2007 14:45

5p! 5 fking p!
Bstards!!!

yellowrose · 13/03/2007 16:34

This is such a depressing thread.

maisym · 13/03/2007 20:40

gosh rm & vixen how terrible that in daily people can be so horrid.

Frizbe · 13/03/2007 20:54

mmm makes you wonder why nearly 60% of people in this country are considering emigrating......
Flame give her a big hug from us lot won't you, disgusting behavour from the bus driver. Hope he's had a good slap on the wrist from his bosses.

wheresthevalium · 13/03/2007 21:10

Ha, I love buses in big cities.

Similar to recoveringmums story. 15 month old DD1 in one arm (barely walking at that stage) 1 week old DD2 in the other. Lifted DD1 onto bus, got off to grab double buggy. Asked driver if he could wait until I had sat down to dig my pass out of my bag, he said no. Trying to get buggy into storage bit, sit DD1 down on a seat, keep hold of DD2 whilst searching for bus pass.

Despite frantic begging looks not one person offered to help, and one kind soul shouted 'FFS can you get a move on, I'm late'

Nice

maisym · 13/03/2007 21:11

terrible as well valium - why no ones helps I just don't understand

Original poster
ELF1981 · 14/03/2007 08:09

One day I was on the bus and a girl was getting off at one of the stops. She had a buggy, a load of shopping and was holing her baby, there was no way she could get off the bus and sort herself out without a struggle. I helped her with the pram and helped her get off teh bus. She was very grateful. I had a lovely warm feeling all day.
I cant say anybody has helped me in that way though.

OP posts:
amyjade · 14/03/2007 10:34

I got on the bus with Dd2(16 months) and was 8 months pregnant i asked an old lady nicely if i could park my pushchair where she was sitting as it was ment for disabled people or mothers with pushchairs. She refused to move as she had a stick? so i was left standing in the middle of the bus while everyone around me (all old women) commented on how i shouldn't be on the bus with that big wheelbarrow(phil and teds) and how i should walk as that's what they used to do in their day. As i got off the bus i accidently brushed past a lady's leg(hardly touched her) at this point she made a big scene and the whole bus ganged up on me. I apologised but was again told i shouldn't be on the bloody bus anyway.
I hate using buses and as soon as i can drive the better.

justbeme · 14/03/2007 10:45

im surprised you didnt burst into tears amyjade - I know I would have done - Horrible old dears - I think when you get old you either get very bitter or very sweet!!

Caligula · 14/03/2007 10:48

But Ken Livingstone says we've got to use the buses.

Then we're told we shouldn't be on the bus anyway.

It makes me incandescent with rage.

speedymama · 14/03/2007 10:59

These same old people are also the ones who bemoan the youth of today, how people don't have any manners etc.

One of these old dears screamed at my DTS, who were 2yo10mo at the time, to "bloody shut up" when we were in the supermarket. Their crime was to be sitting in the pram and laughing at each other.

I think a lot of these old people are just full of hate and spite.

HappyDaddy · 14/03/2007 17:11

The Sun is a fucking danger to the public. It just levels itself with the lowest common denominator in society. I hate it with a passion.

DrDaddy · 14/03/2007 17:48

HD - Yes, that and anything published by Murdoch. I won't allow that muck in my house.

yellowrose · 14/03/2007 18:11

Oh good - all Sun & Murdoch haters - I am with you 100%

yellowrose · 14/03/2007 18:16

Last time I got on the bus in London it cost me 2 quid because my Oystercard had run out and I had forgotten to charge it. TWO QUID TO GO TWO STOPS because ds and I were tired. I thought only black cab fares were day light robbery.

I have been told I couldn't get on with a push cahir even though there has only been one other mum with a pushchair on board and hardly any one else on, so loads of space.

PUBLIC transport ? Right !

DrDaddy · 14/03/2007 20:17

yellowrose - my FIL insists on buying the Sunday Times when they come to stay. It tends to find itself on the fire and is replaced by the Observer....
(Not under my roof etc. Grrrrr. I'm such a tyrant)

KaySamuels · 14/03/2007 20:44

Was so appalled at this story, and very interested in harpsichordcarrier and OrmIrian's replies as these are the same as my experience's since becoming a mum. I live in Hull (also named one of worst cities but where people do speak to each other, coo at kids on buses, help with buggies, hand out silver and sweets to kids and generally give a knack about the people they share their city with). Many people look down on cities like Hull but reading this thread has really made me value where I live. Really feel for some of you, would burst into tears if some of these had happened to me and I'm a fairly feisty character!

ernest · 14/03/2007 21:59

With me it's the opposite. My ds3 is wonderful, but totally evil sometimes Many times iI go shopping he will have a paddy/meltdown. I'm fuming à la Sun reader, when all the passers by stop, coo over him, 'oh, are you tired/hungry, poor little thing' etc etc.Then i feel bad for being such a grumpy arse with him. Makes me feel better when they actuallly 'connect' with him and he gives the the full evil treatment. Then they hurry off (presumably grasping garlic and crucifixes) He looks so angelic too