Woman, 9 months pg, told to get off bus because her 2 year old was crying...

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I read the article in an open mouthed "oh my Gawd, really" kind of way but what has really shocked me are the readers comments against the article (I know it's in The Sun, but still)
People were suggesting that the woman should have smacked her child, that passengers should not be submitted to crying children and have no right to be on the bus, and that her having to walk a mile+ home was a lesson well taught.

Seriously? Who comments stuff like this?!

On the bus routes here, a crying child is going to be less of a distraction to teenagers swearing and chucking stuff around or a couple having a very public dispute.

Very now. That'll teach me to read the Sun online.

link please so we can all be mad together?

There's a piece about it here - not the Sun link though. Apparently the bus company have apologised to her ... for which I'm sure she's eternally grateful

That's awefull, Can't wait to read the comments. My friend was once asked to leave a restaurant because her 3 month old baby was crying.

sun article

sorry link

Unreal
I recall when ds was 6 mths old and was screaming the bus down - he was tired and hungry, I wanted to wait til we got home to feed him (was breastfeeding) as I knew he would sleep.

But got looks from folks so popped him on and then got a load of abuse
So I took him off again and he screamed in a blood curdling way.

I was so pissed off, I should have just ignored them, amazing a screaming baby is less upsetting than a quiet discreeetly b/f one

I'm really and annoyed that people feel they can comment like they have. Like we're going back to a world of 'children should be seen and never heard'

I would be relieved if a woman was happy to BF her baby to quieten it on a bus. Feckin' gobsh'tes telling you off. I've b/f on buses and wouldn't be shy about giving people an earful if they had somehting to say about it. We don't all have a high horse though, I realise that.

If a driver tried to put me off a bus for a crying child I would have told him he could either wait til hte child calmed down, or call the police to eject me.

i have been convinced of this 'seen and not heard' thing lately.
if my kids make a noise in the post office i get filthy looks.
dh and i were in walmart at the weekend with the kids. ds1 grabbed a creme egg from the strategically placed shelf at the checkout and started unwrapping it to eat it, he is 20m, so we briskly took it off him so he cried.
the bloke in front of us spun round and shot us a disgusted look and actually held his glare for a good 20 seconds.
i asked him what he expected me to do about my sons perfectly normal almost 2 yera old behaviour?
he said nothing.
i go out with my pockets laden with mini baby bels and the like to whip out and try to distrct him withif needs be.
i am the sort of person who will mouth off if provoked so try to stop myself by being prepared.
the best has got to be on the bus when the child cries and an old dear asks you if you know your baby is crying?

It's not just the anti-child views in some of the Sun comments that freak me out, it's the misogyny inherent in the suggestions that a pregnant woman shouldn't be out shopping! FFS!!!!

And all those self-righteous comments about how the driver had to consider the safety of all the passengers.... At least there are a lot of others saying he shouldn't be a bus driver if he is so easily distracted.

agree with that.
if he worked in our town he wouldbe putting up with crappy music blaring out as soon as the bus pulls away, despite 'no loud music' stickers everywhere.

TBH the readers comments (esp the inherent misogyny) don't suprise me one bit. Maybe I am a raging snob but this is the Sun we're talking about. I dare say if the article was printed in the Guardian or the Torygraph the comments would be different.

Piffle I am completely shocked that you got abuse for bfing on a bus. Unbelievable.

I have a feeling that that particular bus driver could be a serious danger to the public being so easily distracted . Once they had discovered his frailty the passengers should have ejected him from the bus and driven it themselves. Can only hope that he never has to drive a school bus or a late-night bus with rowdy drunks.

A pregnant woman in such an easy target compared with the rowdy drunks.... wonder if he'd be quite as conscientious about safety with them.

you got abuse for bfeeding a 6 month old on a bus piffle? I really wonder how our society got to this point. So bloody depressing.

God hate society sometimes! And the comment about it not being common sense to be out shopping at 9 months! What is she supposed to do lock her 2 year old indoors and go into confinement?
I got so annoyed on the train at the weekend, people barging on and crushing down the aisles as I'm attempting to get on with the pushchair and make my way to my reserved seat with a small baby. Grrr

Piffle- Some people can be so anal about b/f in public can't they! My sister is the only person to have made negative comments to me about it, but then she thinks that people with children are what is wrong with the world. We have a great relationship

this is so stupid, i cant believe those comments, god help anyone if they tried to get me off a bus to walk coz my 2yr old was tantruming at 9 month pg!!!

dd did once have a huge tantrum on a bus because i wouldnt let her get out and an old dear 'kindly' butted in that maybe i should let her have what she wants to stop her shouting....i then very quickly informed her that if i gave into this she would expect it with everything and eventually would become one of britains yob culture (ok a bit dramatic) but it shut the old git up!

ROFL Omrian...am off to read the article...

Have to say, I dont know where you guys live, but, down our way, a baby/toddler having a tantrum usually invokes a great deal of kindness from strangers who take time out of whatever they are doing to try and pacify/amuse/entertain the screamer.

Same here VVVQV. When dd has been screaming on the bus and then gone quiet I've often looked round to see some elderly man in a suit pulling funny faces at her And the old ladies round here make sympathetic comments like 'Don't worry, it gets better'.

Crikey! There are some really offensive comments on that site

Poor lady. I don't have a car so I'm always on the bus, often with a crying baby, and mostly little old ladies and gentlemen rally round and make faces at ds and tell me about their children. And I've bf on the bus a zillion times, and had some compliments for it. If there have been any disapproving looks, I've never noticed them.

Oh FFS. are we all so defensive about our own personal space/bubble that we can't cope with the reality of someone else having a life in the same realm as you?

Shocked at the attitude of the driver (actually no I'm not some drivers are tin pot Hitlers) and shocked that no one jumped to her defence.

Actually, having read the article. He should be severly dealt with by his managers. It's just not on

yep, you should all move to the town where I live, which is Officially in the Top Ten of Crap Towns and all that blablabl. yet I never get any tutting, everyone holds doors open for prams, gives sweets to dd1 (whether we want them or not ) and gurgles over the baby and smiles sympathetically mid tantrum.

Snap harpsichordcarrier. Seriously crap town apparently (I beleive there's a website saying as much) where people do crap things like smile at you, say goodmorning, where old people stop mothers of newborns that they know even vaguely and give them 'silver and gold' (50p and a £1 coin usually) and most people chat in shops. How crap is that .

I can't imagine having trouble with a tantrumming toddler round here - lots of sympathetic loooks and some possibly useless attempts to distract maybe. Alway bf in public (10 years all in all) and never heard a comment. Maybe I'm just thick-skinned.