louise you don't even need to qualify that, we should all be able to debate this. No-one has said that what happened wasn't horrific and that poor, poor Reeva must have been terrified. I will say again though, part of the reason I hope it was as OP says is that I couldn't bear to think of that poor girl being pursued by the man she loved and knowing that he, if even for an instant, wanted to kill her. It's fucking awful.
Acknowledging that doesn't mean we can't be objective when looking at this. Andrew Harding, the BBC correspondent said it wasn't a who dunnit, but a "whydunnit".
And we are all mature enough to debate that, challenge viewpoints, think about things from different angles, etc.
So, in a long winded way I'm saying please continue with your comments, and you really don't need to be apologetic for having an open mind [smile}
ukgirl never used this term, but always wanted to ODFOD