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Mumsnet, will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? And call upon the FA to kick sexism out of football?

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BasilFoulEggs · 29/04/2012 23:13

Dear Mumsnet
As you are no doubt aware, there has been the most extraordinary hate campaign waged this week by some football fans, against a rape victim in the wake of the Ched Evans Guilty Verdict.

The jist of the hatespeak, has been that a drunk woman has no right to expect the basic human right of not having her body penetrated without her active participation in that sexual act, or even her passive consent. Presumably because men (or at least footballers and their friends) have the right to penetrate women who are incapable of consent. And that if a man rapes you, it is because you are a slut, a slag and all the other hate-speak words used to de-humanise women and make it easier for people not to empathise with us when we are abused.

This week has seen the really ugly spectacle, of a bunch of men asserting their right to rape women, handmaidens supporting that right and both of them sending out a clear warning to all other rape victims, to know what to expect if they dare to pursue justice if they are raped.

If there had been a similar outpouring of hatred against any other historically oppressed group, the rest of the media would have been tearing their hair out analysing why some men hated this group so much, where the hatred came from, why it existed, what could be done about it; but ironically apart from the Daily Fail, there has been very little comment in response to the Twitter hate-campaign. If Twitter had buzzed with indignation at the jailing of the man who posted hate-speak about Fabrice Muamba, I?ve no doubt that the FA would have tracked down the posters and banned them from football matches. Because they?re busy kicking racism out of football. Sexism, though, is fine. They can give a bloody award to a convicted rapist, while their supporters conduct what must be a terrifying hate campaign against his teenage victim? right now, football fans don?t look all that much better than the Taliban, do they?

Mumsnet, will you use the voice you have against this horrible hate campaign? Will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? Will you ask the FA to state publicly, that they too, believe her and that in future, they will work as hard to kick sexism out of football, as they do to kick racism out?

Thank You.

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differentnameforthis · 30/04/2012 09:32

I believe her

MousyMouse · 30/04/2012 09:33

Football League One (often referred to as League One for short or Npower League 1 for sponsorship reasons) is the second-highest division of The Football League and third-highest division overall in the English football league system.

it seems NPower is the sponser of the league...

JuliaScurr · 30/04/2012 09:35

I believe her

Can we let her know 200 people signed this overnight?

cardamomginger · 30/04/2012 09:36

I believe her and admire her for having the strength to report it and see it through to a conviction.

Kveta · 30/04/2012 09:36

I believe her.

WhippingGirl · 30/04/2012 09:36

i believe her too.

WandaDoff · 30/04/2012 09:39

I believe her.

Pan · 30/04/2012 09:40

I don't think the PFA has a sponsor. It is the organisation representing footballers across the 4 league divisions and beyond, and is financed by subs, paid by members.
NPower have nothing to do with the PFA choices.

fwiw, I looked up the Sheff Uts website. They appear a bit mixed. They have removed his name from the 'player profile' bit, but have allowed Evans' barristers to make a statement.

Smellslikecatspee · 30/04/2012 09:41

I Believe her.

Please all have a look at this too www.change.org/petitions/professional-footballers-association-drop-ched-evans-from-the-league-one-team-of-the-year-honours-list

MmeLindor. · 30/04/2012 09:43

Well, if Npower is the sponsor of the league - can we go for them?

mamalovesmojitos · 30/04/2012 09:45

I believe you. It wasn't your fault. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I will do anything I can to help.

wishupon · 30/04/2012 09:47

I believe her, and am sickened at the amount of men and (more so) women that don't.

It shouldn't take that much common sense or intelligence to realise that just because you (they) wouldn't get stinking drunk and go back to a hotel room doesn't make it wrong to do so, and absolutely doesn't excuse anything that happens from then on. Staying in at night could lower your chance of being mugged but that doesn't mean going out at night excuses someone mugging you! Why is this seen as so different to some people?

NigellaLawless · 30/04/2012 09:48

I believe her

JellyBellies · 30/04/2012 09:48

I believe her.

PinkPussyCat · 30/04/2012 09:48

I believe her

AKissIsNotAContract · 30/04/2012 09:48

I believe you and admire your bravery. By reporting it, you did something I didn't have the strength to do when I was raped.

SucksToBeMe · 30/04/2012 09:49

I'm going to make my son read that letter when he gets to 16. Too many men i encounter would she 'she had it coming/asked for it etc'

100% BELIEVE HER.

neepsntatties · 30/04/2012 09:49

I hope somehow she sees this thread.

albertswearengen · 30/04/2012 09:50

I believe her.

TalHotBlond · 30/04/2012 09:50

We believe you.

MousyMouse · 30/04/2012 09:50

I especially 'like' the their statement: 'It would have drawn more attention to it had we pulled him'
... unbelievable...

MakeMineACafPow · 30/04/2012 09:51

I believe her.

cornsyilk · 30/04/2012 09:51

I believe her.

JustineMumsnet · 30/04/2012 09:52

Hi all, great to see all the support coming in on this thread. We'll have a quick chat with the End Violence Against Women people as they've been very active on this and see how we can best lend support. Will get back to you soonest.

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