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Mumsnet, will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? And call upon the FA to kick sexism out of football?

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BasilFoulEggs · 29/04/2012 23:13

Dear Mumsnet
As you are no doubt aware, there has been the most extraordinary hate campaign waged this week by some football fans, against a rape victim in the wake of the Ched Evans Guilty Verdict.

The jist of the hatespeak, has been that a drunk woman has no right to expect the basic human right of not having her body penetrated without her active participation in that sexual act, or even her passive consent. Presumably because men (or at least footballers and their friends) have the right to penetrate women who are incapable of consent. And that if a man rapes you, it is because you are a slut, a slag and all the other hate-speak words used to de-humanise women and make it easier for people not to empathise with us when we are abused.

This week has seen the really ugly spectacle, of a bunch of men asserting their right to rape women, handmaidens supporting that right and both of them sending out a clear warning to all other rape victims, to know what to expect if they dare to pursue justice if they are raped.

If there had been a similar outpouring of hatred against any other historically oppressed group, the rest of the media would have been tearing their hair out analysing why some men hated this group so much, where the hatred came from, why it existed, what could be done about it; but ironically apart from the Daily Fail, there has been very little comment in response to the Twitter hate-campaign. If Twitter had buzzed with indignation at the jailing of the man who posted hate-speak about Fabrice Muamba, I?ve no doubt that the FA would have tracked down the posters and banned them from football matches. Because they?re busy kicking racism out of football. Sexism, though, is fine. They can give a bloody award to a convicted rapist, while their supporters conduct what must be a terrifying hate campaign against his teenage victim? right now, football fans don?t look all that much better than the Taliban, do they?

Mumsnet, will you use the voice you have against this horrible hate campaign? Will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? Will you ask the FA to state publicly, that they too, believe her and that in future, they will work as hard to kick sexism out of football, as they do to kick racism out?

Thank You.

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Prolesworth · 30/04/2012 09:53

I believe her. Of course I believe her.

Thanks for posting this, Basil

WilsonFrickett · 30/04/2012 09:53

I believe her.

I also would like to say how pleased I am that this case was prosecuted in the first place, because clearly the police, CPS, judge and jury believed her too, and too often that's not how it goes, as we all know from some of the stories MNers have shared in the past. Perhaps 'we believe you' is starting to make a real difference to prosecution practice. I hope so. High profile prosecutions will hopefully make a difference and I salute the woman's courage for going through with it.

We believe you

FromGirders · 30/04/2012 09:54

I believe her.

MakeMineACafPow · 30/04/2012 09:57

the Facebook page that Tee linked earlier here is currently allowing comments without liking the page.

Just saying.

mcfee · 30/04/2012 09:57

I believe you x

MmeLindor. · 30/04/2012 09:57

Am tweeting with the #Ibelieveyou hashtag, if anyone else is on Twitter.

moresleepsoonplease · 30/04/2012 09:58

I believe her

Pan · 30/04/2012 09:58

MmeL - for what exactly. They sponsor the League infrastructure. No authority or influence over Evans, PFA or SUFC

have signed the petition for the PFA to reconsider. totally wrong message.

banjaxedfilly · 30/04/2012 09:58

I believe her.

UnnamedFemaleProtagonist · 30/04/2012 09:59

I believe you, love. I wish you lots of strength to continue in the amazingly brave way that you have done so far x

MyNameIsInigoMontoya · 30/04/2012 10:00

I believe her.

Noticed this morning one of the top stories on BBC website is about the appointment of the new England manager. I wonder if there is a way to link that in? Maybe ask Hodgson's views on this and on attitudes in the football world/the behaviour he would expect from the England team?

Molivan · 30/04/2012 10:01

I believe her

neepsntatties · 30/04/2012 10:01

That Facebook page made me feel sick.

yakbutter · 30/04/2012 10:01

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AnneOfCleavers · 30/04/2012 10:02

I believe her.

I'm so angry at some of the comments I've read. It's beyond disgusting that she is being treated in this way.

MmeLindor. · 30/04/2012 10:02

Pan
If they sponsor the League then of course they have influence - indirectly.

Do you think they would ignore thousands of irate MNetters?

BIWIWhoMustBeObeyed · 30/04/2012 10:02

@GabyHinsliff has also tweeted about it - making a news story of it

Chaotica · 30/04/2012 10:03

I believe her.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 30/04/2012 10:04

I believe her.

Thanks for starting this Basil and thanks MNHQ too.

jonamum · 30/04/2012 10:04

I believe her

InAnyOtherSoil · 30/04/2012 10:05

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scratchviolet · 30/04/2012 10:05

I believe her

ToryLovell · 30/04/2012 10:06

I believe her.

Thanks Basil for a great post and thanks Justine for linking in with EVAW

Pan · 30/04/2012 10:06

No, they don't, not re Evans. The PFA are entirely autonomous, paid by subs. no link to NPower.

DowagersHump · 30/04/2012 10:07

I believe you and am so sorry that your horrific experience is being trivialised by the media.

Thanks Basil

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