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Mumsnet, will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? And call upon the FA to kick sexism out of football?

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BasilFoulEggs · 29/04/2012 23:13

Dear Mumsnet
As you are no doubt aware, there has been the most extraordinary hate campaign waged this week by some football fans, against a rape victim in the wake of the Ched Evans Guilty Verdict.

The jist of the hatespeak, has been that a drunk woman has no right to expect the basic human right of not having her body penetrated without her active participation in that sexual act, or even her passive consent. Presumably because men (or at least footballers and their friends) have the right to penetrate women who are incapable of consent. And that if a man rapes you, it is because you are a slut, a slag and all the other hate-speak words used to de-humanise women and make it easier for people not to empathise with us when we are abused.

This week has seen the really ugly spectacle, of a bunch of men asserting their right to rape women, handmaidens supporting that right and both of them sending out a clear warning to all other rape victims, to know what to expect if they dare to pursue justice if they are raped.

If there had been a similar outpouring of hatred against any other historically oppressed group, the rest of the media would have been tearing their hair out analysing why some men hated this group so much, where the hatred came from, why it existed, what could be done about it; but ironically apart from the Daily Fail, there has been very little comment in response to the Twitter hate-campaign. If Twitter had buzzed with indignation at the jailing of the man who posted hate-speak about Fabrice Muamba, I?ve no doubt that the FA would have tracked down the posters and banned them from football matches. Because they?re busy kicking racism out of football. Sexism, though, is fine. They can give a bloody award to a convicted rapist, while their supporters conduct what must be a terrifying hate campaign against his teenage victim? right now, football fans don?t look all that much better than the Taliban, do they?

Mumsnet, will you use the voice you have against this horrible hate campaign? Will you tell the woman that Ched Evans raped, that We Believe Her? Will you ask the FA to state publicly, that they too, believe her and that in future, they will work as hard to kick sexism out of football, as they do to kick racism out?

Thank You.

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sophonthemove · 30/04/2012 10:30

Me too. And you can sign this petition to ask the Professional Footballers Association to take him off their honours list. chn.ge/Kkc2JV
it was started by a secondary school teacher who felt it send out the wrong message to his pupils.

Voidka · 30/04/2012 10:30

The judging panel comprises Sky Sports Football League expert Peter Beagrie, Football League Head of Communications John Nagle, BBC Sport's Mark Clemmit and npower Head of Sponsorship Emma Collins.

Voidka · 30/04/2012 10:31

Those are the people responsible for giving Evans his POTM award.

Longtalljosie · 30/04/2012 10:32

I believe you sweetheart. I am so sorry this has happened to you. Have strength x

Lilithmoon · 30/04/2012 10:32

I believe her.

RabidAnchovy · 30/04/2012 10:32

Well said OP. Also a lot of the hate has come from other women Sad

I BELIEVE HER

tiredemma · 30/04/2012 10:33

where is the fb page?

maxtrue · 30/04/2012 10:34

I believe her

Can someone please tell me the facebook page name?

I do not want my football mad son to grow up surrounded by such "role models"

FA sort this out!

Voidka · 30/04/2012 10:34

I agree that a lot of hate has come from other women. I honestly believe that is down to the WAG culture, and how some women feel that they are 'lucky' to be with a footballer. Its a shameful situation.

DorisIsWaiting · 30/04/2012 10:37

I believe her.

Voidka · 30/04/2012 10:37

There is a FB page called 'Securing an Immediate retrial for Ched Evans' - it has 4367 likes :(

ThisWeekonFancyPuffin · 30/04/2012 10:37

Which hashtag are we using? #ibelieveyou or#webelieveyou

NotSureICanCarryOn · 30/04/2012 10:39

I believe you too.

And tbh he has been found guilty. What else is there to say!?!

Voidka · 30/04/2012 10:39

Ibelieveher

MooBaaWoofCheep · 30/04/2012 10:40

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MmeLindor. · 30/04/2012 10:41

I am using #Ibelieveher - since that is what most people were posting here.

Lexilicious · 30/04/2012 10:43

I believe her.

ThisWeekonFancyPuffin · 30/04/2012 10:43

That's what I was using Mme but have seen 3 different ones #IBelieveHer #IBelieveYou and #WeBelieveYou

I think if we all agree to use the same one then there will be more power in numbers?

OracleInaCoracle · 30/04/2012 10:44

I believe her.

2shoes · 30/04/2012 10:45

I believe her.
and am disgusted at how she has been treated

tiredemma · 30/04/2012 10:45

Im astounded by some of the comments on that site.

Even women suggesting that just because she went back to his hotel room that she was 'fair game'.

what. the. fuck?????

WomanlyWoman · 30/04/2012 10:45

www.facebook.com/SecuringAnImmediateRetrailForChedEvans

I just posted - don't need to like

DamnDeDoubtance · 30/04/2012 10:48

Interesting article

WomanlyWoman · 30/04/2012 10:51

just got deleted - think they've got on top of it, still, here's another link to the Drop Ched petition: chn.ge/KpjJi3

Also, this page pretty despicable - have reported it: on.fb.me/Kry7KV

JuliaScurr · 30/04/2012 10:54

That fb page is distressing
I didn't post on it because I don't want to be traceable

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