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Child guru says nurseries harm small children

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flashingnose · 12/02/2006 10:15

oh dear

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Cristina7 · 12/02/2006 21:25

Kitty, what about children who go to boarding schools?

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:26

They're doomed to morph into spawns of Satan, Cristina. Look what happened to Gordon Brown and Tony Blair, after all .

nulnulcat · 12/02/2006 21:27

am i the only one who has put a baby into full time child care?

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:27

No, nul. About 200m Americans have had to do this, too.

edam · 12/02/2006 21:27

Kittyfish, if you are lucky enough to have enough spare cash that you could downsize and still keep a roof over your head you should be damn grateful. Some people don't have anything to downsize in the first place. Most of us have to work for a living.

Sheesh, if we all gave up work and lived on benefits you'd soon be moaning that we were all lazy swines who should get off our bums and find jobs.

Use a bit of imagination. Some people's lives are very different to mine but I don't feel obliged to beat them over the head about it and claim that mine is the only way to be.

bangersandmash · 12/02/2006 21:27

oh god don't say that expat - I went to boarding school from 12-18 and even worse I wanted to go !!!!!

wheresthecoddingnecklace · 12/02/2006 21:28

god that si mad
i haet d mine

colditz · 12/02/2006 21:28

BAM, I don't see what a 2 year old going to nursery has to do with the effects of full time nursery on tiny babies, or what is shocking and horrifying about it.

And whether or not shift-sharing works for you, it does work for some people, it can work very very well. Neither does it leave everyone unable to cope financially.

kittyfish · 12/02/2006 21:28

C7 - very different to a 3 month old don't you think? Though I think sending a primary aged child off is full young. My dp was sent at 11 and he is extremely well adjusted. Have another friend who was sent at 5 and he is a mess.

nulnulcat · 12/02/2006 21:28

so there are millions of babies children and adults that have been in child care from an early age and have turned out perfectly normal!! or should i start saving for her to have counselling now?

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:29

That explains much, bangers .

I was desperate for my dad to get posted to Saudi b/c the company sent all the school-age kids to boarding school . . . in Austria

But alas, when he finally got the assignment, I was a fresher at uni .

bangersandmash · 12/02/2006 21:30

yes if you're lucky and get 'decent' shifts - I work 30hrs a week (nights) and DH works 37.5hrs a week (afternoons/evenings) and it's still barely enough to cover the bills.

And if you can't recognise a bit of irony in my posts by now I give up (sticks tongue out).

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:30

'so there are millions of babies children and adults that have been in child care from an early age and have turned out perfectly normal!! '

Indeed, nulcat! And no guilt-trips, either. In fact, the magazine articles are devoted to finding a good nursery. As if, 'Yeah, well, no question. You're going back to work.'

colditz · 12/02/2006 21:31
bangersandmash · 12/02/2006 21:31

blimey - I'd never written that down before our ours - didn't realise we worked so many !

edam · 12/02/2006 21:31

No nul, I did. Ds went to nursery at 7 months, four days a week, then full-time by 11 months. He was there until he was two, when I made dramatic changes (because I was missing him, not because there was anything wrong with his care). He's now 2 and a half and a happy, confident, sociable little boy who met and surpassed all his developmental goals.

bangersandmash · 12/02/2006 21:32

try multipmap Colditz

kittyfish · 12/02/2006 21:32

I am a bit fucking sick of people assuming I am rolling in it cos I know a couple of toffs and live in the Cotswolds. We exist on 30k for all your information and I gave up work for my daughter. We live in rented accomodation and I drive an H reg car. I have about 30 quid in my account right now and no savings. I stand by everything I have said on this thread. Why are you all so bitchy?

wheresthecoddingnecklace · 12/02/2006 21:33

Though I think sending a primary aged child off is full young.

what does that mean

nulnulcat · 12/02/2006 21:33

and i dont think any nurserys will take a 3 month old! i used a childminder for first month as i could not find a nursery that took a baby under 6 months

kittyfish · 12/02/2006 21:35

full = too in that context.

colditz · 12/02/2006 21:35

Kittyfish if you want sympathy for 'existing' on £30k, then make sure you aren't talking to care assistants first

nulnulcat · 12/02/2006 21:35

i would love to exist on 30k!!!

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:35

Blimey! Our car's a P reg. But it's not really ours, it's DH's parents'. They give him a loan of it as they have a mobility car. Our flat is not only rented, but housing association.

I'm £700 into an £800 overdraft until next Friday. And about £3000 in debt.

Life's pretty good, tho.

Health is wealth.

expatinscotland · 12/02/2006 21:35

£30K would be GREAT, tho!