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Child guru says nurseries harm small children

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flashingnose · 12/02/2006 10:15

oh dear

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CarolinaMoon · 22/02/2006 18:35

ks you are a shining beacon of good sense

patkica · 23/02/2006 09:37

Bossykate: yes, it's true, I am way more flexible and that makes it easier for all of us. My only complaint is that I then become by default the one who drops work when somehting comes up and I can't just say 'I'm off to wherever for research or a conference' the way DH can because his job is less negotiable. It's nobody's fault, but it means that I can't do my work as well as I'd like to and it makes me resentful, depite knowing that it's unavoidbale. I suspect that this is one of the great dilemas of working mothers: we work, but neither work nor child gets the attention it deserves. I always feel pulled in two directions. It's probably inevitable.

Lulabye · 23/02/2006 11:08

*bourneville+ - in answer to your question, at the time of my separation (2001), there was about £60k in the house. Yes, a lot of money, but nowhere near enough to buy anywhere else in Portsmouth. The guy at the CAB said that IF I sold up, I'd not get ANY benefits at all - and be put in a bedsit which I'd have to pay for until my savings went below £3k. Then I might get on the council list to get a property. Not exactly what you want to hear when you're suddenly on your own and entirely responsible for two little lives! I wasn't aware of the part purchase you can do with the city (Housing Association?) which would have kept me on the property ladder. But I have struggled through and I just hope I will continue to do so. I know that I'm luckier than some - so I can't complain too much. As for Tax Credits. Hmmmm, well, they've worked out for me so far BUT when I was working - I was told I was not entitled to the working families part because I was earning too much. Yet I was earning no where near as much as a couple who were still getting the credit! You have to be working 16hrs to be entitled to the childcare element - which is a good benefit. The forms are confusing and the statements they send through are even worse. If you do decide to work part time - make sure you find someone to talk through the amounts with you and CHECK ALL THE PAPERWORK they send you. They have been making loads of mistakes recently - and people have found themselves with bills for thousands of pounds overpayment clawback! From my perspective, if I now work, I'll lose benefits and even if I do get tax credits, it wont be enough to cover the mortgage (as it currently stands) - so I can now understand it when some people say they can't afford to work!

bourneville · 23/02/2006 16:24

Lulabye thanks for explaining that. It's a toughie. But as I think you imply when you said you are lucky, having the house is a great asset in the long term.

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