Babies 'should sleep in mother's bed until age three' (Telegraph)

[Teaandcakeplease]

Admittedly its the Torygraph but what do you ladies make of this? Interesting.

www.telegraph.co.uk/health/children_shealth/8854674/Babies-should-sleep-in-mothers-bed-until-age-three.html

Daft.

Finally I'm doing something right :o

Nonsense.

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I don't think mothers should feel pressured into doing something they don't want to do, but I think it would be great if long term bed-sharing became more socially acceptable and seen as a normal way to parent.

For once I was ahead of the research, both kids co slept till 3 plus!

I was 20 years ahead of my time!

Memo to the world - STOP TELLING ME HOW TO BE A MOTHER.

Tell me about your studies and your research, sure, but let me draw the conclusions.

FFS stoopid nanny state society bollocksy crappy dictatorship

Each to their own, so long as the baby is safe. I co-slept with DS for the first 5.5m, then mostly he was in his own cot, then we emigrated and he came back in with me from 18mo on. He still sleeps with either me or DH - it works for us and we're all happy with it.

But some people can't sleep with their DC - a friend of mine couldn't sleep at all with her DS because he was such a noisy sleeper -she was distraught, had imagined that she would be co-sleeping but just couldn't do it.

Horses for courses.

another thing to beat ourselves up about if we dont....

ANother thing to feel smug about if we do....

Blimey, Im so glad my little child rearing days are done.

i'd squash it

I'm with daisy anything that makes cosleeping more socially acceptable in our society has to be a good thing. I know a lot of parents cosleep and are ashamed to admit it, as if they are doing something wrong, when all they are doing is something that is completely natural.

If my youngest slept in my bed every night until the age of 3 then I would have moved out of my bed and slept on the sofa cos' he is the wriggliest/loudest snoring kid in the world.

I would have been the grumpiest mother in the world due to lack of sleep.

This is interesting.... Ds is 9 mo, we put him to sleep in his cot but more and more often he has been joining us in bed partway through the night, due to teething, colds, developmental stuff like trying to stand or pull up in the cot. This is fine, but I do feel ashamed about it, as if I have failed every night that he doesn't spend the whole time in his cot. I know my pils would highly disapprove if they knew what we were doing, and I know it shouldn't bother me, but it does. So this research makes me feel a bit better.

DS1 sometimes co-slept but was sooo noisy that he was the only one sleeping. DS2 absolutely hated co-sleeping from the word go and would scream his head off til we put him back in his cot.

If you want/can co-sleep then go ahead, but don't make anyone else feel shit about it cos they couldnt.

(This applies to soooo much parenting advice!)

If you don't like this bit of parenting advice, wait a week. There will be another theory along shortly.

Good grief, I couldn't think of anything worse.
DD went in her own room at 9 weeks old, and has woken in the night prob about 5 times ever since (she's now 20 months). She asks to go to bed at 7.30pm and sleeps soundly until usually 9am, sometimes later.

She gets unlimited cuddles all day long but night time is sleep time, and we all get a good rested nights sleep without disturbing each other.
Each to their own though and all that.

he studied 16 infants. why are they bothering to even report this study at this point, in a (cough) major newspaper? oh yes, pot-stirring.

Why are they bothering to report it? Because mothers don't count and it doesn't matter how they feel, they must be brow beaten, guilty and self doubting at all times.

LeonieDelt - yawn. Co-sleeping is great if that is what works but blind promotion of one idea/style of mothering over another is what I object to.

I definitely agree that noone should be feeling bad about co-sleeping. Noone should be feeling bad about babies in their cots either though. These kind of reports on studies (which should happen) which make a very gray issue black and white are good examples of lazy journalism.

I agree that the only thing "good" to come out of this report is (hopefully) societies acceptance of co-sleeping. Mothers who choose to co-sleep should not be made to feel guilty for doing so. Likewise, those who choose not to co-sleep should not feel guilty for NOT doing so.

'In this case its more like normalising what many people do ANY WAY because its the only way to function, and are made to feel guilty for doing so.'

You need to correct that to 'the only way for them to function. Ds was in his own room in a moses basket and then a cot from when we came home from hospital.

How can you possibly know what a baby experiences when co-sleeping anyway? It's not as if they can articulate it.