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Well, bully for Katie

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Lucyinthepie · 03/05/2011 08:35

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1382889/Royal-Wedding-2011-Kate-Middleton-says-shell-housewife-now.html
Anyone else think that she should be doing the work that is associated with her new life of luxury? Justify the expense to the taxpayer and get out and fulfil the usual royal diary of visits.

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carminaburana · 03/05/2011 21:41

Actually - in the real world, most women do want to get married to a lovely rich man and lead a life of relative luxury - what's wrong with that? I don't measure my success on how many insurance policies I sell or how much advertising I bring in - (or how I've managed to deliberately bring up 3 screaming brats on my own) - success is based on how happy you are and how happy your family life is, So of course it's all individual. if you want to have the career and the kids and all the rest of it, fine, if that makes you happy then go for it. It wouldn't make me happy.

indiechick · 03/05/2011 21:53

Georgimama Tue 03-May-11 10:38:09
Poor woman. Can't do anything right. Her wedding was on Friday. Were you at work four days after your wedding? (I have to say now that if you say "yes" I am not going to believe you).

Believe it or not, I got married on the Sat and was back at work on the Mon. It does happen you know. (Mind you, unlike Catherine, I have a job).

sobloodystupid · 03/05/2011 21:56

But why shouldn't she get pregnant? Isn't that what (some) newly weds do? Why is she "spawning an heir"? I think that is quite offensive really...

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 21:57

meditrina, I don't think the rest of that post helps at all! I don't understand - are you saying the only options are marrying a rich man or raising screaming brats while holding down part time jobs?

because they are not the only two options at all. And the crop haired lesbianism comment - wtf??

I honestly feel like I have fallen into a different world. Would you let your daughters read this thread? See how many women aspire to live off a man!

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 21:59

"Actually - in the real world, most women do want to get married to a lovely rich man and lead a life of relative luxury - what's wrong with that?"

My issue is with the word most. I have no doubt that some do. I have work related goals and ambitions of my own, I know I am not alone.
As a family, I would like us to have more money. I would like both DH and I to be doing a job we enjoy (or not working if we choose) and for the family to have enough money for necessities and luxuries. I find the idea that it has to be the man who works and the woman who snags him absolutely abhorrant.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:00

carmina if spending money makes you happy (as you've already mentioned it isn't either work or family that makes you happy) then go for it. Just don't tar "most" women with the same brush. I have a happy medium between marrying a rich man and bringing up 3 screaming brats on my own.

suburbophobe · 03/05/2011 22:02

She knew what she was getting into by marrying into that family, so get into it, I say!

meditrina · 03/05/2011 22:04

I interpreted just as the poster's not entirely serious way of making the point that it's a choice many would make.

I've seen the thread you started to ask it as a standalone question, but haven't yet been back to see what sort of answers it has attracted.

smallwhitecat · 03/05/2011 22:05

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wook · 03/05/2011 22:05

AlouiseG wouldn't dream of it! The 'scrounger' thing is horrible when directed at those on benefits, I'm just asking why does it apply to those who apparently 'choose' not to work at the bottom of society, yet not to someone who has actively stated that she chooses not to work at the top of it. She will be living a life subsidised by the public, in a key figurehead role, and doing nothing with it.
No fan of Diana here and I think she had a fair amount of facials (wouldn't we all?) but where she chose to do charity work, it had an impact- especially re: HIV where she made some bold stances. Nor a fan of Princess Anne but she does trek around the country meeting people and visiting charity organisations tirelessly.
I don't like the idea that we must bow and courtsey to someone who has married in to a position of power and privilege and ...er.... that's it. Happily Ever After.
It's a public role and I'm disappointed that a young woman in that role who could do some good has essentially turned into some pinny wearing throwback. It's not as if there are many other inspiring women in the public eye either. Just disappointing.

carminaburana · 03/05/2011 22:20

SPB - I said my family makes me happy, being there for my children makes me happy - I'm never on MN at 3.00 pm because I'm picking my ds up from school - It doesn't matter what sort of crap day I've had - when I see him running over to me everything's wonderful again. I wouldn't get that feeling working in an office would I ? - I love walking home listening to him chat about his day, and if he's had a bad day I'm there to smile and say don't worry about it. Because I'm his mother and he's my priority, not some boss paying me £7 an hour.

Of course I understand if a mother has to work for financial reasons - that's different, you have to pay the bills and eat / my issue is with women who work when they don't really need to.

wook · 03/05/2011 22:22

You have an issue with women who work when they don't need to? Why? Are they harming you? Asking you for anything?
Perhaps those women feel that they may have something to contribute beyond the home, e.g. by using their brains and skills? Just a random guess....

Northernlurker · 03/05/2011 22:27

'my issue is with women who work when they don't really need to.'

Whoooooah there! Are you talking to me? You are you know. I work full time and I don't have to. My dh earns well in excess of the national average. I don't work to put bread on the table. I work because most of the time it fulfills me. Right now my job sucks - that's that job in particular not working in general. Don't tell me how to parent. You do what what's right for you and keep your opinions right away from me doing what's right for me.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:33

Do you have an issue with men who work when their wives earn enough that they don't have to?
What constitues have to anyway? My DH could stop working and we;d be fine...we'd have to move and stop spending on a lot of stuff we currently do spend on but we'd eat and survive.

carminaburana · 03/05/2011 22:41

That's fine - just remember, no one on their death bed wishes they'd spent more time at the office.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:43

How do you know? Plenty of people get fulfilment from a career and want to do their best.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:43

and you didnt answer my question about men.
Why are you assuming it's women that dont work and men that bring home the bacon?

Northernlurker · 03/05/2011 22:45

Carmina - that 'deathbed' thing is such a load of bull. Take your guilt trip away and file it under 'nonsense' please.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:47

I actually don;t feel guilt. I work FT, and am confident that I am doing the right thing for me and my family. And if I change my mind I won't be stubborn about it and will make changes happen. On my deathbed I wil likely be worrying about whether I put the bins out and if I wiped the cheese off the bottom of the oven

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:48

Interesting there's no answer about why this has to be a woman.

carminaburana · 03/05/2011 22:48

Well I don't bloody know for sure do I because I'm not at the bedside of every dying person - but I'd take a guess that most people reflect on family and friends - not the photo-copier.

claire201 · 03/05/2011 22:49

Personally i would admire her a lot more if she did go out and do something beyond being a housewife. I find it a bit grating, but less face it, she hasn't had a proper job in the last ten years so she is hardly going to start now!!

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:50

No but you're extrapolating your desires and applying them to "most" women. I'm saying there is a sizeable minority/majority whose heart's desire is not to be a kept woman but to actually have a career.

StatelyPoshBeartrothal · 03/05/2011 22:51

oh god that came out wrong sorry SAHMs!!
By "kept woman" I mean soemone who has decided from the very off they will have a rich man and never work.
Lots of families as a whole make the decision that one is going to SAH and that is not the same thing in my mind.

blueshoes · 03/05/2011 22:53

carmina: "my issue is with women who work when they don't really need to."

Where did that come from. What's your beef?

"Actually - in the real world, most women do want to get married to a lovely rich man and lead a life of relative luxury - what's wrong with that?"

You are projecting when you use the word 'most'. It is when women have no more ambition than to get married for a meal ticket that I feel somewhat sorry for them.

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