swc - you were right about the destructive effect of levelling 'homophobic' at different perspectives, could you now just debate without sniping at some supposed Guardian-related demographic you seem to have issues with?
Hens: you see, I wouldn't think twice about talking to my child about sexuality, or find it hard to 'handle' at all if they were recognising homosexual feelings.
Jeannette Winterson, Oranges are Not The Only Fruit - a young girl growing up lesbian in a Christian household.
All my male gay friends are emphatic that they knew 'something' even if they didn't know what to cal it, but they knew it had to do with feelings fo men, and they knew it made them a bit differnt from what was expected by parents / teachers / children's TV etc etc.
All the 8 year olds of my close aquaintence know about same sex couples and think nothing of it. If an 8 year old told me they thought they were gay I wouldn't start investigating where they got such an idea, it's common understanding now. I wouldn't 'investigate' it any more than I would an 8 year old telling me they were in love with / going to marry a friend of the opposite sex.