new FLY week 26th april

[dylsmum1998]

afternoon all

wolf lovely dresses, My fav is def the first one.

today i have
tidied
hoovered
ironing
taken dd to spend some of her birthday money
researched trampolines online that will fit at the end of the garden, turns out it is slightly narrower than i though and an 8ft round will not fit. glad I measured before i bought one!
wrote thank you cards with dd

to do:
go to b&q (cant remember why, ds wants to go)
buy some screening stuff for one side of garden fence
buy larger pots for tomatoes to go in
look at how big the gap down side of shed is, i want to make a kind of raised bed against the shed to plant the peas and sunflowers in
collect ds
work out a shopping list for the week

bbl

Wolf I think you are pretty organised. Not many people can be on a train to London at x hours, already writing coherent posts, planning weddings, meals, looking after dss and managing Fulltime job!

House is slowly inching back into shape, due to dh eating bread and cheese for last few nights, and children not having any serious homework.
Front garden tidy, except dd started decapitating the tulips in a strop
dead mouse in kitchen this morning - cat patrol control working all too well
Dh is loving Wolfe Hall (just thought I'd pass that on)
Beavers went really well last night, sooo much easier because some troublemakers weren't there.. But the child with ASD who used to cause problems is now fantastic, and enjoys all the games, it is so sweet to see him joining in so well.

Ruby dd had toothache last night, you are not alone, even youth is no talisman. Anyway apparently when we are 50 we will become extremely driven and powerful and have more energy than ever So I am told.

Morning
Time for a cuppa.
Wolf Where did you go in London? Why? Gosh I'm so nosey.
Ruby Things do start to hurt where they didn't before! I should start running again but the pain in my hip puts me right off. The only plus side is I'm now a size 'E' in bra size Which I would have loved as a young woman but my boobs are more of a matron's bosom to help with cuddles and mopping stresses brows not the sexy set I hoped for.
Swan Yes, health cooking does mess up the kitchen and prevent good results in flying Fish fingers tonight I think
I'm looking forward to 50 then I'll get off my bum and do some exercise.
Must sign up to help Beavers soon.
Right break almost over.
dyls I was sitting in front of the PC in my pants and should have changed into slob clothes. Hate to be caught by him MN before doing anythink like a kid with a sock on and one off.
I'll post my medal pic later.
Right going to post the rest of my list now.

Morning all

Ruby I wish I was sporty and that I wasn't falling to bits. If its not my knee its my hip....and I'm only 30 so its gonna be 20 years till I start to improve. At least you had an extra 10 years on me before you started to fall apart.

DH has taken car for MOT today so I am walking DD to nursery. It takes about 30 minutes as the short cut isn't open at lunch time. Then walking back to pick her up and rush her home to get dressed for ballet class when I'm hoping my car will be returned otherwise there will be no ballet. DH always picks the days I need to be somewhere to do things with my car and won't let me take it to somewhere local

Other things to do

• More washing - got quite a few loads done yesterday but you couldn't tell
• Copy up sign language notes from yesterday
• DD to ballet
• Whats for tea - something quick and easy
• Bath duty as DH at gym tonight
• Try and get 30 minutes on treadmill (this has been on my list all week and not managed it yet)
• Clean kitchen
• Sort bathrooms

That will do for now. Hope everyone has a good day

Sorry for my grammer & spelling above I hope you all get my drift
Now to work
So far.....
beds made (should change tomorrow) done
D/W emptied & reloaded
W/M washing rinsed again
Kitchen floor brushed & mopped done
Tops cleaned and bits put away done
Rubbish out from bathroom & Kitchen done

To do
Reload W/M
Find Little bears sunglasses (only bought last Saturday!)
Clean bathroom
Hoover upstairs
empty one box from front room!
A little food shopping
LB's playmate coming over.

oh dear...where does all my time go???
House a tip, despite spending 2 solid days tidying and cleaning Am considering just giving up till kids leavehome lol
On the positive side....DD2 went back to cubs last night. Managed not to wet herself, and enjoyed it...yay!

I have meeting at school at 6pm tonight about dd1's residential trip next week (ie will be issued a list of a million and one things she needs, but hasn't got thatwill be expensive LOL )

Nothing sorted for dinner....

Am badly lacking in motivation.....

and my sister is coming at the weekend so house has to be sprted by then eeeek

Right, best get on...will try to be back for individuals later...

swan being 50 sounds fab, I can't wait LOL!

OFM I think ruthless flinging is the only way to go! & fake cleaning you know fluff cushions, spray the room with polish.
Must sort out DS's room the tower of books is going be a problem soon.
Reload W/M done & More ready to go
Find Little bears sunglasses Tonight
Clean bathroom done
washing hung done(cross fingers no rain)
Hoover upstairs done & downstairs done
empty one box from front room!
Off to now food shopping

Oh! I have also cleaned the fan in the bathroom one of those jobs I forget to do!
DONE

half way through the ironing pile listening to Astral Weeks
OFM I was cheered to see recently my sister's house was even shabbier than mine I'm sure she thinks the same in reverse..
Could be that you just need to do the final tweak and all your hard work will be revealed.

Nutty - am loving the fake cleaning - you are so right! Shows confidence I think that's why it works - bit like lipstick really.

Hi all
So let's all be fake flyers then ... loving that idea! I was today when me Dad sat on a dining chair and got covered with dust!!(table covered with junk so hasn't been used for about a month! We usually eat at the kitchen table)
Been to work today and my Mum picked up DD. came home via garden centre for feed and weed and managed to get it on the lawn just before it rained. Mnaaged to use an entire pack and only do half the lawn as usual - I always do that! Lawn is covered in dandelions and weeds.
I need to do some serious flinging as well, too much clutter everywhere (and dust!)
Only a couple of weeks to go hopefully I'll feel better ...
BB tomorrow

wendy you have been busy!
swan I hope dh doesn't get all energised at 50, he's bouncy enough as it is .
OFM glad dd went back to cubs ok (brave girl).
nutty fake cleaning (and indeed grooming) is the way to go .
MC hope you fitted everything in.

Oh TSK dd knocking on the back door wanting in again. I wonder whether she'd fit through a cat flap .

nutty I was in croydon for work. Going again tomorrow to South London for work also - I am knackered

DS has had a total meltdown at nursery again, nursery want a meeting - I have a few choice points to make to them that's for sure. I accept ds is behaving badly and we all want to tackle that but I expect support, like when we were asked to take him to the doc about his behaviour and we did and then they didn't back us up and refused to speak to doc. He is also learning fighting and violent games and bad language from the other kids but they don't seem to be tackling that. He comes home with bruises complaining that child x, y and z have beaten him up but they don't tackle that or speak to me about that I am and also really and wonder what we have to do with ds, how do I get through to him. I feel like I have tried everything.

ofm I second fake cleaning!

ruby you need to share your stash!!!!!

ruby down off the ceiling please!Glad the codeine is helping, toothache is grim

wendy yes , the worstbit is almost over (well unless you have a habit of going 2 weeks over like me which then becomes truly the worst bit!)

swan sadly my sisters house resembles a show home.Shehas 1 little girl (5)who is also always immaculate with matching hair bobbles...etc...not quite the same as our approach to life LOL

scatty LOL at dd, wanting IN indeed! My kids are always in andout like yo-yos when I try and shut them in the garden!

nutty flinging and fake flying...love it. Think it is the way to go!

am shattered. Have been to meeting at dds school,
house still a never ending tip

Am going to try and catch up tomorrow so will be back bright and early with lists

BBtomorrow

wolf helllooo Xposts

Wolf, I don't have any answers
we are awaiting ds2's referral to child pyschologist for some of his ishoos (licking other children in playground)and actually I think it is a relief to think that someone professional might give us some advice to handle some of his behaviour. (Although his sister behaves worse imo) The nursery should not expect you to sort out his behaviour when they are in charge of him imo - presumably they have their own way of doing things. Is it v structured?, sometimes I think some kids prefer it that way - makes them feel safer. On the other hand if you like it you might have to tread carefully when discussing how to deal with behaviour - they should be helping and supporting you though, really.

It has just taken me two hours to get kids to bed, dh gave up after an hour and went to watch politics. A combination of half of Avatar, choosing zany ties for tomorrow Tie Day and a game of Top Trumps has turned them into crazy kids. "I'm hungry, I'm scared, I want to watch the Election where's the cat, I need someone to sleep here, I want to check my tie again" aaargh.

OFM matching hairbobbles, LOL
Scatty time for a playhouse maybe, so that she can be in when she's out? Smaller than trampolines and less dangerous.

[Stern] we don't like licking, that's no excuse.
Unfortunately I think it is a habit leftover from the time that Ds2 was Scruffy the Dog.

Just one more weary load of laundry up the stairs, and bedtime thank god.
Good night all.

swan it is very structured (on paper not sure this happens in practice I think they talk good game but don't follow through). They are also peaceniks which is why I can't understand why they allow toddles to play violent games at playtime which just fuels ds because he thinks it's okay. I do like it and I like the (stated) principles but I have some major concerns - some of which I have raised with them. I think one major problem is that Ds's class teacher appears not to like him or me, he was better before he moved to this class, I think he picks up that she doesn't like him and I think he is upset by the behaviour of other children towards him which makes him lash out. I accept that his own behaviour is totally unacceptable but I'd love to know what they are doing about the kids who are beating ds up every day - have they done anything or are they just raising ds's behaviour and ignoring that of others - that is something I could not accept. It's no good me trying to tell ds that he can't do x,y,z if child a,b and c are allowed to behave that way

anyway rant over, I'm going to bed. I'll see you all on the train in the morning!!!!!!

Wolf Good luck with work & school. It's just not on for kids to behave in that manner and for teachers to only see the one kid (I think, oddly its common) I think other kids pick up on adults vibes towards other children in the class. For example a new boy started at my boys school. My boy started to say he was bullying him. But when we met in the street the said boy was really happy to see mine and wanted to play with him in the playground. I watched my boy and he only wanted to play with his nursery friend & excluded the new boy. Then long story I had more evidence. Then nursery friend & Mum came over for tea and said new boy was a bully and then it clicked they were ganging up on him. DH & I gave our boy a good talking to and he is now being nice to new boy. New boy now feels comfortable in new school (I think) & the word bully has disappeared. I think the teacher needs a talking to and maybe a class assistant can look at what is happening in the playground and make notes. Sorry its my training, verbatim notes are a good way of seeing the truth. Sorry, If I'm not making sense or helping I'll get my coat!!!!!!

Nutty that's very helpful thank you. I'm going to call them later and set up a meeting. We have had a long conversation with ds about what is and isn't acceptable (again) but he's only three so I'm not sure how much if it sinks in. Ruby good luck with tooth. Have a good day everyone

morning All
back bright and early as promised!

wolfsounds stressful with ds. I think a meeting would be a good starting point. You need to find out exactly what is going on and how they are dealing with it. Sounds likethey may not be managing situations very well. ANd yes, sounds as if they need to look at behaviour of other kids too. Hope you get it sorted.

ok...list:
Done
6 kids up and breakfasted
eaten proper breakfast myself
nagged dd 1 and 2 into tidying their rooms
tidied breakfast
fed dog
located rendom missing uniform items for DC
Now having coffee and posting here instead of starting laundry

To Do:
school run
walk dog
start laundry
tidy our bedroom
tidy littlies room
bathroom (upstairs)
nursery run
lunch me and ds
quick tidy,dust and hoover downstairs
reboot laundry
nursery reading session
shool pick up
shopping
home
dinner (quick freezer night!)
walk dog
chill!

right...will see how we go!

Awww Wolf He a still a baby, they should do more observing at that age anyway. We moan about paperwork but this is the time when it should come into play. Enjoy Croydon, I had hoped it was Kingston and I could treat you to a coffee in th Apple Market. My sister lives in Croydon!!!! Right off to school see ya later