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Original poster

DH has complained that he doesn't want his dinner on the table when he gets in from work!

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Dragonbutter · 11/06/2008 17:45

He says he i'm a bit too prompt.
He gets in at 6.30pm and the kids have usually already eaten. I'm usually starving, but want to eat with him so try to have dinner timed for 6.30pm.
But he wants me to time it for a bit later.
IHBU?

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Enid · 12/06/2008 11:09

I have no strong feelings about all eating together truth be told

it is like feeding time at the zoo with my three, not something a sophisticated adult would want to be any part of tbh

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Dragonbutter · 12/06/2008 11:09

People are always asking me how i find time to do mosaics etc. I really don't want to give up my evenings.
Am thinking this is all going to end with me negotiating a bit more help with the cooking.
How can he become a better cook?

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Enid · 12/06/2008 11:11

I manage to do embroidery in evenings (shade of Bunty Cupcake)

if you are off in the day you can prepare loads then

or the day before

harman · 12/06/2008 11:20

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bozza · 12/06/2008 16:12

I am also always amazed at the two meals people. I cook once and make it last two days! Not the other way round....

When I am working DS gets a snack when he gets back to the CM which is often about 5 ish and will then eat again with us about 5.45- 6 ish. And he has a school dinner, so I give him a smallish portion. DD eats at nursery but nursery tea is the snack meal and at 3.45 or some such ridiculously early time so DD will have a snack while we eat. Yesterday this was mashed up banana with raspberries on top, and a few stolen pieces of my pasta. When DS was that age and at nursery he would eat another dinner. He is an eating machine though and DD is not.

On days I am not working they rarely get a snack after school because I forget. They eat about 5ish on Mondays because of Beavers but later on Fridays.

pointydog · 12/06/2008 17:13

Sorry to harp on about this, but Bexie, are you saying you only have swede twice a week?

Swede city.

Twinkie1 · 12/06/2008 17:16

Give hiom a blowjob first - that is why you are too early - not taking housewifley duties into account properly!

DH would just be so surprised it was there in the firt place not sure he would bat and eyelid - just shut up and eat up!

FluffyMummy123 · 12/06/2008 17:16

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MsDemeanor · 12/06/2008 17:20

I loathe eating with small children, except in cafes! It's hideous. I might sit at the table with them with a cup of tea or glass of wine, but there's no lovely family repartee with small children, just fighting and arguing and refusing to eat things, and I find it quite miserable. I do, however, like eating and chatting with my husband! I think that's a perfectly good use of an evening.

pointydog · 12/06/2008 17:20

A bland weekly menu has organically evolved in this house so that I never have to piss about making two meals.

motherinferior · 12/06/2008 17:25

In the Inferiority Complex, the person who did the cooking gets to say when that cooking gets done. If you see what I mean.

QuintessentialShadows · 12/06/2008 17:27

I cook one meal. My kids have become accustomed to curries and "adult food". The kids will eat what you get them used to eating.

My dh will either eat with us around 6 (if he is home) or eat the plate I have put on the side for him later. It is very nice and easy. The kids will then eat a fruit platter and some youghurt or a sandwich before going to bed, and a glass of milk.

BexieID · 12/06/2008 17:38

3 times a week if you include a sunday, lol. We always have swede, carrot, broccoli and cauliflower for veg. We sometimes have cabbage/sweetcorn/grean beans.

We get our own dinners the 3 nights I work (I usually have something DP can't have as he has eczema and shouldn't eat dairy), so we tend to stick with roast and veg or pie and veg on a weds/thurs. Saturdays, it's usually something with chips and we goto the PIL on a sunday.

Original poster
Dragonbutter · 12/06/2008 17:39

Ok DH has called me from work so tonight we are trying another way.
The kids have had their tea at 5pm
He's going to cycle home, then take the kids to the park round the corner.
I'm going to do very little while he does this.
Then we'll get them ready for bed together.
Then at 8pm he's going to cook dinner.
I'm going to do fuck all.
I will drink wine.

(he's after a blow job isn't he?)

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pointydog · 12/06/2008 17:43

How very quirky. Always having swede which is such a bugger to peel you need to ask dh. lol

Twiglett · 12/06/2008 17:46

I eat with the kids

DH scavenges

Iota · 12/06/2008 17:46

get dh to peel a week's worth of swede in one sitting and store it in the fridge

pointydog · 12/06/2008 17:49

orrr..... eat a veg which is easier on the hands

Iota · 12/06/2008 17:50

yeah - try celeriac

pointydog · 12/06/2008 17:53

Knuckle down with a butternut squash four times a week. An even tougher beast than a swede.

MsDemeanor · 12/06/2008 17:55

Yay Dragonbutter! Result!
Enjoy your wine

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Dragonbutter · 12/06/2008 18:08

I'm going to request swede and freshly cut pineapple.

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Original poster
Dragonbutter · 12/06/2008 18:08

I'm going to request swede and freshly cut pineapple.

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BexieID · 12/06/2008 18:24

Wasn't so bad this week as he made a batch of shepherds pie for Tom at the weekend and cut up a whole one in one go!

BexieID · 12/06/2008 18:29

I think squash was ok as it's not as big and you can hold it better, iykwim.