Fledglings prepare to fly their lockdown nests and jump into July - join us for the July FlyLady thread

[KTCluck]

Welcome all fledglings, newbies and lurkers to the July 2020 flylady thread, where we try and follow flylady’s system to keep our homes in order and our lives organised. We are a friendly bunch and like a bit of a natter, amongst posting our ‘To Do’ lists for accountability and celebrating our ‘Ta Da’ lists no matter how long or short. No fledgling is left behind, just jump in and join us wherever you are at - whether you are a lazy slattern living in chaos or a fully certified domestic goddess wanting to keep up the motivation. Most of us flit between the two depending on the day. The threads tends to be a supportive corner of MN, and we readily provide listening ears for woes and rants when needed.

Flylady is a system based around morning and evening routines, with babysteps to get you started and a daily focus, such as planning and family fun day. There’s a weekly home blessing (or ‘bleurgh’ as we prefer) which is a basic clean to keep the house ticking over, with short bursts of decluttering or deeper cleaning in weekly zones once you are ready. Flylady also suggests short missions each day. Feel free to adapt the system to make it fit in with your life.

Link to the launchpad is here (I hope) and the baby steps are here. From the launchpad I like the ‘flight plan’ for a reminder of the routines, and ‘sneak peek of the week’ for a list of the week‘a missions. You can sign up for emails, but be warned, you will need to regularly declutter your inbox!

As thread leader for July I have taken possession of the thread pointy stick —> for anyone in need of a sharp prod of motivation, but I’ve also set up a chilled quiet naughty corner, complete with comfortable day beds, a gentle sea breeze, and unlimited fruit platters, ice creams and cocktails to any fledgling who is in need of rest and recuperation or is just on strike. No partners or children allowed.

I’ll also try and keep the ‘keep calm corner’ (KCC) going. Originally introduced by our lovely SC, it’s a little daily dose of respite we’ve been using to help us get through these strange times.

I’ll do my best to keep us all motivated and flying throughout July. On work days I may appear with the larks, or not crawl in until the end of the day so apologies in advance if I’m late with links.

We start tomorrow in zone 1 (hall, porch, dining room). Here’s the missions. Habit of the month is ‘swish and swipe’ which is a daily 2 minute wipe of our toilets and sinks. Tomorrow is anti-procrastination day where we tackle those tasks we’ve been putting off.

Anyway, enough waffle, July we are coming for you! shortly, I’m just checking the naughty corner is ready

I'm a hands and knees scrubber too hazelfind gets floors much better,or maybe my eyesight a just so rubbish I need to be nearer ground to see the mess!haha

I've no idea out church is back yet SC I doubt it as predominantly the congregation is 60+,high percent 70+ and a sprinkle of 80+.I'm one of the "young UN's"....

Busy day here helping dd2 sort thru some stuff.filled two carrier bags for chazza and discarded shedload half used make up

KCC. I tend to write down little kindnesses in my journal (as my “something I’m thankful for” bit) and I love spotting things like that from my day. There have been so many, times people asked if I was ok, offers of lifts or company when I was unwell or anxious, help with things we needed when we were struggling financially.

I am not sure how to decide the kindest, but these are a couple over 25 years apart that stand out and will never be forgotten:

💝When I was maybe 6ish my mum’s friend asked what I’d like for my birthday. Being entirely random and obsessed with stationery, I said “a red ring binder with a dinosaur on the front”. Not that I’d ever seen such a thing, and it’s not like online shopping was a Thing then. It probably didn’t exist. But on my birthday I unwrapped a plain red ring binder with a cuddly t-rex placed on top of it. I’d actually forgotten about my request, but it was PERFECT. It wasn’t about the actual items at all, although I loved them, it was the fact that she’d listened and respected my interests and choices.

💝Think I mentioned this one at the time. Just a few months ago I was at one of the courses and felt really weak/dizzy. One of the leaders noticed I was looking a bit wobbly and I said it wasn’t a big deal (true - it’s not dangerous just annoying) and that I’d just sit on the floor for a bit. The leader sat on the floor too and taught the rest of the topic from there!!! I honestly can’t explain how much that meant, both in the moment and in a wider context of dealing with my conditions, asking for help etc.

💕💐

Right, must finish editing the Tesco order

Thank u lane I got a lot more dun then I thought I would.

It’s been so lovely hazel I feel much happier than I have in ages!

Ta Da’s
❤️made dinner
🧡Washed up
💛Ironed
💚Shined sink

Twat level continues to rise here in the NW as useless male goes AWOL for third consecutive evening. I am currently ignoring although fairly few attempts at contact have been made. I just CBA. Back to this old shit again. 🙄

Thanks for all the sympathy and offers of spades / alibis etc

Still can't really think of anything for KCC question ...... i think i have a bad case of resting bitch face so people don't tend to approach me much. This might be a good thing though.

There are some pretty impressive lists today!

Mine is non-existent. I should probably be sacked as thread leader. I’m in the naughty corner if anyone wants to give me my p45

I’ve loved reading about all the little kindnesses and your lovely mother figures. I really like the idea of writing them all down Lane. I might have to start doing that as it’s too easy to forget. My big one is a relative lending us a large sum of money when it looked like our house purchase was going to fall through. We paid them back as soon as we could but it was a risk to them, and as well as being delighted to get our house it was lovely to have been trusted.

A smaller one that sticks in my head is when DD was a few weeks old, in the middle of a mammoth cluster feeding session and DH was at the pub for the traditional head wetting . I had to get out the house even though DD was screaming, and a lovely stranger walked by with her family. She was chatting to her daughters about how they used to make that noise but not for long and they got easier. She put her hand on my shoulder and give me a lovely sympathetic smile. It was such a simple thing to do but it was just what I needed.

Sorry about the lack of personals today. I have been reading throughout the day but I’ve just woken up after falling asleep on the sofa and to be honest it’s a struggle just remembering my name . Night and cherry waves fledglings! I do solemnly swear I will do better tomorrow

Cross post That. I’d be tempted to lock him out. I am also inflicted/blessed with a resting bitch face. The hormones must have mellowed it on that particular day. If you can’t think of anything right now remember you have a group of angry MNetters mentally digging you a 6ft hole should you require it.

ta da (emojis in honour of the menstruation crustacean station)
🦀LOL (DH did last bit but I’m still counting it)
🦞checked bank and instant ink
🦐answered online book club questions as I couldn’t get on there last night
🦀tiny bit of sorting in the kitchen
🦞bodge job of sealing the hole by the window
🦐dryer on to finish yesterday’s LOL
🦀completed home ed plan for this week and printed, involved a lot of looking through books!
🦞home ed actually finished by 3 after verrrrry slow start (had to swap vikings for chemistry as we lost a book, again, FFS)
🦐futurelearn course (about an hour total, didn’t get my second lot done)
🦀suggested doorstep chat with new friend. I don’t do “making the first move” much so I feel all brave and totally chuffed she said yes, arranged it for when she returns to work
🦞sorted food shopping
🦐did a bit of research and planning for a little business idea
🦀weighed self. Ugh.
🦞Tesco order editing
🦐bit of tidying in living room
🦀kept food diary
🦞chose a couple of new bits for Cagletini’s tuff tray
🦐chose what spiral binder to get. Yup. It’s happening.

princes* that’s lovely to hear. You have done an amazing amount today. Glad your mum didn’t say anything upsetting too you. I bet she was secretly looking around and thinking “ Goodness my daughter is coping well with coved and two little ones.”
I do find Flylady works if you keep it up. It might not seem like it at first but it does start to be second nature.

Goodness a tractor has just hurtled PST they must be still working.

Thanks bit of the house are nice the other bits are not. Well some are if you ignore the mess amongst it. When we lived in Scotland we had a smaller house and garden and when the eldest two were at school and DS3 was a baby I was up early and had all the housework done by ten. I had a lot less stuff though. I think I had about two pairs of jeans and T-shirt’s and a skirt and a dress. I need to declutter ruthlessly in September.

Well I have been in a right mood with myself all day. DH is still being an arse we are passive aggressive ignoring each other. He has only said two sentences to me all day. I had a shower and went to bed at 9:45pm. Glad I have I feel better.
So I halved my meds because I am really dopey in the morning and can’t be bothered so have a slow start. Whereas I always used to be up at 6am with washing out before I went to work, bed made, S&S bathroom and kitchen and sitting room tidied and vacuumed. Now lucky if I get that done in a day. Anyhow I was up at 7:30pm felt much more like me. It went down hill later.
Ta da
Tea
Started kitchen
Drawers for baking emptied and most cutlery in dishwasher plus a couple of trays.
Rest washed by hand.
Did whole drawer.
Turned out 2nd drawer of cake tins, sieves, scone cutters etc. Washed and dried and drawer wiped. Sorted put back . 3rd drawer fish kettle, cake tins, tart tins etc.
Repeat of wash, dry and wipe out drawer. Reorganised and bottom drawer has more room. Result.
Wiped over all worktops around sink and into window. Polished.
Wiped over cupboards
Cutlery like bottle open sorted.
Washed floor( we all seem to be doing it today).
Had a cup of tea and sit down closed my eyes for 15 mins as dull migraine hovering.
Started on path. Hands and knees Weeding, the path and road outside. Deheaded hanging baskets.
DH had his tea I.
Went on to wash floor.
Cleaned out.
Sadly builder didn’t turn up and it went downhill from there.
Ate small bowl of leftovers for tea.
Lol x 1
Put some of the pile of washing away had shower and washed hair.
Stood on two spaces getting to shower.

Very fed up about shower. Fed up with DH BF ask how I was and Said I wanted to runaway and hide under a stone. Considered going away for a few days probably won’t

Lane I could have done with that when I was planning lessons.
Right going to sleep now and hope tomorrow is better.

Third evening? That change the locks. So cross for you. Here's pointy stick for him ======>

I think I have Resting Bitch Face too. Or perhaps Resting Miserable Face - people seem to assume I’m sad, or scared when I have things like blood tests 🤣

That hope twatshape (the name is catching on meg! 😅) is back safe, mainly so you can yell at him. Or whatever you see fit. You were in the naughty corner chatting with us aaaaaall night, right Fledglings? Couldn’t possibly have been wielding a shovel. 😇

I’ve been up since just after 4, it’s going to be a long day.

Loved reading about everyone’s kindness experiences. Also kt don’t apologise for lack of personals! Thread is great and I’m loving the KCC, you have a busy life too with work and young DD! 💐

I don’t want to think about a to do list today. I wrote some reminders on my phone yesterday but I’m ignoring them for now, I’ll prioritise working on my course later though.

Try and squeeze in 20 minute nap,they keep upright on pathetic amounts of sleep

Thatif he came home and is now not dead in garden you are a saint!

Well after film finished dd2 had mother panic attacks and was gone 12 beforewe went to sleep.ive had couple hours and absolutely fooked,but heyho onwards and upwards

He is home. And alive. I am not waking him for work though he can sort his self out. In all honesty i just cannot be arsed engaging with him at all. If any of my kids get sick though i am holding him entirely responsible and will actually kill him.

Up with dc 4 and 5

Applied for next academic years student finance last night so thats something i have been putting off done

Great thread KT. Many thanks. Need to check leak has cleared under floor as boiler water levels down a little. Finger crossed. Poor ds has a nasty style so must wash it with cooled boiled water this morning. Need to finish home bleurgh hot and go for run. Morning all fledglings.

Sounds like the right approach that. Sorry you were up at four lane. Strong cawfee in the naughty corner. With donuts like NY cops.

Oh dear Bower just read about your DH too. Is this a virus for twatness that's spreading across significant others on the thread? Eyes DH suspiciously 🤔🙄

Twattyvirus20 i believe it is called Lisette

Hope you get some rest today Lane and Zoo

I’m very glad I bought some Dr Pepper yesterday (a few of those mini cans) I’ll grab some in a bit!

You know I realised what I’m a bit worried about, I want to put loads more stuff on the walls but they seem to get damaged easily. Also I’m not sure how to “darken” all the wood in here because for example the doors aren’t proper wood so it’s not like we could sand and stain them.

Cagletini is back to sleep which is a bit annoying really as I hoped she would be awake earlier and thus sleep earlier tonight!

I’ve read a bit and watched an episode of better things, I’m not quite awake enough to study yet so I’d better charge the iPad ready to do that later.

Twattyvirus20 I like it.

That 🌺 for you.sort of thing DH would have done when he was younger. I told him if he goes to the pub he needn’t bother coming back here so he hasn’t yet.

I have just broken my favourite small bowl. Someone put it on the pile of flat plates and I didn’t know. Brought snack plate out it came to and fell on tiled floor. Broke in half with a few splinted bits.
This crappiness looks to continue.
The kids next door are screaming at each other. The walls are seventeen inches thick.
I have just eaten cake for breakfast. I brought a cup of tea back to bed so decided cake seemed a good option which is why I broke the plate that and the fact someone put my bowl back in the wrong place.

Ted and Ned are in the borders, they sent me a postcard. They are not allowed to travel more than 5 miles. I don’t know how people are getting to work esp. NHS needing to go over the border.

I feel dopey because I took 20 mg. I am using up old ones to make sure I get prescription on time. It was later last month. 25 mg.

The painter called in yesterday he starts on Wed 8:30 am if dry. The craft room is full of stuff as in hoarder mode since Christmas. DH kindly chucked stuff in there instead of stacking it properly I need to do that today or I will be highly embarrassed. I had shut the door and avoided it up until now.i just shut the door. I need to put clothes away first.

I am going to make the bed then dump stuff until I can see the floor. It is a long job which I have been putting off. I was waiting for builder to finish so I could stack things in hallway. I didn’t have this groggy feeling yesterday but I haven’t run away in the middle of the night or buried DH under the flags because I took correct meds. I hopefully won’t keep crying this afternoon.

SC I didn’t go to Mass either. I don’t feel comfortable about it. I went to the Cathedral in Bristol not many went to communion. I feel if I go to online Mass it will have to do. I tried to go to Windermere to our former priest but it wasn’t on. He says Mass at Ambleside so I wondered if he had gone there and forgotten to take it off the list. It just showed empty church. Lots in Ireland and Scotland if you want to go. I feel if I won’t go to the supermarket or school because of the virus then church is in that grey area. I want to go but I don’t want to go. If it was open air I might. It’s the Catholic guilt as my friend Paul would say.

I can’t make my mind up whether to get up or have half an hour more. My eyes want to keep shutting.

Dr Pepper might be what I need.

Bower 🥤

Hope you can have an easy day bower you sound out of sorts 💐 is it amitryptiline you’re referring to? I remember the fuzziness well. Also I had no idea, until I looked back over old photos, how much weight I put on while on that. I stopped taking it shortly before I got pregnant and I think that’s why I lost a fair bit. Maybe the grogginess was making me hungry.

DS is up finally. Had some nice relaxed time with DH chatting so that was good. He’s now trying to find the vikings book again, how the fuck do these things disappear?

Today’s going to be unproductive for sure, at least with physical stuff. I’ll try and get some of the admin bits and pieces done. Starting with a quick list of things we could possibly sell, I’ll just put them on my own FB first to see if friends want them. Home ed resources usually do well. I really wanted to have sorted more games by now but we’ve had no toddler free time to play really - too brain dead in the evenings!

bower
That I believe it twattyvirus20 may have originated from my "d"p and started circulating the thread.the only cure is beating them to within inch of lives or DEP on symptoms glue mouths shut or feet together
Unlike China I hold myself fully accountable for not stemming the source with a spade to back of head

I'm told the reason he's had no contact us it's too painful not see everyone normally so best pretend we don't exist.ffs.i don't know whether to laugh,cry or fetch medieval pike...

Anyhoo,
Tada
Harpic lav
Wash on
Fed cats wet meat
Scoutcat ask kibble.last box.grrr
Swept living room floor
Swept kitchen floor
Made smoothie for lil zoo
Made D's breakfast
Wash up
Pop heron food with D's

Wipe shop and put away
Eat my breakfast
Ring boots and speak pharmacy to check poss interaction of dd2 drugs