Cherry waves hello to November 2019. Fledgling Flylady thread for all.[smile]

[Ghoulette1740]

Welcome to the November Flylady thread Fledglings! All are welcome here. A few of us have been around a while but everyone, newbie and lurking, is welcome to join in.

This is my first time running the thread so I hope other fledglings will alert me when I’ve got things confused or if I’ve left something out!! A busy month for us all with the holiday season looming next month…

Very simply Flylady is a zone-based cleaning system which we loosely follow. Everyone is different and has different rooms and life demands. There are five zones and at the beginning and the end of the month we usually straddle Zone 1 and zone 5.
(amend rooms to suit your house – I do the living and dining room together as it’s all one room in my house)
November
Zone 1 Hall, entrance/dining room (Fri 1 – Sat 2)
Zone 2 Kitchen (Sun 3- Sat 9)
Zone 3 Bathroom and another room (Sun 10- Sat 16)
Zone 4 Master bedroom/closet (Sun 17 – sat 23)
Zone 5 Living room (Sun 24 – Sat 30)

Pop onto the Flylady website to have a closer look but signing up for emails will probably lead to very many landing in your inbox. Also there has been some concern about securely downloading pdfs from the site. here

Flylady has an introductory scheme for newbies called Babysteps which is a light 31 day introduction to the system – dressing to shoes, shining your sink etc. What I like about Flylady is her emphasis on self care, her abhorrence of perfectionism and her adage that you’re never being behind in the system - just jump in. No need to completely clean your house before you start – phew! here

There is a morning routine and an evening routine to keep things ticking over and a weekly home cleaning hour to change bed sheets, mop, hoover, take out rubbish etc. The system isn’t brilliant for major decluttering so you might want to supplement with Kondo or another decluttering system. Flylady doesn’t want us cleaning all day so she is very keen on using a timer. Clean then stop!
In addition each day has a purpose: see the daily focus here

Monday: Weekly home cleaning hour (can be split into ten minute sections and spread over week) here
Tuesday: Plan and play (Menu planning, family event planning)
Wednesday: Anti-procrastination day
Thursday: Errand day
Friday: Clear out bags, fill car with petrol, date night
Saturday: Family fun
Sunday: Lift your spirit

Launch pad for guidance every day! launch pad

Habit of the month of November is meal planning. This is my Achilles heel! here

We have a lovely virtual naughty corner where we can all retreat – there are all manner of lovely things left there by thread members including fluffy pillows, warm blankets, tea, coffee, wine, delicious foods. This month there are plenty of candles to brighten the darker days.
There may be mention of Ned who started life as an autocorrection on the thread but who has now morphed into a virtual helper with a specialism in putting away laundry. Ned is borrowed by thread members from time to time when the going gets tough on Mount Washmore.
Most days we pop on to post our ta da list of what we’ve managed to do and have a bit of a natter.

Home. Event good but busy. DS was surprisingly in his element.

That's great laputa

SC I have some people in my life that do that, drives me mad, read and respond properly!!

Well, dd made it through the school day but didn't want to go to her sports club which is fair enough. School only rang me at the last minute though so I had to pretty much jog to the school!

Is it just me, I'm always unsure whether to send dd in on days like this, she had no temperature this morning but she did have Calpol before school because she said her throat ached, and her voice was croaky(and obviously she'd been up in the night so tired). The headteacher is very hot on attendance, they have attendance certificates etc and last year we were told dd attendance was not satisfactory despite her having only I think 5 days off in total over the year which I thought was perfectly acceptable . So with that in mind I sent her today, but apparently her teacher said to her oh you shouldn't have come in today you're not well! So dd came out saying why did you make me go!! But they didn't call me so can't have been that bad!

I guess the teachers do feel differently to the head but still, I now feel really harsh for sending her in. The teacher had told me yesterday she'd been quite and red cheeks, lost her voice so I think they just weren't expecting her in today.

Sorry that was so long winded

In other news I have mopped the kitchen floor and cleaned all the sides down which I've been putting off for way too long!

Sorry also full of mistakes there

Foxes unless mine have d&v, or a temperature they get sent in school. If they need to be sent home then they will be!

One mine NEVER got sent home
Gold standard here is temp,not want breakfast(mine always ravenous second open eyes) and just want lay on sofa.they also aware if pick up I would take them in later(have never had to as if pick up it's normally not til mid pm for an hour or so,then slump back into the evening gritty feeling.hope the weekend sees her rest and perk up foxes
Laputa glad it went well

I Pm bower she's still alive,and has lost post she try put on here,but she said to let you all know she's ok!!

Meet went ok,goes to panel 12 th Dec,will be sent app with ed psych hopefully before then

Hospital and outreach came pm.they going come in 2x week for 15 mins initially bring art things and "dobble" game to build up trust.shes an older lady and seems lovely.i showed them the pathetic overview of homework school suggested was suitable as "work from home stuff"- no actual work just vague sentences based on work done in class.they were shocked and took it with them ...

"D"p in a mood as he blocked loo and got all stroppy over it when D's point out who was responsible.said was going home,but now glowering on sofa.the atmospheres awful and I feel anxious.dd2 giving o Dr very anxious vibes and lil ones escaped upstairs.
Someone.just.shoot.me
Why can't I just say bugger off and deal with fallout of D's rather than put up with it??

Thanks zoo. I am still alive.
Just been really busy. Trying to declutter a LOT of stuff that I have been ignoring. Just waiting for fish pie to come out of oven mmm smells lovely. DH did the mash for me.
Did from 10 -3pm in room of doom then went to a Christmas Fair. I bought DD BF a small present of Vegan chocolate and a chocolate spoon to make cocoa. I didn't buy anything else because although some good stuff i either didn't need it or it was too dear. Shower gel was lovely smell and i was going to get some until she said £9.99 and it wasn't a very big bottle. i didn't think DS would appreciate it enough. I don't often buy shower gel because most of ours is from school gifts or leftovers from the bottle stall. They bring a box up and it is a free for all for staff. One of the few perks of the job. Do you think that is pricey for a smaller than usual Body Shop size.
I haven't done much else as Boudoir is a mess because I emptied some of room in there. I plan to swap Boudoir for living room as ours is fairly tidy. Loving the new Dyson 7 as I can lift it easily, it could do small bits of room as I moved stuff around and vacuumed some yukky dead flies hiding behind a post card in the window. I don't like spiders much but by goodness that one did a sterling job.
I will try and catch up with all the news.
Oh and I went to Gardening Club. It was amazing and yes I bought a plant. The lass told us all about her journey since fifty and wow she has achieved a lot now providing plants for top people at Chelsea.
Zoo don't know if anyone said but you can still get your bulbs in now. It has been so mild up until now that it will be fine.You can layer them if you want. Maybe getting DS into gardening would be good. Gardeners are generally very patient people. Look out for NGS and Red Cross garden visits next year.

I spend £1 max on shower gel

Baby-step 23rd November:here
Launch pad link:here

zoo sorry to hear 'd'h is being an arse, although that seems to be the root of the toilet blocking problem

On the subject of going to school, I have sent ds in when not quite 100% and they've spat him out again by lunchtime. Usually his temp goes up when he gets tired at school. I've been trying to keep his attendance up because when he gets a cold he often needs to take a day (asthma). he's at primary and they don't seem too concerned about attendance as long as he's out due to illness.

I've followed Mumsnet advice and switched to soap rather than shower gel. I hope I'm very clean! But I never moisturise and I'm trying to change that.

Glad to hear communications restored SC. You do seem very hospitable with neighbours and relatives coming by. Very impressed by your to do list but there was a fair bit of flying there even if you don't think so.

I am a bit better today, thank you all, but I'm only starting to feel better tonight. Must have been a 24 hour bug thing. I'll drink plenty of water.

bower my poor garden is in a terrible state of benign neglect. We really need to do something by the spring. I happened on old photos of the first years in the house and the garden looked lovely but we've been worn down by life and standards outside (and indeed inside) have slipped.

I think I may have broken Ned with the ironing tonight!

Laputa I know someone who used to HE and she had the same issues as you with cancellations if she organised anything. It's not just you.

Glad to hear you made it out of the room of doom Bower!

Catch you tomorrow fledglings!

Just checking in from the naughty corner, where I’m relaxing after a meal and a few wines with friends (thanks for the brew toostressy it will sober me up nicely ) . We are friends from school days and it’s been ages since we’ve met up, so I’ve had a lovely night. I’m pleased with myself for being sensible though - one of the bunch is a pub landlady so it usually ends in a very late night back at hers. Tomorrow’s me will be thankful I resisted!

Minimal flying has been achieved but between me and DH we have stayed on top of the basics over the last few days so I’m not feeling too overwhelmed. The kitchen is clean, we have clean clothes, and there isn’t too much clutter.

Work was better today. There’s not a whole lot I can do to improve things SC (hope you’re feeling better after your rows with DD and DH). However I’ve realised all I can control is me, so I’ve tried to keep myself for myself, leave the room when there’s any negativity, and not engage. I’m pretty sure one of the culprits is going to hand her notice in. It’s sad as she’s lovely but she doesn’t want to be there, so it’s best for her, and the atmosphere will imprive. I spent a bit more time with the new colleague today and while she still has the same attitude I’ve realised it’s probably coming from her wanting to impress.

Laputa hope today had been. Better than yesterday.

Ghoulette our garden is also neglected. I feel like I need to have some sort of ‘preparing for winter’ gardening session but I’m pretty clueless to be honest. DH cut the grass and put the garden furniture in the shed, I’ve dead-headed some roses, but honestly, how the lovely rose bushes and flowers have survived four years of us living here I have no idea blush.

Apologies for the bold fails

And the typos. Bedtime me thinks

MOrning all

morning everyone,

I haven't read all of last nights comments just bobbed in to say hi before the crazy football & dancing day starts ! I did read your post zoo, I'm so sorry that you have to put up with this, ask yourself 3 questions - Do I deserve this ? Do the kids deserve this? Would we all be better off having short term hurt of fully calling it a day or the long term hurt of going back and forth ? The only person that can answer that is you, some family's stay together because they think it's best, but some familys are happier apart . I would never encourage a family to split and don't know you 'in person' but from what you post, it can't be healthy for any of you I really feel for you and the kids, wish I lived closer so I could pop round for a cuppa and offer 'real life' support. Good luck with the shopping today - I think you're a superstar keeping everything together and looking after those kids near enough single handed.

Morning

Zoo Honestly, what a stupid man. If he cant manage the DCs needs and at least say goodbye ffs then i might suggest he doesnt bother coming over to yours. Tell him if he wants to see the DC he can pre-arrange when and where. Yours are all at the age they will remember what he behaved like. They will also remember you doing absoloutley everything for them

Zoo hope your DS isn’t too upset. Hopefully your shopping trip will keep everyone’s mind off things and you’ll have a nice day. Good luck fixing the WM. Ive is right. The DC are old enough to remember his behaviour, and even if they don’t fully understand how selfish he’s being now they certainly will when they are older. Things are difficult for you at the moment but it will be him that will have to make amends in the future. They will know you always did your best.

Tidy hope the day isn’t too crazy!

DH has been up for hours working. I’ve got a load of washing in and he’s made us all breakfast. Now I seem to be stuck on the sofa under a blanket. Will finish cuppa then try and motivate myself to get DD and I ready. We have a doctors appointment for DD later this morning but otherwise planning a lazy day as the weather is awful.

To do over the weekend:
wash bedding
Another few loads of washing
Downstairs homeblessing
Parcel up and post return
Put clean clothes away
Ironing - minimum of my work uniform
Drop hints to DH to declutter his wardrobe including all the crap on top of it that I’ve realised you can see when you walk past the house

Motivate meeeeeeeeeeeeee

zoo can't add anything more than has already been said hope your day is a good one with the dc

Well done on washer repairs zoo I have big washing backlog going on which i have no excuse for

Hi,
Decluttering saved magazine things. Thinking DH would put them on the fire. Found lots of Christmas ideas/patterns. Need to put them in the boxes under sofa that he doesn't know about. Bought some pretty boxes last year so each one holds cooking, gardening, house ideas I can throw out the kitchen ones, knitting patterns, crochet patterns. I am getting rid of any I don't think I will ever manage to knit.
Right must go as i used all the milk for fish pie last night so he has nipped out to get some.
Happy flying.
I have decided to get room of doom finished before next weekend. There is a lot to do. Most of the rest is in my bedroom.

I will try to catch up on your news soon.

Quick hello from me, still putting away clean laundry and now I've gathered the remaining ironing pile together it is still daunting!

I need to give the (f)utility room it's annual deep-clean as the boiler needs servicing and I tend to throw things in their despite it's tiny size. Off out this afternoon though so catch you again tonight for Strictly!