No delayed exit for clutter - March Flylady Thread 2019 for fledglings!

[ChicCroissant]

What would a combo of exit and clutter be, clexit? Exclutter? Perhaps we should just stick with declutter ....

Welcome to the March Flylady thread, we’d love to have you with us as we chat and work our way through our houses in March. Flylady uses the zone method of cleaning so we’ll be focusing on a different area of the house each week – we will post daily links to the Launch Pad on the Flylady website which gives all the details of the current Zone, daily missions and babysteps.

Newbies are always welcome so feel free to join in at any time. Flylady does recommend decluttering your house first, so if you are not ready for the cleaning routines yet it’s fine to focus on the decluttering bit – add the babysteps in if you wish.

Today is brought to you by the words:
Fuck off
fucking hell
What the actual fuck
How the fuck did you

etc

you might notice a theme. I can neither confirm nor deny the cause of the theme.

Also doors hurt and are evil deliberate moving things that are out to bruise the human population.

that is all

Quick good morning and a wave to all fledglings before I go out for a bit, must get in the shower first! Should be back around lunchtime hopefully, poor DD is suffering but has bravely gone off to school anyway, bless her! Hope everyone is doing OK.

Have a good day Chic!

Ugh really feeling the strain of just how much THINKING goes into home ed at the moment.

I would never underestimate thinking time, Cag. I can get twitchy just remembering the stuff needed to get us out of the door to go somewhere, no way would I like to be responsible for education as well

Had a nice morning out, got a couple of hours now to do housework and eat lunch (soup), will be able to do a quick bit of shopping after I have dropped DD off later tonight (if she's well enough to go).

Hope you are all doing OK Bower, have been thinking about you. Hope the appointment goes well, SC. zoo nose bleeds are not nice to deal with, sorry to hear you didn't get much sleep again

Waves to the awesome Ive, push and Hills

Hills some daysweeks are just utterly crap,I have no answers sadly only support

Tada
Bleach lav
Wash on
Fed cats
Zoolets up,fed and watered
Pack ups
S+s bathroom
Wash in drier
School run
Pick up bread and milk
Get home and realise no cheese or fruit left
Trail D's jibbering to local shops as he's lost ear defenders.ambulance typically passes us when he's without reduces him to rocking mass on knees and people staring at us.FUCK OFF AND FIND SOMEONE ELSE TO SLACK JAWED GAWP AT...

Got him upright,finished said errands and got home
Cuddle/snack/drink
Argue text "d"p as he wants take him to his flat to game few hrs,I said needs do wellbeing cafe for socialization...

Wellbeing cafe was good,he play ball with runner the cockerpoo on lawn out back(fenced in and doors open up onto it,golf course behind that so peaceful and pleasant for him)I chatted member of church and she's agreed to have him whilst I go school meet next week
He came in and she asked him if he might do a little project to make a simple book for her granddaughter(17mnths)
Also had offer to teach him to felt next week.project is making eggs with little polystyrene ones from hobbycraft.he was insistent his would be dinosaur ones,but keen.it start get busy,so we left then,having rounded up the Artemis fowl series,demon headmaster, thesaurus and how to make a bird friendly book all for bargain price £3

"D"p ask for pack up and complained two and half hours wasn't long enough,I agreed to three.they were due back ten mins agohe hasn't done any school work yet today,and it's much harder when he's getting tired and into evening stress but I do feel it's nec to do some every day for the routine

Two more loads wash done,one fold and put away,other currently in drier
S rub kitchen floor on hands and knees to remove old lady rage
Hall floor also
Wiped D's floor,girls room of doom floor
Clean bathroom floor

Tired and just wish I had bit more adult support,but that's like asking for the moon so off to hoik up big girl pants and continue to chore til they return/the get lil zoo(whichever is first)

*ruby the cockerpoo
Bird friendly garden

** Discovered had left ear defenders in dd1 car,she's dropping them back after work tonight!!

Oh noooo poor DS :( people just suck, why stare at someone obviously in distress FFS 😡 love the idea of the book making, I keep meaning to do a project like that with mine. It is one of the things I remember fondly from school, we were told to make an interactive book with touchy feely bits, moving parts, pop ups etc, it was sooo fun!

Love Artemis fowl BTW and demon headmaster takes me back to childhood too!

And thank you chic it’s really wearing me out tbh. Don’t get me wrong I love home ed. And they are flourishing now (and it only took four years... 😳😂) and it is so worth it.

Problem is, I got into a rut of being the one who planned it all. DH always helped when home, if I asked him to read X or mark y or work on a bit of a textbook with them of course he’d do it. But I’d be the one sourcing eeeeverything - choosing appropriate level books, finding sheets to print etc. Which was fine because DH was working FT so it made sense, I am online more and chatting to friends and sharing ideas etc (although among my close friends mine are the ones doing most “proper” work so I don’t really get much advice etc) and I do genuinely enjoy it.

But things have changed now he’s off, it’s great because we are getting more done with two of us around, but that also means there’s more effort needed to find more work. And actually I am lucky in that I do hardly any of the practical stuff that is necessary, due to my health issues, so he probably feels the same about all the washing up and stuff. 😳😳😳

Can't stand people who stare Zoo do they actually have any self-awareness at all? Do they think they are helping? It's so damn rude apart from anything else. Sorry your ds was so upset.

Cag I think I remember my sister saying when she was lecturing that she did about 8-10 hrs of prep to produce 40mins-.30hrs of teaching but Bower will know more precisely. It's really, really hard work. Great that your (older) two are flourishing though! Bravo!

Hope your dd doesn't feel any worse after school Chic

Positive news> gynae appt went splendidly, thanks all! Dr said they removed 7 kg (approx 1 stone) out of me (womb, ovaries, cyst, + two fibroids). Everything finally found to be benign (phew!) and have been signed off and only have to go back in one year's time, in the mean time just have to have another mammogram as first one wasn't clear pic or something. Whey hey!

Can now drive and do everything I did before ; except lifting really heavy stuff and riding! Yippee! It is quite liberating to be wombless actually and I am glad to be ruddy shot of it once and for all! Finally off all the hormones too! I just hope now that I don't go and grow a beard and shrivel like a prune

Not-so-positive news> dd has been so rude and disrespectful tonight that I am actually shaking and feel physically sick (at the same time being quite proud of her English vocabluary and reasoning skills ). I asked her at one point if she was going to be a barrister because she never ever bloody stops arguing.

I would never have dared to have spoken to my parents like that! (Like Pushme's they were very old-fashioned and strict though and like every Irish mammy before her, mine wielded a wooden spoon.) So I suppose we behaved out of fear. I wouldn't want dd to do that, obviously. Reasoning, patience, strictness, even more strictness, outright banning of phone and spending money and so on don't seem to work. . I know I sound pathetic (and always previously thought "oh come on" in my head about parents who say they are at a loss, but I really am at a loss. At the same time, I know she is getting rid of all her post-school stress on to me but it's bloomin' hideous atm.

Sorry for rant. DD absolutely adores dh btw and he can do no wrong in her eyes. Naturally. So when he finally gets back from work there is no point in ranting to him.

That was meant to say 30 mins to 1.5 hrs teaching btw!

sc great news about the health stuff - phew! But that sounds really difficult with your dd and how annoying that your dh doesn't have to deal with the arguing, that seems really unfair. In my humble opinion perhaps your dh should be having a word with her, reminding dd about respect, avoiding arguments, how much you do for them both...

Zoo hope your ds is ok

I've achieved my to do list today, hooray!

SC that is a rather extreme weight loss program you undertook Yay for good results.
hang in there with dd, you might not be able to do anything much about the situation. But it might just resolve itself if you just place your boundaries about what you will/won't accept

Great going Foxes well done!

Ta da:
DW X 2
s&s
cleaned kitchen tops
folded laundry
wms on X2 (TD one load and hung up another)
2 more loads on and about to be hung up
gynaecologist appt
received on-line grocery order; half put away
on-line banking
wrote two diplomatically difficult e-mails
made chana masala for supper

ThanksHills and Foxes yes, no choice but to hang in there really (although I would happily pack my bags tonight and run for the hills!) .

Instead I shall enjoy watching Sewing Bee

sc what is chana masala? I know I could Google...

Tomorrow is a new day and all that

No worries at all Foxes! . Very quick and easy (scroll down to Felicity Cloake recipe) here

Indeed! And I won't be going out of my way to be around tomorrow afternoon either (school half day) with nice home baked snacks available

foxes the food medic does a lovely Chan's masala recipe.google it

SC by fact she can suck her horns in and help out it's just venting out frustrations.not at all fair,but as long as she continues to give chunks of hope behaviour I'd say do as I do -rant i get life's very frustrating and difficult right now,but it's not fair to take that out on me.once said disengage and take self off to another room...one DD will eventually get head out of bum and ask for hug/say sorry.not always the same day tho....
I too get it all,no one else and gets me every time!

Well done on medical front.hope you start feeling more chipper!

"D" p is getting on my nerves not listening,when asking me questions to the answers and complaining wants X for tea,that I don't have and sulking.ffs

Thanks both! I'll be adding that to my list of recipes to try!

I can't believe I've never heard of it! Sounds delicious and the dc love chickpeas so that'll be good.

Thanks Zoo that's very helpful. To be fair she does have good chunks of "hope behaviour" and she always does apologise (eventually). It's just once she's in the moment she has to have last word...I should know better than engage by now...walking away is good advice.

sc you are always welcome to run here, but can't promise calm and quiet escape. Bit bonkers around here... although the rockets up various arses have had a few results... thank fuck