Good evening everybody! Gosh it's been busy on here today!
A huge thank you to lljkk for taking the trouble to post those amazingly helpful links (one quoted below)! Very very interesting to read and will return to the question of Kondo v Flylady later! 
(Have used one of the links to help answer Phoenix's questions below!)
A very warm welcome to Phoenix ! I am sure others will be along with further and better advice than mine, but I echo what Zoo and Hills have already said in that the baby-steps are there just to provide a framework and get you started on your daily routines - so you adapt them to suit your home and your individual lifestyle - so no need to stick to them too rigidly. They are really hints as to what tasks you may find useful to include in your daily routines.
Also, note that Flylady deliberately provides pauses and repetitions in each month, so that if you miss a day here or there, it doesn't really matter.
Although each individual step obviously doesn't take a day to achieve, the idea is that every day as you move through the month, you repeat the previous steps as well, so although there are only a few steps to familiarise yourself with and action at the beginning of the month, by the end of the month you have quite a long list of baby steps to achieve morning and night.
The philosophy of building things up slowly and not doubling or whatever - is to take things slow and consistently - in order to avoid burn out! This is a central tenet of the Flylady system. Many of us have found this to be very helpful advice as housework is an ongoing marathon ... and it is very easy to get over-enthusiastic at the beginning and then give up when we have taken too much on all at once. Again though, do what suits your individual energy levels and lifestyle and your individual objectives.
Although you say that it takes a long time for decluttering/tidying to start ... you can choose to declutter or tidy or do a mission (depending on what stage you are at) in the week's current zone. For example, we are in the kitchen zone this week. Flylady says we can't clean clutter. So if your kitchen is cluttered, spend 15 mins a day decluttering it. Then once it has been decluttered, you can spend 15 mins a day cleaning it (and this is where the missions come in from baby step 13 onwards). I hope that makes sense!
You may find the following advice helpful with regard to baby-steps:
here
and
here.
As you will see from lljkk's very helpful link above, laundry isn't mentioned until baby step 20. You probably won't be able to wait until the 20th to wash smalls 
so carry on as you normally would, but thereafter, if you want to, include one wash a day in your daily routine.
If none of the above makes any sense at all then you might like to buy the Flylady book, Sink Reflections, which helps to explain things a bit more clearly. Personally, although I think the underlying system is sound, the Flylady website is imho in need of a mahoosive update and the info is presented in a bit of a clunk and disjointed way at the best of times.
HTH! If not, don't hesitate to ask again! And I am sure all the other fledglings will put me right if I have got any of the above wrong, or explain it in a more succinct fashion.
Good luck anyway!