New Start November - in which the Friendly Fledglings Flutter and Fly!

[Cagliostro]

Hi all!

Welcome to a brand new month in which we (in a very casual way) follow the FlyLady method to try and banish CHAOS (Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome), and to declutter in order to remove an excess of STUFF (Something That Undermines Family Fun).

A daily BabyStep, plus missions, daily focuses and weekly zones break our time into manageable chunks - all helped by lots of supportive chat and a Naughty Corner stocked with goodies.

All welcome!

Poor cag, I hope you're feeling better soon! (Hands over hot water bottle)

I've been lurking since the October thread, but I'm toddling back in to say hi. The baby is cutting teeth like a champion so work is difficult, but the tidying is often sometimes getting done.

The weekly bleurgh really does help! (As does getting DH to do the dishes)

feeling a tad better today, not really done much but dp is on it, ds2 decided that it would be a good idea to fill the bath to play with toys (I thought he was running it to get in it) and proceeded to fall in it fully clothed "by accident" hes now doing all of his laundry from the week, and isn't best pleased about it, he's also decided to cook dinner tonight . Ds3 wasn't innocent either so hes got his to do as well. He was in the bathroom and giggling when I questioned ds2 about it. Also, I'm sure it wont hurt them to use the washing machine every now and then.

hope you're feeling better cag

Ta das
Dishwasher emptied and loaded
Washing put away /hung up/ more on
Wet vac living room (dh not me and was due to a spillage by dd but at least it got done!)
Washing up
Bins emptied (by dh!)
Dinner cooked and tidied up
Purse declutter

Trying to decide which other room to focus on this week...utility room would mean taking a lot of trips to the bottle bank and spare room would mean a lot of ironing and possibly some paper declutter! Which can I face...maybe I'll decide tomorrow!

Hope everyone had a restful weekend as much as possible, can't believe it's over already!

Thank you lovely Fledglings

Been a rather pointless day all in all, nothing achieved except managing not to totally lose it! I think being aware of what the issue is has helped. Let's just say that being an autistic parents with autistic kids is really completely shit at times.

I have SO much to do but I'm hiding upstairs.

Hi all, that's great Cotswolds.

Ta da:-
Laundry
Read a bit of parenting book as have to do something as DD2 is a proper threenager at the minute
5 min kitchen declutter
5 min paperwork declutter
Started getting bits together for tomorrow. Is soooo much easier doing it through the day .

To do:-
Reward charts
Calendar check
Get paperwork ready for studying this coming week
Washing machine cleaning cycle
Tea
Bathtime
Bedtime
Before bed routine
Drink wine

Had nice time today seeing friends although everyone tired now (except DD2 who had an afternoon nap ) ;so hope bedtime not miserable!

Xpost Cag. Managing not to lose it definitely an achievement .

cag to you, take it easy, will it help to write it down to make sense of it all, that helps me sometimes.

Just name changed, some things I've posted recently can be quite outing, so name changed to this one, what do you all think?

Sorry you had a tough day Cag.
Sorry not to be much good at the chat and personals but I usually end up posting so late.
Having finished the week in the kitchen zone i can see the difference. I have been doing a few minutes extra cleaning after finishing the evening washing up and it does look better . Next month I will have to start dealing with the insides of the cupboards.
Other room for me this month will have to be the downstairs toilet. It's more like an abandoned outbuilding at the moment it is in such a bad state.

Did no housework whatsoever yesterday which was planned as had day out with friends. Back on the train today though!

Ta das so far:
Shined sink
Swept kitchen floor
5 mins hot spots
Mopped kitchen floor

To dos:
Laundry catch up
Weekly shop

I'm still suffering with the cold although the enforced doing nothing has been good for my sprained ankle so I guess that's something.

I'm limiting housework until I feel a bit better so only essential stuff is getting done today.

Ta da
Dishwasher on

To do
Unload dishwasher
Pick up parcel from a friend
Vet with guinea pig
Book transport from airport
Email hotel travel details

Ta das
Made breakfast
Took dd to nursery
Washed up
Loaded dishwasher
Wiped kitchen sides

Lots and lots to do...have decided other room is utility room which is basically a dumping ground. Will start with some bottles to the bottle bank I think. Definitely need to have a declutter / empty bin in the bathroom. Just having a coffee then I will do something....honestly.

Thanks again folks hopefully today will be better. IIRC many Fledglings have DCs with autism so will understand the whole sensory sensitivity thing. It's just really unfortunate that the Caglets are very stimmy at the moment, constantly spinning, leaping, poking etc, and at the moment I just can't handle it! So I get really snappy and stressed. And guilty because normally I am really cuddly etc but at the moment if they so much as lean on me it hurts (both from a sensory POV and due to having a fibro flare up) and I have to tell them to stop. I think it's partly due to the change in weather as well. Always get more depressed once the clocks go back TBH.

ANYWAY today will be better hopefully!

Cag, hopefully today is better for you then.

Is the start of a horribly busy and stressful work week today so aim really is just to get through until Friday night. I think other room is going to be our spare room / study as it has the potential to be tidy but somehow never really is.

Ta da:-
Dishwasher
One load of laundry
Exercise DVD

To do:-
Shower
Have DD1's school friends coming this afternoon so will need to do a house rescue. Realistically will end up doing a bit of a stash and dash.
Make sandwiches and snacks for play date - what have I scheduled this in stupidly busy week?!
5 mins declutter in study
Proper before bed routine as need to leave myself before 6am tomorrow so need to leave stuff out for DDs school tomorrow.
10 mins studying
Email preschool
Get paperwork etc ready for study day tomorrow.

Oh crap sorry I totally forgot links.

www.flylady.net/d/getting-started/31-beginner-babysteps/day-14/ bit of a pointless one TBH

www.flylady.net/c/sp.php

Monday is Home Bleugh

Feel slightly better but still a bit out of it, went to a friend's house to do a learning group thing and that was great. Just shoved a frozen pie in the oven and will hopefully get some clothes put away later.

Did couple loads laundry and weekly shop this evening. Shattered and off to bed

i have a cough and cold now, the cough is really painful. Just when my head started getting right as well.

Oohhh, and now ds2 is having a complete meltdown because ds1 gets cash on his account at school in return for babysitting, and doing odd jobs. Ds2 will barely scrape his plate off after dinner and is now doing the you love your real kids more than me dance. Give up already and its not even 8 am.

Ds2 came and apologised before he went school, gave him a hug and had a chat about how being his step mum doesn't mean I love him any less and in fact he should feel a bit more special because I chose him to be my son. He then went off to school all happy. I think I'll be having a chat with both the little ones later about ways they could help me and earn money.

Hi all, just sprinting past and diving in to say "hello" to everyone. Haven't caught up with thread but hope you are all ok! (Although I see Cag you are going through a tough patch at the moment - hope you feel much better soon . And "hellooooo" to newcomers too!

Warning: whinge-fest follows - pls feel free to ignore!!

It's been a very sad and horribly stressful time here and it's about to get more stressful in 45 mins when we go and see the bank to sort out final admin for property transactions. Feel like puking with the stress of it all frankly.

The past months have consisted of thousands of phone calls, a series of meetings, assurances, agreements - only for them all to have been reneged on at various points by either bank or notaire. The bank blames the notaire, then the notaire blames the bank, and it looks right now as if we are significantly short of wonga for Wed and Thurs signings because of yet another bank cock up. We have been urging them to get this particular issue sorted for weeks and weeks. I am worried dh is going to have a heart attack he is so stressed by it (and he is incredibly resilient in the stress department generally).

Sorry - very first world problem whinge there - please promise you will come and visit me in prison if I murder our bank manager today. It is very, very hard to maintain one's equanimity and not lose your temper, when they have cocked up and been totally dilatory, and yet at the same time you need them to give you a loan .

On the bright sight, vendor has been a delight, as has vendor's notaire. It's only our bank and our notaire who have been complete è§"'éé&§s.

In addition, we all have colds and flu, dh and I both have back probs, dd is physically and emotionally below par. And, owing to recent events, the house is a scummy pit of doom (literally!). It is so bad I am utterly ashamed of it but don't seem to have the head space to do anything about it. Behind with tidying, cleaning, laundry, meal planning, decluttering, semi-house-move organisation, Christmas organisation, everything really . I can see balls of dust hiding in the right angle of every stair as you ascend but can't quite bring myself to do anything about it. Even the kitchen and bathroom (which even in the worst of times I try and keep basically hygienic and ordered) are in a bad state

Once all this stress is over (if it is ever is) I will be back for Flying inspiration!

Big waves to everyone!

Sorry to add to the whinge fest but I'm still feeling rotten. I'm totally wiped out with this cold which I'm concerned might turn into a chest infection. One of our guinea pigs is at the vets today-we are really hoping it's a dental issue but it's more likely to be something more serious and potentially untreatable and with the absolute worst timing ever I fly abroad on Thursday for a wedding.

,,, and for anyone that needs it. Not so much flying as just about keeping my head above water at the moment.

sweeping I find that a little passive aggressiveness help's me deal with murdering people. Its the nice smug feeling I get when I stop someone in their tracks when I say things like, "I know you don't mean to sound patronising or condescending, but ......" usually coupled with a head tilt. Tbh that is the only thing I ever do say though, and the rest of the time I purse my lips together in an effort not to scream right in there face.

ta da (btw)
unloaded dishwasher
put last nights pot in dishwasher
fed pests
kids sent off to school

to do
5 min room rescue (all rooms)
shine sink
swish and swipe
change bed

Morning all

I am determined to sort this shit hole out today!

Did nothing last night due to being unable to put ds down from 6-1130pm! So have all last nights pots and washing etc to do as well as breakfast mess and everything else

Ta Das So Far

Steriliser filled
Washer on
Dryer emptied
Dryer on
2 worktops clear and wiped
Dry pots away

To Do

So much I cannot list or as I will cry