The Hoarders Anonymous Thread Part Two...Still Sorting It Out ~ Together!

[Solo]

Sorting out the home when you're a hoarder (big or small) is never going to be easy and we should know! but having someone else to support you, talk about it with you and make you feel much less of a freak of mother nature makes a huge difference!

If you are any of the following:
A hoarder. In a mess. Untidy. Disorganised. Lazy with housework that has lead to something that you now feel unable to deal with. If you are ill and not coping with the housework. If you are emotionally attached to items for whatever reason. If you have a combination of any or all of these things or something completely different, please join us. No one here will judge you. We have something in common and we have a common goal. We share our ideas and we share our disappointments no matter how big and our celebrations no matter how small.

Welcome to thread number 2! :)

I knowCag a real professional thinks it, but doesn't show it! And an old colleague of mine once said that you can't judge anyone as you never know their back story...how true!

Enjoy London tomorrow! What are you up to there? I'm on the edge of London.

Can I join your thread?

I'm a horder, I thought over the last year I'd got better as I've been de cluttering every 6 months after moving house last year.

But if I'm being honest I end up just boxing everything up and moving it into into the garage or moving things from room to room.

We've moved to a bigger house but on the face of it we haven't got loads of possessions as we don't have that much storage space at present. In reality tho I just didn't unbox most of our things. I did have a massive sort out before we moved (took me 9 months to pack and sort) but I'm ashamed at the amount of rubbish we have.

I did a big decluttered last week after getting midway through the kondo book, I made a massive dent in it and got rid of lots.

I'm now today sorting out my clothes and started off I may wear this that ect and then thought I'm crazy these items are from my teens I've not worn them in 13 years + so I am binning a lot. Also doing my vanity desk and re organising everything.

I've got a keep pile of clothes but I'm going to go through a few more times and try and get rid of as much as possible and start again. I've recently lost weight so no point keeping all these thread bare clothes that are 2 sizes too big.

Hi Stripey welcome! TOTALLY understand the moving round of boxes etc. Well done for making progress!

Solo we went to the Globe! They had a kids' festival, and we saw a storytelling company (actually just two people) do Midsummer. It was fab, very unusual but brilliant, we laughed a lot. We've been studying MND for a while as a home ed thing, this was a great way to round it off. Macbeth next! :)

Woohoo, the friend who wanted to buy half our marble run is in fact buying all of it. Happy to get rid and that's a few quid for us too.

Welcome Stripey! :) come on in, you are amongst friends here .

Cag how lovely!

I'm for sleep. Night!

How are we all?

I have stalled again!

And welcome Stripey! Sounds like you're making great progress. :)

Welcome Stripey

Yes, I have stalled too and our room is building up again :(

I am giving myself a week to plan and then I am going to do an hour a day until I clear my house !

I have a knackered gear box! And I don't know how to start again! If I did an hour a day, it'd take me years as it already has!

My electric shower is no more! Crapola!!

I don't mean on my car! I mean I can't get going!

Stalled even worse than before here now :( took the DCs out on Tuesday and am totally up shit creek, pain/fatigue-wise. Ugh.

RIP electric shower! Our shower doesn't work either but we haven't told the landlord yet .

I need to plan as well Babies - would be good to feel I am still doing something! :)

Yes, my ME is troubling me too :( ((hugs))

I'm away for a week from tomorrow. I'm so tired though that I kinda wish I wasn't going :( Hopefully it'll be good fun. Won't have laptop, so won't be on for a whole week.

Hope you have a great time and that your body lets you enjoy it.

Worse than stalled here, still no better really and house building up to major tip really quickly. Despondent doesn't even cover it.

I am still all out of sorts. Feeling a little better but not enough to power on with anything.

Dad is doing a tip/charity shop run in his car for us on Monday though, and I gave a bag of stuff to my friend for her younger DD. So a few bits are leaving the house. Also asked for my perching stool to be collected by the social services dept - it's not actually helping me (I get a lot of pain in my arms, so if I'm lower down by resting on the stool, it's worse because I have to lift my arms higher to cook etc) and I am sick of always having to navigate round it in our tiny kitchen.

We had our week away and my friend made me feel dreadful for a large part of it. Dd couldn't do anything right so clearly I'm a terrible parent. I have though learnt a lot about my best friend and I have to say that I am disappointed in my findings ~ but no doubt she doesn't think much of me either. She was never a single parent (kids grown up now) and she is not short of money by any means. Needless to say we won't be going away together again.
Dd told me that my friend told her that she (Dd) should help me at home and that I wouldn't let her in to help me. After last week, I'm even less likely to let her help. She would be even more judgemental than I thought and I didn't think that possible! I hope the whole experience hasn't spoiled our friendship, but I don't know... :(

Trying to do stuff here at home this week. Hard though.

Cag you still sound like you are 'doing' so well done!

Oh Solo :( she is no friend, she doesn't deserve you sorry you had such a rotten time.

I am not doing much really, been a bit depressed the last week or so and struggling to get going again. I have gathered a bag of recycling this morning but only because I'm trying to find the glue gun and I've been delving into various bags of random crap.

Dad did take some stuff to the tip/charity shop yesterday as he was here with the car. Stuff we'd sorted out a month or more ago, so not 'new' progress IYSWIM, but at least it's gone now.

Cag :( I haven't the heart to tell more of the week. I really wish I hadn't gone away at all.

Good that you've got the stuff gone! I need to do that too with clothing for the C4C place; it'll make some space!

(((solo))) Sorry you had a bad time. It is awful when a friend let's you down. :(

:( 4 decades...

:( That really sucks. It must have been a good friendship for some, or most of that time. It is horrible when friends turn nasty, as it does sully the memory of the good times - but it doesn't take them away altogether, IYSWIM? It's really raw now but it does get easier. (((((hugs)))))

I have the house to myself as DH has taken the Caglets to Ikea. We need a couple of bits - not storage! I am catching up on laundry and have a few errands to do (from home thankfully - had a really long and hot day out yesterday). Living room is a major tip. Ugh.

I've known for years that she can be thoughtless and self centred, but to go through a week like that with criticism and other such things...disappointing.

I've done bugger all in the grand scheme of things.

Bugger all here too Solo I am just sitting here surveying the mess!

How are you doing?

Doing?! Errrr I'm not :o

Yesterday we had friends round, and the living room is a mess as we haven't had pupils for ages, so we panic tidied in the morning. DD said "So do we just put all this stuff in a bag then?" she knows the drill

How are you my dear? x