Hello everyone, I fell off yet again! 
Apologies in advance for a ridiculously long post:
Beyond hello fellow Aspie! Do you mean you've been diagnosed now? How do you feel? I'm really feeling so much better about myself since having it confirmed - I've known (or at least very very strongly suspected) for a while but having the assessment with somebody who really understood me - and how it was all so complicated because of what happened to me as a child - has made it far easier for me to finally accept myself.
Shame I missed a troll - going by the name, I'm guessing they were trying to recruit us for the next season of Obsessive Compulsive Cleaners or something?
Anyway, my news... firstly, I mentioned DH's job was at risk. Well, he's got one more week of his notice period and then he is unemployed. Awesome. Not a redundancy, it was being managed out basically and he had no choice but to leave before it got a whole lot worse (and therefore scuppered any chance of getting a new job). I am seeing the positives though. We have a little trip away (booked before any of this shit happened) the week after he stops, and then after that we've agreed that any time between jobs will be spent SORTING THE HOUSE OUT.
And yes, I am also looking forward to having him around more for my own sake (and therefore the DCs) - home ed is going brilliantly as it's not at all physically demanding for me, but everything in the house usually gets left to him and stuff like cooking is often beyond me. We aren't living, we're surviving and barely so. Thus, while he will continue looking for work, there is a massive silver lining!
Secondly, my job is basically fucked as well :( I've been off sick for months and finally accepted the fact that the job is not suitable for me now my illness has progressed (i.e. it's not just a relapse). :( :( :( I love my job so I'm really sad. I am applying for redeployment to a desk/non-manual-handling role, but not holding out much hope for something that fits my needs (location/hours etc) - worth a try though! I have the option of increasing my music teaching at home though (another reason to get the house in better shape) as that is flexible and involves no physical effort (unless you count tapping a beat with a pencil :o) - scary to rely on that, but I do really love it.
So, in two weeks time we will be starting to properly sort the house. We've decided to start with our bedroom as that is where everything is dumped in a panic tidy. BUT I am proud to announce that we have actually achieved a reasonable amount over the last few weeks, considering everything. It would've been very easy to just think well, DH finishes work soon so let's just leave it all til then. We've done this in the past, always saying things like "oh let's wait until after Xmas/the DCs go back to school/annual leave etc and then we never actually manage it. Not this time though!
We looked into moving recently but due to epicmarket rent increases (that have thankfully been ignored by our landlords as they are happy to have long term tenants) we can't, so I want to just focus on getting this place sorted. Maybe, just maybe, when we can finally afford to move (basically in June 2017 when DD will be 10 and therefore 'entitled' to her own room according to the council) we will be organised?! Maybe...
We were kind of forced into this good phase as DS' toddler bed broke and as he's 6 he needed a bigger size. Thankfully a friend was selling an old single with storage drawers, so we could move the clothes into that and move the Trofast downstairs where it's now storing home ed supplies. We managed to keep going with this momentum and we've sorted out a few other things. House is still a complete tip but I know that we've made progress. I've managed to do a little something pretty much every day. Even on days like today where I couldn't get up, I've grabbed whatever's in reach of the bed and sorted through that until I was well enough to move.
I noticed that my DCs are similarly crap at tidying. Hardly their fault :o and it was definitely the same issue as us, as DD was saying "but I don't know what to do next!" - so I found a method that worked well. Basically I'd go round grabbing anything I could see that already had a home like Lego, pens, dressing up etc - I'd ignore anything that I thought they wouldn't know what to do with, like little toys that don't have a home yet. I'd then create a pile of all that easy stuff, so I could tell them "you already know where all these things belong" and that reassured them, and they whizzed through it. Unfortunately we are nearing the stage now where there's not so much easily-homed stuff, but still we've made a lot of progress and they've been praised lots for their effort (and it was much easier physically for me too as they were happily doing all the running between various drawers etc).
ANYWAY. That's my news. Sorry for talking your ears (eyes?!) off folks. Hope you are all ok. 