August Birthdays and the Fledglings are a nattering

[DarkEvilMoon]

Ok so here is the August thread.

Another chat thread.

Going to be completely half arsed with this.

launch pad from here is all the linky poos which few of us look at anyway
But we are following Fly lady principles. sort of 15 mins decluttering, babysteps and all that.

Oh we are a long running thread, we may seem clicky but we have been around the wrong side of half a decade. We do welcome newbies, and some of the flock joined us only recently.

If you have any questions on the fly lady system do ask and we will try to answer them. Hopefully back to normal service and regular linkies in September after the hols.

So nerh...

Good plan Engels, B12 sounds a possible culprit in how you're feeling. I keep meaning to get mine checked actually, I've had stuff like calcium, thyroid, iron and things but never B. Getting sick of this lack of energy (both mental and physical).

Thanks DEM I think you're right, a formal list sometimes puts too much pressure on. And don't be too jealous, I just realised I ran out of Epsom salts!

I am starting to feel that the only reason I'm managing any of this is because I'm not at work :( I'm in a lot of pain at the moment!

DH has just taken the DCs out for the afternoon so I'm going to enjoy some child free time, but get the odd little bit done here and there.

See I have epsom salts. Two tubs of

Have completely failed to do anything other than watch a silly film from bed. About to kick my ass into the shower and figure out how to take the day forwards. I know what I could probably do with doing though I don't wanna. Another coffee is the answer

Power of 3 might be a good idea.
Shower and up
1 load of washing on
empty car of junk

Well that is the sensible intent....
We'll see what actually happens

Well I'm pretty much just watching back to back sitcom episodes. It is Sunday after all...

Got a little way into the laundry though, and sorted out some board games and books. I am becoming quite evangelical about this method of spontaneous decluttering as opposed to meticulous planning that never becomes reality!

My only other achievement has been to request inordinate amounts of chocolatey carbs from the supermarket when DH goes on the way home!

Right, need to actually turn the washing machine on if we have any hope of getting it all put away dry tonight.

Oh well DH didn't get my text in time to get me any chocolate but he did get a cheap game I've wanted for ages. It's called 'love letter' and I'm hoping that it's as good as it's supposed to be, because I really want to get the Batman edition for DSCs for Christmas :o

So, some spirit-renewing game playing this evening. As well as more laundry and shizz.

Hope you're feeling more energetic now DEM!

I feel 102 and like I have been hit by a truck.

ta da
empty car
hoover 2 cars
wash the upholstery of 1 car
clean down all plastic
Tidy bath (relocate boxes)
clean bath and sink
wipe down freezer door
get rid of horrible closer to dead stuff from fridge
2x loads of washing
move furniture in ds' room
move books from dumped upstairs to dumped downstairs
Hoover wash room

About to pick up that knitting that I was going to do this weekend. After I put another load of washing on...

Time to slow down methinks! Maybe hop into that bath filing cabinet ;)

Big wave to Engles I well remember the first year after having a baby and how unbelievable isolated and out of touch it can make you feel. Just remember to be kind to yourself, you don't have to morph into superwoman overnight. In fact please don't, we've all been enjoying a relaxed few weeks here on the thread, you'll make us feel bad!

Fuzz you seem to be uber productive too. Glad it make you feel good. Shall I send to the shops for you for some chocolate? On second thoughts, he might melt it...

I have some ta das:
Three loads of washing done, hung out to dry, two lots folded and put away
Dishwasher x2
Beds made x2
Dinner in slow cooker
Hand washing up done
eBayed some treasures crap
Took DS to the park with DH
Quick dash to Tesco for essentials
Packed DSs nursery bag for tomorrow, put into car with car seat
Nursery paperwork
Emptied three handbags of crap, put bags and contents away, now down to one bag
Purse emptied of receipts

Going to have an early night, this heat and a grumbly DS have taken it out of me.

Office based tomo so will be much slower tomo, promise Grey. Still huge amounts to do before I get ds back from his holiday. I will get nothing done once he is back, perhaps

Thanks for the offer of sending Grey - it might be a bit far though so I've got Tesco on the case for me

Evening all,

Ta-da!

About 18 months worth of filing, which was badly in need of doing. I keep a small pile of paperwork by the computer and file it into a concertina file once a week or so, when that gets full I file anything needed longer term into box files under my bedand chuck the rest. Anyway, concertina file has been chock-full since April and the small pile by the computer has become a mountain. So concertina file is now empty and I can finally tackle the mountain.

Also stripped all beds, washed, dried and re-made them with help from DCs, also washed DCs duvets. Finally got tent dried and put away. Two visits to the allotment too.

Wow, what a productive day, WhoKnows.

No Flying yesterday, as we spent a large part of it having a picnic in the sun. Sadly, DS1 refused to come out at all, which I think was a reaction to coming on quite a few trips with us recently. Hopefully, I can get him out again today, if only to the playground. I worry constantly about him sliding back into hermit mode again.

Lots of Flying to do today, but I can't start until DS2 wakes up. Which gives me the perfect excuse to drink tea and browse MN .

I'm also aiming to get both boys to do some homework today. DS2's Maths teacher has disappeared (not answering emails and hasn't turned up for two weeks ), so it's down to me to do Maths again. And DS1's school has sent him quite a bit of holiday homework to do.

I don't want to move today. This is not an option but meh to Monday's!

Am making myself a coffee. I'll make a virtual one for you too, DEM.

AAAAAARGH. Nits.

It's ironic that the DCs get them AFTER leaving school! I think it must be because I was paranoid to the point of neurosis very vigilant when they were at school, hair always tied back, Vosene etc (paid off IMHO as we never once had any in the whole time they were there, even when we got the dreaded nit notices in their book bags). Of course since taking them out of school I have been really slack with all that. Lesson learned.

Thankfully it was only a couple of live ones and a couple dead, so not an infestation, but tonight will still be spent in the joyful company of Hedrin. I've got the bedsheets on at 90deg, but how do I disinfect the hairbrushes?

Toffee what a shame the teacher has disappeared. Sounds very immature. Time to look for a new one in September? I'd offer my services if I lived nearer. :o

Right, DD playing out for a while longer, then it's Super Skills and housework. Making pesto at lunchtime too and have a few more cooking plans. Friend is having the DCs for me on Wed (my first childcare swap! Feels good to have people I can do that with :)) and I have a terrible feeling she will want to come in when she drops them off (or worse, when she picks them up). Panic stations! Living room still a tip!

Oh no, fuzz! What an unnecessary extra job to deal with .

Yes, very annoying about the teacher. He was only 17/18 and had poor social skills (didn't like eye contact, didn't say much, except to DS2 when he was teaching him). Possible ASD, I thought, although I know I can't do armchair diagnosis. Maybe he just finds it too embarrassing to admit that he doesn't want to come anymore. It's a shame, though, because he had taught DS2 some really clever Maths tips.

ta da

Drank coffee to wake me up
Helped DS2 make his first poached egg
Discussed recipes to make this week with DS2
Menu planning
Emailed shopping list to DH at work

Doesn't look much, does it? I think that's down to constant interruptions from DS2. I'm not even dressed yet .

Re Hair brushes - brush through hair during treatment so that they get covered too? Tbh only ever use Lyclear and because of the length and thickness of my hair a brush was needed to ensure all treated. Thank god it was only the once that ds shared that little delight. He is consigned to short hair until he decides to look after it Adversion to soap that one He is such a boy boy it is ridiculous mud and bruise coloured

Just realised double booked myself slightly and have lost a day for doing stuff. but am tired enough to want to take a nap so going to plod gently today and do adminy type stuff of which there is yet more paperwork to deal with.

Thanks toffee pita about the tutor though :(

Decided to check out facilities at local shopping centre whilst picking up a few items and I'm loving the rocking chairs provided in a feeding room. I haven't sat in a rocking chair in years and I forgot how great they are

DD's weight has dropped off the bottom of the weight chart and so I've been told to increase the amount of formula that I'm giving her, which is shame when I was trying to reduce to be Breastfeeding only still her health is the most important thing. She gets weighed again tomorrow so I hope she has put on a good amount

Yes, DEM, it's annoying about the tutor.

Hope DD's weight has improved when she's next weighed Dogs. I know what a worry it is.

ta da

Washing up
Cleaned kitchen
Hoovered and mopped downstairs floors
Put rubbish out
Emptied and cleaned cat litter trays
Cleaned outside bins with bleach
Restocked litter trays
Cleared and cleaned out fridge
Handwriting with DS2
Put all the shopping away
Made picnic lunch
To playground and park with DS1 and DS2
Homework with DS1
Made dinner
Dinner

Out with friends tonight, but think I'm going to have to have a quick nap first . DS2 can't stop talking and I just need a bit of peace and quiet...

Hi everyone,

Nice to see you dogs. I had a feeding/rocker chair and I loved it. Then DH stood on in one day and snapped all the gliding mechanism and it had to get chucked

Toffee, what a shame about the teacher. I hate being let down.

DEM and fuzz hope you are both ok and not over doing things.

Blue super sort out on all the paper. Remind me how overdue our paper sort out is...

I had a day at work today so very little flying:
DS nursery drop off
Work
Dentist appointments made
DS nursery pick up
Dishwasher emptied
Beds made
Cats fed
Garden plants watered
Sold some stuff on Facebook
DS bathed and now in bed refusing to go to sleep.

DH has been at home all day creating more mess and playing on his computer all day, although he will tell me he was "working from home". Bullshit.

Evening! Well the first family clean went well today. Kids all chose a job and then dh and I finished the rest. So bathrooms and kitchen were deep cleaned, kids washed down cupboards, polished, de-cobwebbed and hoovered. They thought it was quite fun, but I caught them saying toeaschother that they hadn't realised how much needed to be done! Dd went upstairs and tidied her room voluntarily.... Fingers crossed for them continuing to get involved!

We also went shopping for Dss new uniform and I labelled that. Conservatory and lounge have been reorganised and washing and shopping done. All in all, a pretty productive windy day!

I have been spending too much time on the internet, I currently have the urge to make my fridge look like this:

Better lie down, DEM, and see if it passes!

Grey That was WhoKnows doing filing not me! Moving house is definitely not recommended for those who want to keep the paper clutter under control!

I had a lovely day out with the boys today. Car was in for service and MOT at the seaside so we made a day of it.

Unfortunately, due to massive miscommunication and complications all round, a minor flaw on the car has turned into it not passing the MOT. DH is livid with the garage, but as far as I can see, it's at least partly his our fault for not following up when we first noticed the problem, and not checking that they'd have the parts to fix it today. Wouldn't help to say so to him though, so venting on here instead!

Nope still want to

Crikey that is one full fridge!

It's quite quiet on here, is everyone busy?

If I can briefly lower the mood (sorry) I realised that the physical relapse I'm suffering now (M.E.) is inextricably linked to the fact that my mental health is spiralling, I've suddenly got all anxious and unsociable and lethargic and have gone from enjoying our new home ed life and meeting people to being scared at the prospect of human contact! I'm also thinking it was mental overwhelm that led to the relapse in the first place. The last few weeks of 'term' where crazy with meetups, clubs and stuff - so as well as the physical rushing around I was socially worn out too, and I think that's what contributed to my body going 'fuck this, go and lie down you silly twat'

Thing is though I'm REALLY worried about what my managers will say when I return. In my first year of illness they pointed out that most of my absence was in the summer and Christmas holidays. "I just need to point that out" - as if I'd chosen to be off then (would they have said that if I'd broken my leg I wonder..? ). TBH if I'd chosen when to be ill it would've been during term time because then I could have some peace, quiet and rest in the day wouldn't it! Anyway, it seemed to be a pattern. I think one out of the last two years I have been ill during summer again. So of course now I'm really worried about what they will think (or even what they are saying now while I'm off). Because of course it's not bloody intentional, but when you have a subjective, invisible illness nobody can prove it :(

I'm almost tempted to say that school holidays don't exist anymore as we HE, but actually I'm starting to think there is a non deliberate obviously FFS reason for this pattern. Maybe it's the craziness of rushing around at the end of term (whether school or not) that pushes me over the edge and my body finally gives in at the first sign that I can 'stop' - like the reason people often get ill just as they go on holiday. But work aren't going to be very accepting of the fact that my health can be so tied up in my family life, especially as I've chosen to HE in spite of having a disability. Really don't know what to do. :(

Anyway. Sorry folks, as you were! Rant over! Onwards and upwards hey? Got a child free day as my lovely friend has taken the DCs, I managed a little walk after dropping them off (she's bringing them back for me) so I'm having a rest and then trying to figure out if there's any very gentle housey things I can do while sitting in front of the telly.

I always get sick in holidays. Exactly as you say, burnout during the term and once I stop and things calm my body is like "thank fuck for that are you trying to kill me!" Am not sure what to suggest about work though. If worrying about work adding to the downwards spiral? Have you got a list of triggers that can help identify when things are likely to spiral down? I know that I have a list and that the office are more understanding that unless urgent I will do some jobs better on one day than a different one. mind you scaring them does kinda help a case a bit I do wish you the best of luck with getting everything sorted.

No chance to fly today, although feeling a lot better today than I did yesterday