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The fledglings try something new for June

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DarkEvilMoon · 31/05/2015 18:39

Hello, welcome back and jump on board for June.

As the thread title say we are mixing things up a bit this month, it might work. Then again it might not. It is still a long running thread and newbies will always be welcome. Usual disclaimer still applies "Don’t let it put you off if we appear a bit cliquey, we really aren’t! Some of us have been on here for years – but all lurkers, intermittent returnees, oldies and newcomers very, very welcome"

But here is where this thread is mixing it up. No more daily links. The Big link you will need is the launch pad from here you can get the daily reminders/missions/zones etc...

The first link for the babysteps is the particularly waffly introduction to and first babystep here, through it you can get to all of the other links

Not sure this will work or the lack of daily posts will be a problem. So fingers crossed for a month of nattering and flying success...

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MercuryRising · 03/06/2015 06:20

Toffee - Im glad ds had a good first morning in his new school.

Missy - you sound very kind.

I am still lying in bed as I feel shattered this morning. Dd was up during the night complaining of tummy ache although thankfully she seems ok now.

To do before school:
Make beds
Hang washing out
Washload in
Packed lunches
Wash and dry up
Clear hot spot on top of the microwave
Hoover downstairs

Missymoomoo1979 · 03/06/2015 09:34

Morning everyone, the response has been fab, I haven't done much but others have been amazing.

Today we have new doors being installed, so won't be a very productive day, I want to sort out the rest of my books though.

To do:
Sort out books
Clean washing away
Make eldests bed as he's back from his holiday tomorrow( such a peaceful week with the teenager away)

Ta da
1 load of washing done waiting to be put out once the workmen move onto the new front door.
Hoovering

DarkEvilMoon · 03/06/2015 12:35

Today is not going to plan. Ds is deliberately sabotaging all plans and intentions Angry

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Swanhildapirouetting · 03/06/2015 15:48

i posted earlier but it's gone [sorry]

Toffee very good news
DEM infuritating. hope afternoon improves and he feels a bit more peaceful (or energetic if that is what you want him to be!Grin

had a very fretful morning. Housework really doing my head in atm and paperwork. Ds2 is fine and would be much happier if I would just stop stressing I AM SURE OF IT...

on that note - I must go and print out this invoice for his assessment by Ed Pysch (I'm sure if they had realised just how incompetent I am in this department they would have sent me a stamped addressed envelope and a proper paper bill but too late now Blush) So ....a week later...

done
sent off cheque to someone else (ended up dropping it round because no stamp)
did something houseworky to utility then gave up
set up ds2 with his work which he did Smile
took ds to a regular home ed meetup which was lovely/heavenly mix of all ages and boys racing round in trikes (even the 13 year olds) bonfire and sand and water etc
also manage to fill up car with petrol for tomorrow's dd school run Smile

now need to continue to do small amount of housework and quell rising tide of panic about various issues or self medicate with cornflakes and possibly whisky (surely better than codeine)

feel a bit anaemic and ill also very heart fluttery so need to go for my EEG (which I have had form for a week) but cannot seem to fit it in.
have had blood test though - waiting for results next Tues
also need to ring GP re ds OT referral (which bloody LA want me to produce as evidence before Mediation)

grrrr and double grrr to all Mrs Tension and Mr Irritation - you (I am talking metaphorically here) can all fight it out amongst yourselves and I am going to have a nice cup of tea in bombsite garden and print my invoice off..

Swanhildapirouetting · 03/06/2015 15:50

btw DH is being super helpful at present as I think he fears I am going to be carted off to a madhouse otherwise. He has even tidied ds1's room.

Swanhildapirouetting · 03/06/2015 18:02

well, have sent off the cheque and the reports so that is something...
and swept kitchen floor

now lying down again!! all children home and they all seemed to have conked out in their bedrooms.

We've just been sent a email to tell us that our sons should be revising for their science exam and NOT socialising. Ha Ha - I should be so lucky. Ds just said he refused to do any more revision as he had spent the entire day going over stuff in school - so that is bit pointless but he is certainly not socialising. I expect all the sociable people will get straight A's anyway Envy

Greymalkin · 03/06/2015 18:23

Hi all, warning: this is a post full of misery

The sleep deprivation is starting to send me round the twist. I am irritable, confused and clumsy from it. Can barely be bothered to get dressed and off the sofa.

DH is currently on a contract where he has to work away during the week. Two year old DS is so fractious and sensitive at the moment and I'm sure it's because he misses daddy. He has started to have the most tremendous tantrums, included hitting us and his own head. He gets absolutely beside himself with rage and once he 'takes off' it's ages before he calms down and accepts any comfort from me.

Also, an aquaintence of ours, I won't say friend as I don't know her that well, had a still birth of her first child not long ago. I feel devastated every time I see her Facebook posts about babies in heaven and such like. I feel like I have no right to feel like this, but I fall apart every time I see them.

Feeling very delicate at the moment.

That was all me, me, me. Sorry. As you were.

MercuryRising · 03/06/2015 21:42

Big hugs Grey there is nothing worse than sleep deprivation

BlueEyeshadow · 03/06/2015 22:02

Grey Brew Brew Is there anyone who could look after DS for a while so you can have a rest?

Swan and DEM - hope your days improved too.

DarkEvilMoon · 03/06/2015 22:15

My ds was told very firmly that he had a choice - we did the chores today and something fun tomo or we shouted today and did the chores tomo. The essential chores have been done and I have tackled the wtf happens at your dad's house so I get this when you get back. We have decided we are going to impose a sticker reward chart to try to train his father to parent. Hmm

Grey - ds was like that as a toddler, it is very wearing. A big bean bag to plonk them on to bash their head on safely was the best piece of advice I had during this face. Also that boys are like dogs and need exercising 3 times daily. Thankfully toddlers can be more out of sight out of mind in some respects so distraction (messy play etc) can be good. Eg shaving foam with hidden toys, crazy custard, bubbles, ds had a small blow up paddling pool with ball pit balls in, duck feeding, bug hunts. It is physically exhausting but I always found that easier than the emotion exhausting of stroppy terrible 2/3 phase.

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ToffeeWhirl · 03/06/2015 22:28

Big hugs, Grey. Sleep deprivation had the most terrible effect on me when DS1 was young, so you have all my sympathy. Will try to come back and give some sage advice, but, in the meantime, just wanted you to know that other people have been there too and know how bloody awful it is.

So sorry about your friend. You are right to be grateful for your good fortune, but her loss does not make your daily struggle any less valid.

Fizrim · 03/06/2015 23:09

Grey more than a couple of days without sleep sends me scatty - you have my utmost sympathy there.

Still doing laundry here (how did it get so bad?) and the house still needs major enforcement work. Will get an early night and press on tomorrow!

DarkEvilMoon · 04/06/2015 02:23

Riddle me this:

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Swanhildapirouetting · 04/06/2015 14:27

well achieved further small things today

applied for new EHIC cards
went for ECG at hospt (she said they are not palpitations but to discuss with gp)
swept kitchen floor
food arrived from Ocado
ds2 did history questions (writing themShock) Maths and phonics
he is now off for a run

moved a bit of clutter out of kitchen
put a big wash on
swished one loo and washed round the base
put a duvet cover on
didn't go to Judo (but that did mean a lot of extra time for ECG as dh was around at lunchtime)
exercise (walked back from bus)

oh no he's back evidently a fast runner

Swanhildapirouetting · 04/06/2015 14:30

DEM I threw away too much recently and ended up with no "basic" skirt that you put on when you are in a hurry and want a stretchy waistband Blush And all those rather dowdy summery skirts I threw away last year - I need them now!!!

I bought some material to make a skirt but not surprisingly I haven't made it yet Confused

Steadycampaign · 04/06/2015 16:40

[SC gallops in to thread, paws ground with front hoof, rears, whinnies and gallops away again]

Just wanted to say "hullooooooo" to all you lovely fledlgings and thanks for the good wishes for dd's Confirmation. Happy and oh so relieved to report that it was a truly beautiful Mass and a lovely day and the after party went with a swing too! Survived all the visiting guests too! Stomach played up throughout but managed to get through! Phew!

Now firmly in to exams (physical ones this week- academic ones next week and week thereafter) so not much time to do personals but just wanted to say:

A huge thank you to Greymalkin and Dragon for running the thread so beautifully in May! (And so sorry to hear that lack of sleep is understandably getting you down and that you are feeling overwhelmed with everything. You never have to apologise for venting on here x)

And a huge thank you to DEM for taking up the reins (yet again) for June! Glad visit to potential new school went well!

Swan am rather worried about your fluttery heart (I have rhythm prob so very much sympathise - it is not a nice feeling). V. glad to hear you have gone to have ECG and hope they get to the bottom of it quickly.

Toffee have been thinking of your ds1 and his first morning at school! Glad it went well! And congrats to you for being invited to an interview!

Linzer hope your dd1's hospital visit goes well as does the pump-fitting

A warm welcome to MissyMoo Seffina and Morein!

Big waves to mercury Whoknows Honu Feetheart Fizrim Goth Castle Engels Pushme Nicknacks Shannara Seaside Bless and anyone else who is lurking, or anyone else I have missed!

ToffeeWhirl · 04/06/2015 17:28

Lovely to see you back, SC. So glad to hear the confirmation and after-party was so successful. Best of luck for the exams this week and next (physical exams too? Poor kids!).

Swan -you have the perfect excuse to go clothes shopping now Wink. Hope GP can get to the bottom of your palpitations, or whatever they are.

DS1 managed another morning at school. Phew. He was very wobbly indeed this time and felt sick when he arrived. However, he went in anyway and the sickness wore off eventually. No school again till next Tuesday now.

Home ed: DS2 did some good handwriting practice, grumbling throughout, then we tried writing a story together (an idea of mine to encourage him, as he refuses to write stories). This was very frustrating as he kept deliberately jeopardising my plot until the story ended up as a meaningless ramble, rather than the 'invasion of the giant cat' story it was meant to be. Also, he still forgets to capitalise the first letter of his sentences and won't leave spaces between words Confused. Both teachers and myself have been reminding him of this since Year 2, possibly before. I was so frustrated with him by the end that I ticked him off for forgetting these simple rules and for messing up the story plot and he stomped off.

However, later we did some work on division and he understood something he hadn't understood before, so we ended on a positive note in the end.

Fell asleep with the cats on the bed.

Then this wonderful thing arrived from Amazon. Had great fun deshedding the cats - half filled a shoe box with their fur! Am so fed up of cats' hair all over our clothes, so am hoping this will help.

Off to cook dinner now: chicken with lemon, garlic and rosemary, cooked with new potatoes.

Meant to be doing a big pile of ironing too Hmm.

DarkEvilMoon · 04/06/2015 22:31

No flying was done. We spent the entire day out in the hills.

Good to see you are doing ok SC
Swan Grin law of sod that.

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Fizrim · 04/06/2015 23:50

Grey, hope you got some sleep.

I did more laundry and a bit of tidying, DD noticed the difference (although I think most of it was her toys, and now I've thrown them back into her bedroom there is hardly room for anything else).

We need to talk about the toys. Does anyone have any advice on persuading a child to let toys go?

MercuryRising · 05/06/2015 06:23

Morning all. Lovely to 'see' you SC
I did the bare minimum yesterday, the first week back at school has left me drained so I was in bed just after the dc.

To do this morning:
Fold up dry washing
Wash load and out
Make beds
Tidy and dust downstairs

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 05/06/2015 07:13

Toffee - we've got one of those grooming tools, it does help a lot but both our cats dislike it. I used to use a rubber brush and they definitely preferred that.

SC - welcome back, glad the confirmation went well.

Grey - sorry you are feeling so down. A few years ago a former colleague of mine had a stillbirth, although we weren't close I found it very upsetting.

Day off work today, need a list. Back in a bit.

Steadycampaign · 05/06/2015 08:14

Morning all! Thank you very much for the lovely welcome back! Smile

[Empties freshly baked croissants, some petits pains au chocolat, a plate of craquelin, a loaf of buttered cramique on to a large plate on naughty corner bar along with freshly squeezed oj and some "power berries" and serves with hot strong black coffee for those in need]

And reading the thread (although haven't caught up properly yet) it sounds as if a lot of you are in need and that the end of academic year pressure and life in general, sleep deprivation and the antics of fractious, tired dc etc is taking its toll [pours more coffee]. Here's hoping life gets a bit less stressful for you all soon.

Very sunny here (apparently it's going to be 31°c today Shock)

Lots going on at the Institutions this morning; BBC Radio 5 cameras everywhere - lots of mutterings about Brexit and Grexit etc

Feel as if I have been born, lived and died all before 9 am today [sigh] ...

... which started a little after 6.00 am with dd crying in our room hysterically saying she felt unwell and couldn't go to school. On further investigation it turned out she has a two-hour lesson this morning in which she has to give a power point presentation (the very same that she is presenting to examination committee next week) and she hasn't written or inserted the corrections and extra bits that the school insisted on when they had a previous practice run over a fortnight ago [sigh] And this morning, her very strict headmistress will be listening in. Oh dear ... .

It has admittedly been very busy this week with last of our visitors only leaving on Wed and dd is tired but I've grilled her every day about hwk only to be told "we only have revision" and she did have time to do this task (although has always seemed strangely resistant to it, for no clear reason). When I asked her why (oh why!!!???) on earth she is was in this position this morning when she must have known it was coming up and it was so important, she simply said "I forgot" [sigh]

[SC pauses to grimace, rock in chair and pull out clumps of hair]

As there was not much else we could do at this point dh and I then proceeded to try and jolly her along and to go in and face the music; this took one and a half long hours Hmm. I told her to adopt a 'chin up, 'fess up and be honest and admit what had happened up front and ask if she could do the missed work in the first hour.

Dh on the other hand (in an attempt to get her to smile) made up a long list of things that could haven't befallen her USB stick such as the dog eating it, the dog burying it and the dog sitting on it, guarding it and not letting anyone come near it.

We'll see ... .

Hope everyone else is having a less stressful morning!

Big waves to everyone I waved to yesterday and a special wave to Blue whom I missed off the list by mistake! Smile And furry waves from the dog (who is really starting to 'get' some of his training - yippee!)

Enjoy the sunshine everyone!

Steadycampaign · 05/06/2015 08:24

that should have read 'chin up, 'fess up attitude'

Swanhildapirouetting · 05/06/2015 09:12

Ds1 has gone in to the first of his two Science GSCE papers. We are all strangely blasé about it have given up worrying

SC Dd did a similar 6.30 scream fest (due to school organisation) She had lost two textbooks (I found them eventually) and worse still Ds2 had found a special packet of crisps (vegetable ones) she had been hoarding from the Ocado order earlier and hiding them from her Shock We did manage to get her off to school but it is so wearing..Hmm

Toffee sounds like the best start - at least he knows he is going to worry rather than it being a sudden shock to the system when something feels "wrong". Ds2 and stories have never been a good match. However film scripts seem to suit him better or storylines for sketches. Or the other trick friends of mine have employed is use an existing plot (say David Walliams) and retell it in your own words. I think originality is overrated.

DEM the hills the hills! how lovely

This morning I am trying to keep calm re: paperwork and outcomes/plans. various appointments sorted for next week and beyond for both ds2 and me so I must have achieved something but I do feel like I am going round in circles flapping my wings against the bars of a cage. Exaggerated really.

Grey hope both you and ds can get some sleep today. Could you curl up together ever in bed for some special cosy time? Sometimes they are just as tired as we are Sad I know dd was unbearable when she was overtired as a toddler. Ds2 was sweet - he used to just drop off to sleep unexpectedly on the floor playing with his trains but dd - no she just got stroppier and stroppier until she was doing as you describe and it was frustration and tiredness.Sad

better go now and try and enjoy life a bit more!! Football today and cleaning lady is coming after long absence. Then the weekend and only one more week to go before the new garden room gets built. And finally we can have our lawn back. (although probably many more months of mud)

Fizrim · 05/06/2015 09:26

I admire your patience SC, I would have got her started on the task - although I remember writing stuff myself before school so I'm not the best example!

I've had a less stressed start to the day, I had a nosebleed - I feel as if I am falling apart this week, LOL! Haven't eaten very well because of the stomach bug, so will get back on the vitamins and stuff now.

Better crack on with the house, back later - have a good day everyone.

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