Kondo thread 8

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New thread for Kondo addicts.

Sorry I can't do all the links that were on the top of thread 7.

There is definitely hope :) KonMari is pretty amazing. She says to just do your stuff first - if DH is totally on board, then you could do your stuff both together. But if not, do yours first and then give him the book to do his or you guide him through it (or he'll find his own way).

The dramatisation is very sweet, I think it's a couple of pages back, worth watching - it's about 90 minutes in total.

Great post, thanks, starface!

Had a big BLIP in the last few days, that completely banished my new Happiness (for half a day, but I fought back!) Problem is still looming very large, but I've held on and recovered my Joy in life!

Iqueen, hope things look up for you soon.
Morethanpotatoprints - I can't remember if it was in the book or not, but I'm pretty sure she suggested finding clothes you love - the ones you are really happy to be putting on - and remember that feeling when you look at the other stuff. I have clothes that were perfectly ok, fitted, nice enough pattern etc, but they were just never top of the list, never the thing I wanted to wear. So they are gone now
It seems a tiny thing but today I've utilised a large pasta type holder to store the cling film/tin foil in, and another bit of my work surface has been reclaimed

I have regressed. My drawers are no longer tidy, except the sock drawer. Help!

Thanks iqueen. I've had a shocker of a couple of weeks, so all positive feedback greatly appreciated. I finally weaned DD (23 months) off the breast. I was totally unprepared for its impact on me, in terms of my mental health. With a few additional stressors plus a highly stressful relational job in the mix, I've had a terrible time, including making a dangerous error at work , largely contributed to by my inability to think and judge. Yikes. Things are settling mentally, though physical side effects continue. Just got to mop up the mess and my reputation now!

What stage are you at, Peonies?

Thanks for the flowers, BrandNewIggi - I have put them in a vase!

Starface I'm sorry to hear of your rough news.

Aoart from the positive feedback, I can add to your joy, by saying that my ex's Mum bfed her youngest till he was 3! I remember my doc telling me to behave like a cow when bfing - eat, drink, and lie around all day! (Hollow laugh).

I hope work take into account that you were a nursing mother.

Meanwhile keep mopping Ma - our bodies usually catch up before too long.

Bertie I had done all clothes and shoes, paperwork. Then I went on holiday to America and bought loads of stuff in an outlet mall where jeans were twenty dollars

I certainly need to do Clothes again - my weight has settled down after breastfeeding etc, so some clothes that I kept because they gave me more joy than not having them can go - though also need to ensure I have items to wear together. My main problem is a long torso so I had lots of tops that still fit, but they didn't reach the top of any of my trousers!

Today has been full of achievement - Kondoed two cars which amuses me (one to scrap, one is courtesy car, keeping friend's car). Cleared out all of our car - amazing how much junk can pile up in 10 years. But more satisfying in fact was getting rid of a bag of make-up and one of toiletries, which I've been meaning to finish adding to and then put on Freecycle since, er, I started Kondo on thread 1... Someone also nicked the bag of stuff I'd put outside to eventually take to the charity shop, which solves that one!

Best wishes starface - hope you have lots of cuddles with your little one still.

Don't worry. I would either go through clothes again and then carry on, or just carry on and then redo clothes at the end. She says that you need to discard in all categories first and then go through every category again to work out storage anyway, so I wouldn't worry if it's not staying wonderfully neat yet.

And in future, when shopping, remember to apply the joy criteria to anything you bring in as well :)

Does anyone feel they are losing their mark on the house? I just did one bookcase as didn't have much space to store bags to charity and now it's all everyone else's books and not mine.

I think I may need to do clothes again with more of an emphasis on wehat sparks joy. I feel scared though! What is that about? I think it is something to do with fearing that if I really only kept what sparked joy I'd be left with 2 pairs of knickers and a dressing gown. I don't have money to replace stuff really. Also I find clothes shopping really tiring. Also I find it hard sometimes often to know what I do really like or what looks good on me!

My Mum has been staying for the weekend and wanted to go clothes shopping in the Big City. So the upshot of that is that she has bought me some new things too. I realsised walking round Big City how shabby some of my clothes had become and how fat I look so I think this is prompting some of the feeling of needing to re-do clothes!

educating yes, I am like this too. I have 4 or 5 large very warm jumpers. I know I don't need them all.

Horrid cold seems to have transformed into sinusitis. Mild enough for painkillers so far but not nice.

Not sure I'll get back on the wagon properly anytime soon.

Sorry you are feeling under the weather JKS. Hope things improve soon!

Hello! I've been lurking on these threads for ages as I love KonMari, had a good month of decluttering but I'm now slipping back. Hopefully being on this thread will re-motivate me!

JKS, I am always impressed by how you just keep going. Hang on in there.

Peonies, do all your jumpers spark joy? After all, that's the criterion, not need. You may have 50 pairs of shoes, particularly if they each spark joy. Imagine the orgasmic thrill of opening a cupboard of so much joy...

Educating, sounds like you need to focus on functional joy at present, with a prospect of increasing aesthetic joy, in both your clothes and yourself, ahead.

Starface - thanks - you are right I think!

Thanks star face

I have at least listed some bits on freecycle. Hoping to save me a trip to the chazzer if people can come here. But maybe I should wear face mask to keep the germs to myself!

Beavers - done
Cubs - dropped off
Kids tea x 3 - done 2/doing 1

Just pick up and bedtime to do. Monday is a bath free night. Then I can crash out. And hope the healthy fairy visits overnight.

Hi all! I am hoping I may join this thread. I'm not a mum but I've read from thread 1 after finding it via a search on Kondoing and you all just resonate with me. I grew up in a quite cluttered home and have a definite save the best for later tendency so the Kondo method does not come naturally.
My book is in a box somewhere with the Postal Service as I'm living in a remote location where shipping times can be excessive and things can get caught up in customs for ages. So, I'm inching my way in with clothes without having read it yet. Anyway, sorry for the long post!

Welcome to new members.

KM lessons I've learned.

It gets messier before it gets tidy. You pull everything out and you have bags of stuff you need to give to people or throw or give to charity. It feels like you make less progress but then when you clear that stuff...

Cleaning your house when you've done KM is so much easier and quicker. I clean our bedroom twice a week now (or more!) and it's so easy. Quick hoover and dust. Put clothes away.

You reidentify yourself. You know what's important to you. What you like. Where you're wanting to go in the future and what you cherish from the past (positive memories!). I discovered that my kids are not 'little' anymore and that in 5 years time DD might be at uni or learning to drive or working. It's something I blocked out before. She's growing up and I see her differently now, more mature. We've become closer. All because I read the KM book and tidied a bit. Crikey!

Welcome Nectarine - I'm not a mum either - room for all sorts on this thread!

So last night I thought I'd dip my toe in the water of "revisiting" clothes by just doing sleeveless/vest/camisole tops. I'm still not sure I'm getting the "sparks joy" thing - I like these tops for different reasons - eg "goes well under x shirt", "love the fabric design" - "warm so can wear it under stuff in winter and it keeps me warm" etc but not sure this correlates with "sparks joy". Still really scared I'll ditch something and regret it I think!

I've ditched 4 (3 to chazza and one as rag - a favourite but really just "beyond it" now) - that leaves me with 11 in the drawer, 2 in the wash and wearing 1! That sounds like way to many still but not sure I want to part with more for the moment. In my defence I do wear quite a few v neck tops that benefit from a cami or vest underneath to stop them being too revealing! They are beautifully "filed" in my drawer now.

Peonies - but do you LOVE them all? :)

Box of random books to chazzer.
2 piles to freecyclers this afternoon hopefully.
Box of girls clothes passed on.

New cheap tshirts for pj tops bought in George. Old tops in fabric recycling bag.

Dds birthday cards gone through and mostly recycled.

Resting now before school runs.

Did clothes long ago but this morning I got rid of two tops that made me feel fat. They were baggy and horrid. Will be buying smaller jeans when I can as current pairs are all too big now I've lost a stone.