can you honestly expect yr dh to do fair share around the house or have you given up?

[RanToTheHills]

bickering with dh loads over this. Don't know what to do - feel that i've got 3 choices:

1. do what needs to be done myself for a quiet life as he seems not to notice
2. tell him to do it and get told I'm nagging him 3)let house descend further into chaos and hope that he'll notice at some point and help out more.

Age old problem, I know. But how do you cope with it? so many women are know (honestly) either accept that their dh will not do his bit and just accept it. I'm fighting against this as I've got a very demanding (albeit p/t) job and I don't want to feel like a drudge! Any tips?

Can I have my DH bck please ??

Cleaner called in sick, I was at work, house hoovered and not a single piece of laundry left for for me to do on my day off. Dishwasher emptied.

He is a marvel sometimes, and did I mention he cooks.

back even

My DH does bugger all round the house - I'm a SAHM and he does work longish hours, but we have got 2 DS's age 4 & 5 and a 12 week old DD, and yet still everything, (washing, ironing, cooking cleaning,) is down to me - if he puts a load of washing or tumble drying in he expects a round of applause! When I say complain or say anything he gets so offended 'because he has not had a day off in 2 weeks blah blah!' I don't know what the answer is, me nagging him to take the rubbish out ends up with him putting it by the back door to "put out later", and doing it all myself makes me feel bitter and twisted and i become evil!
So, this week I've decided to make sure that I have atleast one or two nights out a week and atleast one Saturday a month to go shopping alone so he has the children to look after or put to bed - and he'll see how 'easy' he thinks it all is

i dont expect my dh to do anything as he works really hard, which is just as well i am also sahm who does everything, he wouldnt have the first clue how to cook, operate the washing machine, iron actually do anything he doesnt even know where the lo's pj's are?