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The march towards Minimalism continues...

793 replies

MissAnnersleyismyhero · 04/02/2014 08:29

Hey all, thought I'd make a new thread to encourage us all to keep going on the journey to minimalism! Smile

OP posts:
KinkyDorito · 26/10/2014 12:09

Decluttering is actually really hard work. When you start digging it, it becomes apparent how much there is to sort. I've hit the bookshelves hard in the last couple of days. They are looking quite barren now. It's very weird.

larryphilanddave · 27/10/2014 00:36

Checking in to get back on my TIO!

equokka · 27/10/2014 06:45

Frustrated here with having to spend time and energy disposing of Stuff Which We Accepted Because It Was Free - e.g. been given a load of baby stuff by well-meaning friends which is stained and smelly and for a premature sized baby (I'm 38 weeks now, so hopefully don't need the preemie sized bits!), but I don't feel comfortable donating smelly stained stuff to charity, so now I'm having to do the legwork of washing and stain removing before passing them on. This process is reminding me that accepting stuff just because it's free is NOT conducive to a simple, minimal life! For some reason, my habitual minimalism has gone out of the window when it comes to baby stuff, and I suspect I may regret saying 'yes' to everything that well-meaning friends and family have offered! ...But it's so hard with my first baby to know what we need and what is excess, argh!

KinkyDorito · 27/10/2014 09:07

Drop anything really generic off at the charity shop and don't look back Grin. Keep the few more distinctive bits and pass them on.

Just did my own charity shop run. I'm there so much I'm surprised they even need to ask my name for gift aid now.

It is shaming to be dumping literally thousands of pounds-worth of things.

Never again!!!!

PurpleFrog · 27/10/2014 09:20

equokka - I can identify with that. I am another one who spends time and energy on getting things in a state where I can dispose of them "properly". I know it's crazy, but I really hate sending things to landfill unnecessarily.

I have just put 2 pairs of Age 3-4 leggings without elastic in a bag for the "Rag Bag" collection at dd's school. They are new, but dd was so skinny I removed the elastic to tighten the waistband, and didn't get round to finishing the job before she grew out of them. She is now 16! Blush

I had plans on finishing them off and charity-shopping them, but came to my senses in time. Grin

larryphilanddave · 27/10/2014 10:26

equokka We have this kind of problem, not exactly the same, but we have close people who want to give us their DC's clothing for our DC and it's not always appropriate or useful. Recently I was given a bag of stuff by someone, I wasn't expecting it and whilst I can be ruthless with my possessions I couldn't possibly be rude to someone trying to help us out.

I have a small shelf in a cupboard for these items now, I can't get rid of them as I suspect they may want them back if they have more DC Confused It's all too confusing for me, so everything now has to fit on that shelf, even if later I have to resort to vacuum packing, and then I'm kind of hoping we'll move/DC get bigger and I'll just hand everything back Blush Sounds so ridiculous but some of the stuff has actually been useful, and these people are a bit sensitive about these kinds of things and it wouldn't go down well if I said, "Here, take these back, but I'll keep those...". Sigh!

In other news, I packed away DC2's clothes into the drawers! A bit of laundry to put away now but much better. I've also finished packing my hospital bags (they were nearly complete before, but I wanted to add some extras) and just organising some final bits before he arrives...

Still have random boxes to sort! And toys to go in the storage space to wait until they're age appropriate. But not too bad

equokka · 27/10/2014 14:14

Oh yes, larryphil, I have two massive bags of maternity clothes sat on top of my wardrobe that were lent to me by a friend who wants them back. Most of them are knackered/not to my taste/don't fit me, so I've been holding on to them for months just so I can give them back to her after baby shows up... They are a lot of visual clutter! I should also point out that this friend is Very Definitely Done with having kids, so I'm not sure why she wants them all back anyway, unless it's to lend to another unsuspecting friend! I know it's kindly meant, and I don't mean to sound ungrateful, but it is kind of a pain managing other people's clutter for them (Think there is something about that in the Marie Kondo book actually).

erin99 · 27/10/2014 19:18

Hi everyone, just checking in. Welcome to new joiners and returners.

Not much progress here but I have tackled a couple of long standing overdue cleaning jobs. It's not minimising but it is still domestic progress! Christmas and birthdays are on my mind quite a lot, just in terms of managing stuff and choosing what to buy DC.

larryphilanddave · 27/10/2014 22:19

equokka That's it, managing other people's clutter! The people we know are, like so many people of course (so it's not a horrible criticism or anything), the kind of people who hold on to a lot of stuff because of "What if...?", or because they feel sentimental, they feel they need to hang onto things given to them, because they feel like they're losing money to get rid... and so on. So sometimes they give us things that we don't really need or want, and when we attempt to return they'll say, "Oh no it's okay, there's not rush" and I've started to realise that it's easier for them, because it gets it out of the house, but without having to properly get rid of it. Especially when they tell me about how they need to declutter, and how difficult it is to sort things out. It has taken us quite some time to get to the point that we're at now, and I still think there are bits here and there, but nothing overwhelming anymore and it's all a lot easier. So our friends/family are now asking us about how we did it, and when we talk you can see the mental process, the same that we went through, of trying to work out if you can really let go.

That might be a bit waffly Grin But yes, sometimes it's weird how you end up managing their clutter for them. I think it's similar to how some people put things in storage, even for years, just so they don't have to give things away. I can understand if you have very little space, and maybe some family heirlooms or treasured items that you want to hand down to children and not just sell or give away, but I know people who are filling storage units with Ikea furniture and boxes of random papers and such just so they don't have to let go but to get it out of sight.

clearsommespace · 28/10/2014 05:57

Hello all. Have been on holiday so no minimalising over the last week although we went to the UK so I was able to drop off a box of books in English to the charity shop. We are having a wood burner fitted in the living room in four weeks time so an item of furniture and it's contents need to go.

KinkyDorito · 28/10/2014 06:22

So much truth in that larry. My whole family is like this and I have been too, but I'm finally making that break. I feel so much happier Smile.

clearsommespace · 28/10/2014 06:30

I'd like to declutter that misplaced apostrophe in my previous post please.
Larry it's good to hear your family have noticed and are asking 'how?' They may slowly realise that parking the stuff with others is not the solution.

educatingarti · 28/10/2014 10:22

Hello everyone! Last weekend I was celebrating a birthday (one of those significant ones with a zero on the end) so the only things that really got decluttered were cakes and scones with cream and jam and I'm still decluttering random items of "party" food from the fridge! I had a fantastic weekend though! I have really brilliant friends!

AmateurSeamstress · 28/10/2014 19:03

Marvellous! Happy birthday Arti!

educatingarti · 30/10/2014 09:33

Thank you seamstress. I'm getting used to being into my next decade and my friend's 19 month old helped tremendously on Monday by calling me "nana" at regular intervals! Grin

Yesterday I actually tackled all my socks and tights using the KonMarie method ( although I think I still kept more than she would really advocate). I now have a large bag of rag for the chazza and an empty (small) drawer!

Chottie · 31/10/2014 02:06

Hello and may I join you?

I've been reading this thread with interest.educat please could you explain the KonMarie method for tights and socks? Thanks

I decluttered my handbag / scarf shelves earlier in the week and I found lots of pairs of unused socks and tights which I'd tucked away and forgotten about. I now need to declutter my current sock / tights drawer and move some of the new ones in there, so any advice would be welcome.

I went through my clothes and recycled lots of stuff which I haven't worn for over a year. I have some things like dresses bought for weddings, which are good quality, classic styles, but just too dressy for work. Just not sure what to do with them at the moment?

KinkyandGhoulishDorito · 31/10/2014 09:34

Hi Chottie Smile. You could sell your dresses? Or put them in the attic until it is the season for them and wear them or sell them then?

My high point this week was filling an entire black bin liner with socks. they are my nemesis: I spend hours trying to pair hundreds of them up. Not any more .

larryphilanddave · 31/10/2014 10:14

clear I hope so, I do worry slightly about how it can impact on them. They're not at an extreme level of hoarding, but they really do not want to let go of so many things that are clearly not needed - eg an old toaster, when they have a new one that they use, because the old one "still works well". I can see why they'd give that to someone who might find it useful rather than chuck it, but it's not doing anything useful in the attic! Problem is they have a lot of stuff that falls into this category, and they get frustrated by the lack of space and storage and the mess that comes with that. They would like a bigger place with more storage, but I fear that would just mean they fill it up and then end up in the same position.

arti Yay! Sounds like a good reason not to focus too much on decluttering (other than the essential party food decluttering, of course... I want to declutter party food! Grin).

Chottie If you want to keep them for special occasion wear, would you be able to put them somewhere if you vacuum packed them? My rule at the moment is to not store anything in a way that's hard to get to (and easy to forget), I think that helps not to just leave stuff everywhere. I have a couple of special items, they are stored under my bed so they're easy to reach but not in my every day wardrobe. I wouldn't want to get rid of these because they do get used, just not regularly due to their nature. In our previous place I didn't have space under the bed, but I did have space on top of the wardrobe, so I reused a nice box and put them in there.

educatingarti · 01/11/2014 08:10

Welcome Chottie.

Marie Kondo wrote a rather loopy (but stangely useful) book called the Life Changing Magic of Tidying. Theres a whole thread on it here. The basic question to ask when gettingrid is "does this spark joy?" (though not sure how much joy one is supposed to feel for socks!) and then has special ways of folding stuff. For socks/tights - basically fold and roll rather than ball them. here for an article [[http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/23/garden/home-organization-advice-from-marie-kondo.html]]

educatingarti · 01/11/2014 08:13

trying the link again [[http://www.nytimes.com/2014/10/23/garden/home-organization-advice-from-marie-kondo.html]]

educatingarti · 03/11/2014 12:50

took 2 bags to the chazza this morning - one of rag, one of items to sell (quite a few books). Then I bought a dress!

In my defence ( your honour) it was in colours I really like, Boden and ony £10!

andsmile · 03/11/2014 12:57

Hello - can I come back, I was here before but fell off thread.

Chottie · 05/11/2014 06:53

Morning and the decluttering continues :)

I love the way it makes my home seem larger and fresher somehow.

Thanks for the advice regarding dresses. I've pruned them and am keeping one dress and one skirt and top. These can just hang in the wardrobe. I hang everything possible up (Trinny and Susannah tip) as it really cuts down on ironing and/or re-ironing due to creases.

I'm looking in the airing cupboard and sorting out towels into sets. There's only DP and me in the house, but DC and partners stay regularly and I like to have plenty of towels. The old ones I take to work and give to someone who has 4 dogs and lots of doggy friends, so they get reused.

Chottie · 05/11/2014 06:55

When DS comes home, I'm going to ask him to go through a drawer full of IT leads and connectors and see what is still current and what can go.