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Remember, remember to Fly through November, but Fledglings will chatter a lot

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BlueEyeshadow · 31/10/2013 11:06

If you are strugging with C.H.A.O.S. (can't have anyone over syndrome) and S.T.U.F.F. (something that undermines family fun) then this is the thread where we (loosely) follow the step-by-step Flylady housekeeping system (in our own, unique, relaxed style) with lots of chat, support and Wine and Cake along the way.

This little-and-often system is designed so that you can follow a series of steps and routines each day (which gradually become second nature) in zones of the house which are designated weekly; defining and minimising housework - which in theory should leave you with loads more time to do someting more interesting instead!

At the same time it is intended to reduce that panicky "rabbit in headlights" feeling when you are overwhelmed and everything needs doing all at once. No problem if you miss a day or two; just jump right back in and it will all come around next month again!

We advise not signing up to receive the Flylady e-mails as you will be inundated! All the information you need will be linked here on a daily basis.

From the first of the month, we will be following Flylady's steps and routines using a three-pronged approach (dependent on the stage everyone is at):

  • start or repeat baby steps
  • repeat baby steps + do 15 mins a day decluttering in the current zone
  • reinforce babysteps and do daily missions if you have finished decluttering.

[And if you are really enthusiastic and have finished decluttering - you can go on to detailed deep cleaning in each zone.]

More info here on getting started and Flying lessons. Here's the launch pad for more experienced fledglings. Don't be put off by the barf-tastic language of the site - the underlying system is sound!

Humungous thanks to SlimChance for leading us through October and such a copy-and-pasteable OP.... Thanks

All welcome!!

OP posts:
iamadoozermum · 03/11/2013 19:43

My goodness PA, talk about timing with the cake Smile but fantastic that you managed to do an on-the-spot presentation.

We took children out for Sunday lunch to avoid the cooking/washing up thing. All four are now in bed (though eldest is reading), DH is doing the tea dishes and I'm about to wallpaper the living room fireplace whilst watching recorded Strictly results. Wish me luck!

GoingGoingGoth · 03/11/2013 20:23

PA I would have just crumbled on the spot.

Ellie I sometimes think my DH thinks he should get a sticker or medal for helping around the house. Maybe I should set up a chart?

Took DD to see Smurfs 2 this morning now I deserve a medal was a bit of a palaver this morning, got to station to catch the train into the city when I realised I'd left my purse at home, so we ran home to get it, managed to catch the next train, and then ran from the station to cinema. We just made it in time.

Got the C*s cake cooked this afternoon, just taken it out of the oven, looks ok. That's a weight off my mind. Even made a smaller one to send to my parents. That's the test! Grin

If there are no other volunteers, I'll do the December thread, we're having a quiet holiday, not going anywhere or having anyone over.

elliepac · 03/11/2013 20:38

We could have a spreadsheet goth.Grin

MercuryRising · 03/11/2013 21:04

Just dropping in quickly before having a bath and early night in preparation for school.
Wow PA well done for dealing with the unplanned presentation so well.
SC your odd shoes did make me chuckleGrin
I'm getting up a bit earlier in the morning in an attempt to leave the house semi-tidy, but we'll see Hmm
Ta da list today is rather limited, in addition to what I got done this morning I have:
Completed my Powerpoint presentation
Done the food shopping
Ate a lovely roast dinner cooked by dp
Bathed the dcs
Dp ironed the last bits of uniform
Listened to dd read
Completed permission slips for school trip for dd
Liased with sil about mils Christmas present
That's it but my spirits feel renewed so FL would approve. Have a lovely evening everybody.

GoingGoingGoth · 03/11/2013 21:13

Ellie I love a good spreadsheet. Even a not so good spreadsheet, as then I get to spend hours sorting it out!

elliepac · 03/11/2013 21:51

Good luck tomorrow mercury. Remember 99% of kids are lovely and want to learn from you. Just be yourself. Smile

MercuryRising · 03/11/2013 21:54

Thanks Ellie it's an INSET day tomorrow so as long as 99.9% of the staff are lovely I will be fine Wink

dizzyday07 · 03/11/2013 22:15

Thank you all for the anniversary congratulations. He took us to lunch at the hotel we were married in! He had also ordered roses that were due to be delivered yesterday but didn't turn up. According to Interflora they were - at 9.25 yesterday morning! As we were all up I obviously need to check that the doorbell rings! More are supposedly arriving tomorrow.

We popped in to see FIL after lunch for a couple of hours before coming home.

The only flying on today's list was:

  • Emptying the dishwasher
  • Supervising DD in the bath and getting her early to bed
  • Check uniform/shirts/PE kit/school bag are ready for the morning
  • This week's school dinners paid online

Tomorrow I will have a bigger list as the house will be blitzed

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 04/11/2013 05:52

Can't sleep, been awake since about 4.30. Feeling nervous about DS going on his school residential, have we packed everything etc. It's going to be weird without him.

Angrybudda · 04/11/2013 08:24

Who Hope he goes off ok. If you have been up since 4.30 I sure you have got him everything, but it doesn't stop the worry!

Ok new week. Last week I was going the baby steps this week, this week I jumping in feet first.

Morning routine done except for 15 minute decutter.

Breakfast and tidy up
Clean kitchen side
Plan programme for tonight meeting
Shopping
Plan tonight meal
Lunch and tidy up
Sort school uniform
Bath 4 kids
Homework x3 for 3 (yes always leave it to the last minute)
Dinner and tidy up
Packed lunches for tomorrow and paperwork
Ironing
PE Kits x4 to locate and pack.

Also 5 minute hotspot

Was feeling overwhelmed this morning. Doesn't seem too bad now I have written it down. Will start ticking it off now.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 04/11/2013 08:59

Thanks Angry - I didn't actually get up, was on my phone in bed. Just as I was drifting back off again at about 6.30, DS appeared and came into my bed for a snuggle, which was lovely as we didn't need to get up till 7.15. Just dropped him off at school, he was so excited Smile. Anyway, going to make the most of him being away to spend a bit of extra time with DD and try and catch up a bit with my OU studies.

Oh bugger, forgot DD's PE kit in the rush, will have to drop that off on the way to work in a minute.

laurenamium · 04/11/2013 09:30

Morning anyway! I have a house full of children so just a quick list dump!

Ta da:
School run and dog walk
Jumpers out the wash on radiators
Dehumidifier emptied and reset
DD first load of laundry in and washing
Emailed invoices

To do:
Change beds and wash
Put DD laundry away when it's dry
My laundry
Put presents in hiding places
Write a shopping list
Home bleurgh including doors windows and mirrors
Riding and stables
Hoover and routines
Shine sink
Today's challenge

I'm battling a cold, I will not be beaten!

Babapeela82 · 04/11/2013 09:44

Morning all Smile

Thanks for the lovely warm welcome, got off to a fairly typical start by falling off the wagon before i'd even really got back on it, so new start again today!

Ta da:
DS off to school

To Do:
Put DD's mahoosive pile of clothes away
Spend 15 decluttering the desk
Make dinner
Plan week's menu
Order online shop
Tidy DD's floor
Bring down laundry
WW tonight
Make 2x packed lunches
Get DD's school stuff ready
Clear out hallway

Should keep me busy!

ToffeeWhirl · 04/11/2013 10:42

WhoKnows - it's understandable that you're nervous, but I'm sure your DS will have a wonderful time. Good idea of yours to make the most of the extra time and keep yourself busy whilst he's away.

Mercury - hope the staff are lovely and encouraging to you today.

Dizzy - what a lovely thing for your DH to do! Shame about the roses, but the hotel meal sounds wonderful.

Welcome to more newbies Smile.

Ta da :

DS1 - bath and hairwash (fell asleep before his bath last night)
Pancakes for breakfast
Packed lunch for DS2 and snack for DS1 (which he left on the table Sad)
Put recycling boxes and all the rubbish bags out for collection
School run
Helped out at school (reading)
Home for breakfast

To do :

Phone uni and discuss course application
Morning routine
Tackle our bedroom (door kept firmly shut during recent guest visit)

GoingGoingGoth · 04/11/2013 12:31

Afternoon all, where did the morning go?!

Mercury hope you have a lovely inset day, at least you can learn the staff names before starting on the children's.

WhoKnows just think of all the stuff you can do for you while DS is away. Make the most of it, he'll have a great time.

Dizzy sounds like a lovely day, hope you get your flowers today.

Woke to DD having a major strop, could only be described as a temper tantrum (she's 9 FFS) so she's grounded for the week. So that's our week off to a good start Sad

Done
Go DD ready for school
Dd to school
2 loads laundry washed & hung out
Beds
Windows
Washing up
C Cake fed (that was a lot of rum!)
Made tomato & lentil soup
Ate soup

Just off to see what the mission is....

BBL

Slimchance · 04/11/2013 12:47

Afternoon all (well it is here). Hope everyone OK. Felt jaded this morning owing to late night flurry of suddenly urgent office work yesterday, involving printers proofs and stressed web designer (on a Sunday evening fhs Confused). Anyway, all plans and routines, inc cooked supper, went out of the window and it was hard getting out of bed this morning - only just made it to school on time. Not helped by horizontal rain or running out of coffee. Yurgh. Must do better.

On the positive front, very fortunate because my cleaning lady is here (postponed from Fri) doing the home bleugh which should free up some time for me to declutter. The only downside being that she has taken it upon herself to throw away what I thought was a rather tasteful and artistic arrangement of materials collected during our forest walk yesterday, which she obviously took to be a mess of old leaves Grin Grin.

Been working this morning. [Don't you just hate it when people say "this only needs a light edit". I don't understand it as there is no such thing!! [Exasperated emoticon.] So need to focus on clutter this pm, especially because everyone late delivering; so expecting hideous hump of urgent work at end of wk.

Ta da:
morning routine inc dw, wm, s&s & rabbits
tidied up downstairs ahead of cleaner
dining room table hotspot
urgent copy-editing
two urgent bank payments that didn't get done yesterday
two e-mails about said bank payments
texted friend
made school collection arrangements for tomorrow
dried first load laundry
rebooted wm

To do:
e-mail man about a pitch
finish long and boring piece of writing for office
e-mail different friend
decluttering boudoir
clear home office desk
put away clean laundry
school run
hwk supervision
quick trip to Ikea (groan) whilst trying to spend as little money as poss
try and sort dd winter gear conundrum (she has an enormous head and tiny hands, so no hat or gloves, even though bought for this season, actually seem to fit Confused)
more name tapes
sausage and stoemp for supper (postponed from yesterday)
evening routine inc rubbish/recycling
early bed

Thanks for links Blue and thank you Goth for nobly volunteering to run December thread. Much appreciated!

A warm welcome to Stickysausages (love the nn!)

Toffee your mil is very lucky to have you and your family nearby

Babapeela I'm another one who's constantly clambering on and off that wretched Flywagon Smile.

[Hands steaming mug of honey and lemon drink to Lauren] Hope you feel better soon.

Whoknows I hope your ds has a wonderful trip and that you aren't too worried about him (easier said than done though I know). Good luck with OU studies.

Bitchy thanks - rabbits had lovely day gambolling on the lawn and rampaging around the house yesterday. And they are no longer hiding or going awol thank heavens. DD reckons the black cat belongs to a local witch, and it was only causing mischief because it was Halloween Wink.

No wonder you feel overwhelmed Angrybuddha! Just the bit of your list that says 'bath dc x 4' and 'pe kit x 4' makes me feel all weak and wibbly! Hats off to you for getting any other Flying done at all!

Ditto I'madoozermum- 4 dc + 13 hr work days cannot be easy - even with a SHH. Respect!

What a romantic dh you have Dizzy! Smile

Thinking of you this week Mercury hope all goes well.

Hope menfolk getting back in to line Ellie Goth and Engels! Dh driving me spare atm. .

Great to have you back CrikeyBlimey Smile

Swan that's the problem with home baking isn't it? I made jam tarts with dd yesterday and it's me who's snaffling them today Blush. Really, really, really like the sound of your little house in the woods... [runs after Ellie]

Arf at cake-stuffed impromptu presentation PA Grin. Think you are far too forgiving though - I would have been livid!!

No need for apologies Just I reached exactly the same response as you in the end although it took me endless posts to express it.

Big waves to Feetheart Honu Trazzles Castle Saturn Stillwearingoddsocks Nicknacks Rummikub Owlface Petmyunicorn Witco Splatpancake and anyone else I've inevitably missed.

Right, my lunch-time soup has been drunk, dh has popped in to steal food from the fridge see me, time to get back to the boudoir of doom ... .

Keep dry everyone!

BitchytheGreat · 04/11/2013 12:53

Grin interesting theory by dd there SC
I am struggling with motivation today. I know i need to get a whole heap of stuff done but as it is one giant spiral of horribly stressful stuff I can't seem to find any motivation to move at all.

Slimchance · 04/11/2013 12:58

oh poor you Bitchy. I know the feeling!

In these circs, forget the power of three - divide and conquer things in to smallest steps poss - try the power of one - a half or even a quarter! And eat Cake

CallingAllEngels · 04/11/2013 13:47

ellie your post yesterday made me laugh.

I am so fed up with DH. One day last week I was off sick with cold/flu symptoms and it happened to be DH's Daddy day at home with DS. Okay, so he got up with DS to feed him and I stayed in bed for an hour. Yes, he did take DS round to ILs for an hour and a half while I hoovered the house and tidied kitchen even though I was off sick but he then put DS to bed and buggered off into town for an hour. DS decided not to sleep and was screaming the house down within half an hour so no rest for me. Then when DH got back I decided to go to bed. After an hour in bed (had just dropped off) I get woken up by DS crawling all over me. I stomped downstairs to find DH lying on his arse browsing on his tablet and had a go at him. he then got the hump with me - because of my 'reaction' - and we had an almighty row. Angry

I feel like I do so much to support him through his depression - like getting up with DS at the weekend and letting DH have a few extra hours because I know he's not sleeping well, nearly always being the one to do bath/bed with DS, keeping ont top of the washing and washing-up because if I don't then no one will - but right now I need him to help me.

I still have so many pg hormones raging through my body - I'm knackered, emotional and have a big protruding stomach but no baby to show for it. I'm so frustrated I just want to punch something and collapse in a puddle of tears on the floor.

And today DS has decided that he doesn't want to sleep

Thanks for listening ladies. I have to spill it all out on MN otherwise my head will implode. Confused And apologies for lack of personals - my head just isn't coping with life very well right now.

Ta da
Rearranged DS hospital appt for next week
Made dentist appt
Finished letter to Dsis and wrapped and posted her Christmas present to the far side of the world
Called DM for a good whinge about DH and men in general (my DM gave me some gems about my lazy arse DF)
Popped into supermarket for a few bits
Got some fresh air and fucking soaked walking there and back
Chatted with colleague on phone about the Christmas festival we're organising
Sent a few school emails

To do
washing up - we have no clean plates left Blush
Remove yesterday's washing from td
New load of washing on
Pack for trip to UK at weekend
Finalise cover work for tomorrow and email classes

Slimchance · 04/11/2013 14:13

I don't know Engels .. . it's baffling ... don't know how they do it ... but men just seem to be born with a natural self preservation/protection instinct that most women seem to lack. Dh's idea of childcare is to have dd alongside him whatever he is doing ie watching Formula One on the telly which is fair enough when he works such long hours and isn't always a bad thing, but she gets bored and wanders off ... . I know your dh hasn't been well but I'm sorry he's not giving you the support you need right now. It all sounds really, really tough (particularly so with hormone interference) so carry on venting! Thanks Hope your ds settles to some sleep (eventually) and you can get the 'me' time you need. PS V. impressed at your efficiency in getting early C** off to your sister despite everything that's going on!

Slimchance · 04/11/2013 14:14

C** present!

Babapeela82 · 04/11/2013 14:16

Engels your DH sounds distinctly like my DH, so have some Cake. Sounds like you've been having a tough time recently.

Well I got DD's clothes put away, then got sidetracked while clearing the desk when I found my appointment letter from the lovely ATOS healthcare. I'm being moved from IB to ESA so have to have a new medical, absolutely dreading it as last time I ended up going to tribunal and know I just don't have the strength for that again. Anyway, phoned to try and change the appt, as it's early AM and over an hour away from my house so would never make it after the school run, plus the train fair is close to £20, which we just wont have til DH gets paid. Really unhelpful woman who had me in tears by the end of the call. Now I feel like doing fuck all Sad

Slimchance · 04/11/2013 14:25

Illegitimi non carborundum Babapeela82. That sounds really tough and stressful too Thanks. Hope you can get it sorted without too much more angst.

[Leaves out jam tarts on naughty corner bar]

GoingGoingGoth · 04/11/2013 14:42

Oh Baba, you sometimes wonder if these people have a family life (or whether they have to hand in their empathy when they arrive at work)

Updated Done
Go DD ready for school
Dd to school
2 loads laundry washed & hung out
Beds
Windows
Washing up
C Cake fed (that was a lot of rum!)
Made tomato & lentil soup
Ate soup
Washing up
Prepped veg for dinner (includes 1 of my 4 different types of cabbage -long story )
Tackled veg bag and makes beetroot chutney -lush and so easy.
Washing up (again)

About to check laundry and then see what the mission is.... Blush

Oh, and it turns out that as DH has 'drawn a line under this morning' that DD is NOT grounded! Yes, she apologised voluntarily (possibly 1st time ever) but I do feel that there should be some consequences. Not going to argue with him, he can deal with her if she starts up again.

BBL

Babapeela82 · 04/11/2013 14:57

Will do my best slim, trying to get focused on being productive instead of dwelling on it. Sounds like my kind of naughty corner - I'm a sucker for a jammy dodger Grin

Indeed goth, think it's a requirement of the job to be an obnoxious arse whose only reply is 'the system won't allow it' grrr

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