Fledglings flying though July into the summer.

[ColdHeartedBitch]

Roll up, roll up. tis the month of school fetes, sports days and annual reports. In all this flurry of extra activities and with the summer holidays hurtling towards us at rapid speed, now is the time to tame the chaos before our very special chaos creators are able to help us. Fully intending to beat the Can't Have Anyone Over Syndrome so that my personal chaos creator can be occupied by others this holiday. Good luck to all to are also striving to achieve this.

Starting from the 1st of the month we shall be fluttering our way to tamed houses. If you are new to the system it is recommend that you focus on making the babysteps your main focus. The babysteps will build up to form routines to help you to stay on top of the house once you have discovered it. First step is to shine your sink. But not just half heartidly, deep clean til it shines Instructions here

For the more established flyer we then progress onto decluttering. 15mins each day in alloted zone of the week. New zones each week. and current zones and decluttering instructions can be found here Zones will automatically update for July.

As for the advanced flyer, there are missions to do each day in the current zone

We have one rule we are NOT perfectionists anything is better then nothing, real life gets in the way and we have to do other stuff other then cleaning (put it on your list, tick it off and :) ), besides the fat fairy's moto is "You are never behind"

As such take the vomit inducing cuteness of the website with a pinch of salt, and join us for wish lists formally to do lists , ta da lists and home bleurghs.

See you bright and early tomo although hopefully not too bright and early.

Its called an invasion of relatives toffee, expected in precisely 1 week . Yep it is the only thing that motivates me.

No Flying today as I was out all day. Had a difficult visit to the secondary school with DS1. It was all too much for him and he was in tears afterwards . After feeling hope that he might be OK for school in September, I lost heart again. DH reminded me that it's still early days - and that the Prozac hasn't kicked in yet.

DH is busy assembling flat-pack furniture and painting his mum's new flat ready for her arrival on Friday . Went to visit it for the first time today and it seems perfect for her. I am planning to do a quick Flylady crisis clean before she arrives.

Managed to cook a decent meal and load the d/w this evening. Er - that seems to be the sum total of my Flying today.

CHB - an eagle-eyed relative is visiting us next week and I must say it is a strong motivating force to get the house sorted.

Have to have root-canal work done on one of my teeth first thing tomorrow morning, which I am NOT looking forward to AT ALL.

Sorry, no individual messages again, but am thinking of you all and am glad to catch up with all your news.

Off to throw put DS2 in the bath now and looking forward to a glass of shortly.

Thanks for the wine Toffee You have been busy. I'll have a quick glass as I pass. Swan just reading back on the tread and wow at all you are doing/helping with. Please ensure you get time to yourself.

Well I managed to go to post office, 4 loads of washing, back up my PC and tidy the whole of the kitchen as well as cooking a proper meal.

Now I'm settling down with my PCto sort out my electronic PGCE files whilst watching The Apprentice. Back tomorrow

Evening everyone!

Toffee that sounds really difficult and heart breaking for you considering all the positivity you've been feeling. Your DH is absolutely right however. You have done a brilliant job with DS and today was just a small step. It will take time but you will get there. You should be very proud of yourself for all you and DS have achieved and remember that sometimes we have to take one step back to take two forward.

feet i have a landing of doom too. Mine is mainly covered in washing. Have to get it sorted as we are decorating hall, stairs, landing over the next few weeks so it has to be clutter free. May take some time .

LOts of other productive days I see going on here!

For the first time in about a month I have actually done something in the house . I have:-

Tidied downstairs
Done 2 loads of washing (still not put away )
Asda for top up shop
Cooked dinner
Cleaned bathroom
Washed up.
Made packed lunches

Not perfect but much much better! The first night in 3 weeks where I don't have to do any work or feel guilty for not doing any work. Have had a difficult day at work with office politics and one particularly obstreporous individual who has no emotional intelligence whatsoever. But dealt with in a calm manner when in reality, I reelly wanted to punch her .

Am going to enjoy the rest of the evening now and shall partake in some of toffee's wine to help me do that!

Have a good evening everyone!

Nooo, my Roundup has evaporated! [sob] and it took me quite a while to do it, oh dear,
so folks, I will have to say Wednesday has been quite productive for most of us, nice homecooked meals, a bit of catching up does wonders

PA has offered herself to the fishes, and was worried her son might get swept away like the rabbits, without his raincoat
Toffee has had an exhausting day, but got through it, sympathy to her, and to her ds1, and admiration to her Dh for preps to his mum's new flat.
Linzer and Blue went to zumba yesterday and today, and luckily Linzer ran out of chocolate not long afterwards.
Ellie staunchly resisted punching someone at work, but has pounded all but the landing of doom into submission at home, and feeling the joy of having finished the marking.
SC has been herbalizing, and nearly zumbaing with the shopping, and looking after all of us again
CHB has done wonderful (and brave)things with decluttering and sorting, and found the car keys which narrowly escaped being steam pressed and put away (well if you had a landing of doom, you would have found them immediately!)
Whoknows has been offering kind words, I hope she had a good day
Feet for once did something for herself, unsung heroine that she is of the PTA and clearly very busy paid work too. And tackled house too!
MC had a chance to catch her breath, and tidied her kitchen, overcame the washing pile, wenttopostoffice (one of those things i always put off), and now v.professionally sorting out her electronic PGCE

Hello to anyone I've missed, sorry especially if I missed you yesterday, but I don't dare scroll in case this roundup vanishes too

Passes swan a stiff drink to soothe the nerves after dispearing roundup hell.

PS. I had a very good day really, stopped worrying about SIL, library and school, as dd was not well, so didn't feel slightest bit guilty.
Also got my teeth into kitchen and cooked nice moussaka for supper before rushign off to Beavers, so that was all good news.

Washng up done
SS School uniform ordered for Ds1 (site crashed, a bit irksome - and no proper sizing advice [grrr] still it arrives on Friday so still time to re-order if wrong
SATS results [tremble] Ds1 just scraped a 5c in literacy (should have got 4b or A considering how many books he has lying around his floor) and a 5 in reading and writing, I am so relieved, as he only got a 4b in Maths, and I see now he could have dropped down to 4a in literacy. Sloppiness, oh dear. But I am really pleased with the result, just see now what a near thing it was...
MUST DO MATHS revision in hols.

Linkys

Babystep is one which should help with the getting up straight away thing: set your clothes out the night before

15mins declutter in the kitchen zone or the mission in the kitchen

Thursday is errand day reminders here

Good morning, ladies

a bit of a traumatic 12 hours has just happened, involving DD1, now ex- boyfriend, the police, a midnight dash, a million phone calls to hotels over 200 miles away throughout the night, trying to find her a safe place to go to. She is flying home today and moving back in with us. My head is spinning, I cant think straight. Not a lot of anything is going to be going on today. (OR I will be running around like a blue-arsed fly cos I cant sit still )

No promises of a list.

PA hope you/dd are now safe

((PA)) - hugs. Hope all safe now.

DH is doing the nursery run (yay!) so I have hoovered and mopped downstairs. Meant to be checking forecast to decide whether to hang the washing out or tumble it. And the ants have busted out again. Grr!

Oh no PA how awful. Hope dd1 is OK. Sending prayers/positive thoughts. It'll be such a relief to have her safely home with you.

Toffee sorry your ds1 had such a difficult day yesterday. Try not to be too disheartened. I'm certain things will get better for him now you have got him the appropriate help. It was a positive step (and brave of him) that he made it to the school. Good luck at the dentist today!

Swan glad you had a bit of a respite yesterday (although looking after a poorly dd, making moussaka and dashing off to beavers doesn't exactly sound like a rest!!) And congrats to your ds1 on his tests and to you on your kitchen blitz!

Ellie whey hey! Great you had your first evening sans marking!! And well done for not punching your colleague (although we would have loved to hear about it if you had )

CHB ta for linkies

Evidently, a bit of a turbulent wind passing through Fledgling land yesterday. We had some pretty dire news (financial) related to in-laws (who we already support to a fair degree). Dh came home looking almost grey with strain. Let's just say, dd won't be having the holes in her bedroom walls repaired any time soon . Am as well because we all saw this situation looming, tried to help/prevent it from happening, and were firmly told it was all under control. Well it isn't and guess who has to bail everyone out... again.

Can't settle to anything but must go and settle the old blood pressure.

Waves to everyone I've missed...

PA Sending ((hugs)) your way too; hope your DD has a safe journey back.

Have finally been for a run, which took my mind off my toothache - wisdom teeth playing up, I think (hope your visit to the dentist's went OK, Toffee), and am now trying to summon up the energy to do something. The house is looking relatively tidy for once after a blitz yesterday (as long as you don't look in the drawers and cupboards), so I should probably start to think about packing. We don't leave for another three days but I tend to go into a panic if I leave it too late.

Blue We've have dead ants all over the girls' bedroom floor and the bathroom floor for weeks - not the same ones obv, as I'm hoovering them all up regularly, but I can't believe there are so many.

Sorry to hear of your troubles too, SC - it must be especially annoying when you'd had previous offers of help rejected.

PA so glad she is coming home, I bet you will just be relieved to have her safe - what a frightening thing to happen. Just realised you never stop being a parent, even when your children are nominally grownup.

both dd and ds1 are at home with same sick headachy tummy ache, and ds1 also seems to have conjunctivitis [bleugh but cannot stop talking about secondary school, poring over boring official bits of paper. We have th reading list at last, which is quite exciting!

Kitchenzone
seem to have done the missions, apart from the witchlike fumigation ceremony
sink almost empty

todayneedto
loads of piano, will have to find someone to sit in house for 40 mins for lesson this afternoon
tidy kitchen bookshelf
tackle books in playroom in heaps

DH has been lovely (ish) over last few days, but the familiar rant has emerged (I mistakenly admitted I had offered to lend Wimpy Kid series to some child at school) --- Fee Fi Fo Fum you have been throwing my books away again...it's a bit like dealing with the giant in Jack and the Beanstalk...

oh dear, I think I am getting same tummyish feeling as the children, no DV just feeling lowlying nauseous and headachey. Off to talk to children, at least they can entertain each other a bit today..

Reastie you were on my original roundup, love the mop Although it is of course quite satisfying pouring a whole bucket of dirty mop water away and handy to water the bamboo plant!

Morning all

PA and SC sounds like you need to be kind to yourselves today. Hope things settle down for you both.

Swan hope you aren't getting lurgy too. Be kind to yourself too.

Ok jobs for today. As I did the kitchen yesterday I'm going to move to the bedroom today as it is the room most in need of a good blitz. I have no appointments until after school so a few hours of work.

• DD to school - Done and there for when they opened rather than running in at last minute
• Breakfast - Done
• Gather up books that are lying around upstairs and downstairs and sort
• Black bag and blitz master bedroom
• Blitz en-suite especially toiletries
• Wash both sets of bedding
• Make a start on clothing cull
• Tea - Going to attempt a Quorn chilli with some frozen quorn I have. DH pulled a face when I bought it so i'll see what he thinks when he doesn't know hes eating it.
• DD to Ballet

Right best get on. Have a good day everyone

SC what a nightmare - your poor dh, hope next stage is that they (I assume more than one relative) are much more accountable and don't fob you off. Family money can be extremely difficult to sort out, people are so worried about being inpolite/disrespectful, and then end up cutting each others' throats over it... It is very difficult as well to tell parents to do with their financial affairs,even when they are no longer that good at handling them I am very sorry other relatives (I assume) have left you sorting tis all out.

Thanks Swan. It is a nightmare tbh (always has been - delayed getting married for 11 yrs because of it!) and realised properly for the first time yesterday - it always will be. Sad and stressful situation for all concerned. No other family to sort it out except dh (apart from sil who has given up job to look after them). The frustrating part is that it is self-inflicted and they are seemingly oblivious/unaware of the knock on effects it has on everyone else. Utter outrage if dh utters even the mildest protest. Not a word of thanks either. I could go on... and on ... but I'd better not.

Swan sorry! So wrapped up in own worries forgot to say "sorry you've all gone down with the lurgy." That's really bad luck just at the end of term. Hope you all feel better soon and take it steady today.

SC and PA it sounds like you are both having to deal with very difficult situations. Wishing you both well.

Reastie I must check out that mop. I never don't mop the kitchen floor nearly as often as I should, simply because I can't be bothered filling and emptying the bucket.

I haven't managed to post any lists for a few days, but can proudly report that the foot muff has been cleaned, reassembled into a carrycot and packed away . I've also been doing the 15 min declutter in the kitchen each day and it's really starting to look better.

I am in awe of anti-procrastination day. What an inspired idea. Mind you, in my case it could well mean working from dawn to dusk to get everything done and that's not really FLY philosophy, is it?

Hello to everyone I haven't mentioned personally.

what a tough time everyone here seems to be having at the minute :(

sc I would feel really from what you've said in your position too. Do you get on with your inlaws other than this issue?

Not much done this morning as tummy cramps this morning and then had hv come weigh dd and chat re: anxiety issues I have. I haven't even made the bed yet

Have been spending alot of time considering my job and going back from maternity leave and whether to go back to my old job or risk it in going self employed

Just back from dentist and - it didn't hurt!

DS1 had to come with me because I didn't want to leave him home alone. He was very sweet to me, although he did ask - a bit too enthusiastically - if I would scream and cry .

Have just read through the latest posts - sorry to hear of the tough times some of you have been having.

PA - I'm so sorry to hear about your DD. Thank goodness she called you for help and that she can now come back home. It's lovely that she knows she can do that. My grandparents were always taking in their various children and grandchildren according to which ones were in crisis at any one time. It was good for everyone to know that they would always have a place with them. Hope you and your DD are OK - it must have been very frightening.

Still - that sounds such a depressing and frustrating situation, particularly when you saw it coming and your ILs denied they needed help. It must be such a strain for you and your DH. I'm not surprised it makes you angry. Thanks for your positive words about DS1, by the way.

Makingchanges - I love the way you casually mention 'four loads of washing' in your list. That's impressive!

Linzer - sorry to hear you have toothache. I've been using an adult tooth gel to numb my sore tooth - very effective. It might be worth asking in the chemist. (If you can't get any, the children's teething gel was almost as effective).

Swan - sorry to hear your DC are all off sick today. Cross fingers that you don't get it too.

Silken - congratulations on getting the foot muff done and on achieving the 15-minute declutter every day. I used to do that, but have fallen by the wayside recently. It's really effective and makes you feel as if you are achieving something.

Ellie - thanks for your sound and caring advice about DS1. You are right - it's all about small steps. I need to remember that and not get discouraged. It's bound to be tough to be pushing him back out into the world again, but at least this time he is going to have loads of support.

Waves to WhoKnows, Blue, Reastie, Feet and all the other feathered Flying friends.

DH is spending the day at his mum's new flat, assembling flat-pack furniture (poor thing) and dealing with deliveries. He doesn't want me to do any cleaning or hoovering as he's doing it all, so I'm off the hook there . She moves in tomorrow, so I will be having her round to lunch or dinner quite a few times in the next few days. Must go and plan some meals that don't involve spices or garlic!

Reastie - sounds as if you have a lot on your plate too. I hope your tummy cramps settle down soon. It's so difficult feeling unwell when you have a baby to look after. Sympathies re the anxiety issues.