Surprised and cross

[milou2]

Tonight my husband asked about the reports I got after each of the 2 visits from the LEA home education person. I fished them out for him and also handed over a letter I hadn't sent to the school when ds2 tried school again last September, plus an A4 summary of why I had deregistered him and my comments about how he had improved since then.

He read the 2 reports and the letter, then started to hand back the papers to me. I asked directly if he had read the A4 sheet and he said no. So I had to ask him to read it as it was about his son. He wouldn't have done it otherwise.

Rant, rant, rant. Why don't people take the time to get the background information? If the father automatically reads only part of the info, then do doctors and ed psychs and anyone else just read the top sheet of a file?

I think that people read the bits that are of interest to them. Surely your DH already knew why he had deregistered him and how he had improved? I would imagine that he only wanted to see the reports that he had asked to see, in the same way doctors etc sift out the relevant parts.

Well, to be fair it may be that he thinks he knows about why you deregistered, what the problems were that led up to that, and how things have improved, so didn't feel a need to read through it. I know in the past I've put tons of stuff down on paper to get it straight in my own head, but there's been no need for DH to read through it because he's heard me going through it out loud as well... usually several times in my case

My XH is like this too milou2! I show him something of great importance and he barely looks at it - very annoying!

He asked to see the LEA reports and he read them and handed them back-I think that is fair enough, he didn't ask to read anything else.