Dd doesn't want to do her GCSEs

[timothytoeseatenbyaghoul]

Can anyone help please?

Dd is home educated, she has a tutor that gives her work weekly. Dd has decided she will not be doing her GCSEs so why am I bothering to pay for a maths and English tutor.

She's just turned 16 in oct. What should she be learning if there's no goal in sight?

If your teen doesn't follow the national curriculum what do they do?

Thanks

A guy?

Why was my post deleted? I only repeated exactly what the OP said: that she doesn't care about her childs education, she doesn't value it, and the child will be married off young and is not expected to be educated or have a career.

Is it now delete worthy to echo back what a poster says themselves?

I suggest you phone the education section of your local council to ask about the legalities of what she should learn etc.

I'm not rich by any mile but I live comfortably and don't live beyond my means so have never inspired to be a doctor or work in a bank. I've no qualifications but it's done me fine

So because you have low expectations for your own life you are going to allow your DD to limit hers? She's a child! She needs you to encourage her to have a better life than yours.

Happy- oh she'll have a great life I don't doubt that for a second. She just won't have to work and struggle for it.

That’s good but things happen and it’s good to be able to earn money as well

It's easy to make money if your not easy and bone idle.

Lazy

And its even easier to make money with a decent education behind you...

@Happyface120 and what's the point of it all if you aren't going to use it?

But why won't she use it? That is what I can't get my head around? Are you really saying that marrying young and doing nothing else with your life is what you hoped for?!
You say she will be rich- what will she do with her money? Travel? Or will she be stuck at home cleaning? There is so much more to life!

I don't have any qualifications and left school at 11 and have been a postie with royal mail for 12 years.

The number of jobs, even completely unskilled jobs, which will accept someone who doesn't have at least maths and English GCSE is dwindling by the day. And the trend only goes one way. Unskilled jobs are being rapidly replaced by automation and AI. The job market is very different now than it was 12 years ago in that regard.

If she doesn't do these qualifications now, she'll be closing a huge number of doors. I doubt she has so much money in trust that she couldn't blow it all if she tried.

For me its about choices.

You say she'll likely be married at 18. What if its not a happy marriage? What if she wants something a bit different from life? What if she needs to escape her situation?

Having some basic qualifications will broaden her options considerably. If she's been studying then why not do the last push and get the exams done?

I have no experience of traveller life or communities so I don't know but I try to encourage my kids to make decisions which open up choices rather than close them down. 16 is very young to make a decision which could affect her working life for the next 40 years.

Why is expecting your kid to follow your life choices more legitimate because you chose not to get any qualifications? What if you were a doctor and had expectations of her doing that same. Would that be ok too?

Happy- why do you care it's not your life why are you obsessing so much time in this? Can you not understand that there is different cultures other than your own? It's what we know and it's what we want so yeah get over it.

@timothytoeseatenbyaghoul

Happy- oh she'll have a great life I don't doubt that for a second. She just won't have to work and struggle for it.

Some would argue that achieving something in life is what makes it "great".

Also you're 0saying it's easy to make money if you're not lazy. Not being bothered to do GCSEs because it's too difficult or too much effort sounds pretty lazy to me and thats how employers will see it too.

Guys guys guys give it a rest now please it's so boring. I came here to to ask a question and your going on deep. Don't worry your little heads. She'll be fine 👌🏼

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How about

Functional skills maths and English
Paediatric first aid, I did a 12 hour course with a company called tigerlily v useful !
City and guilds arts courses, I think you said she did art but you can do very specific ones such as embroidery. Something extra for the cv and fun.
A course in graphic design at a local college with the aim of designing the look of the business. Logo ect.

I suggest you phone the education section of your local council to ask about the legalities of what she should learn etc.

No no no no! Sadly, Local Authorities are renowned for misrepresenting the law. Home educators very often have to quote it to them. A significant proportion of LAs don't follow the very straightforward guidance from the Dept for Education... which refuses to intervene, saying it is a local matter, so there is no comeback and the LAs just carry on trying to lead home ed families up the garden path.

It may be lack of training or lack of interest. Regardless, it is better not to rely on their information. Here is the DfE guidance: www.gov.uk/government/publications/elective-home-education

This departmental guidance isn't perfect, but it is a reasonable representation of the law and is far closer to it than the nonsense many LAs spout.

@timothytoeseatenbyaghoul

A guy?

Does she know him? Who's idea was it? This sounds really worrying.

Not being bothered to do GCSEs because it's too difficult or too much effort sounds pretty lazy to me and thats how employers will see it too.

This is so funny.
I started off a cleaner for Royal Mail and my employer could see that I was a hard worker, reliable,and she loved my personality. When I asked her for a postie job she snapped me up and got me through tests I had to do.

Ohalrightthen her boyfriend. Jesus are you trying to imply I'm marrying off my kid like an arranged marriage 😳

Thehouseofmarvels- thank you I'll look into this.

@timothytoeseatenbyaghoul

Not being bothered to do GCSEs because it's too difficult or too much effort sounds pretty lazy to me and thats how employers will see it too.

This is so funny.
I started off a cleaner for Royal Mail and my employer could see that I was a hard worker, reliable,and she loved my personality. When I asked her for a postie job she snapped me up and got me through tests I had to do.

Yeah, in what, 2007? The job market isn't like that anymore. Unemployment is sky high and pretty much all the available candidates will have GCSEs at the very least. She won't get a look-in unless she's happy scrubbing shitters. It is miserable that you don't want better for her.

@timothytoeseatenbyaghoul

Ohalrightthen her boyfriend. Jesus are you trying to imply I'm marrying off my kid like an arranged marriage 😳

Your posts don't exactly fill me with confidence!