has anyone HEd one of their children while the rest are at school?

[SpocksThirdEar]

I'm seriously thinking of pulling my DS out for y5 & 6 (he's y4 now)with a view to sending him back to secondary for y7. He has ADHD and ASD, but has no extra help from the school since y1, despite needing it.

I feel he'd do better with some 1:1 time with me to help him with his English and handwriting and hopefully get him on track for secondary without him having the stress of SATs. And they would be a stress for him - constant practice would mean huge meltdowns at home - he's perfect at school, holds it in all day and lets it all out for me.

He's my youngest and my others are all at secondary/6th form, and all very happy there. But I feel guilty that he'd be having all this time with me and the others wouldn't.

Spocks

No direct experience as mine had both left when we H.ed dd, but you have to do what's right for each child.
taking the stress away from your son will certainly benefit him and it's not like you'll be spending time on ds at the expense of the others as they are much older and settled.
Please don't feel guilty doing something for a child who needs extra support, sometimes events happen that make it essential to treat a child different to their siblings, we had this too, but not sn related.
It sounds like your ds will benefit from H.ed for a while and I'm sure his siblings will support you on this and understand your reasons.

I found I had more time for my other DC,as I had given my DS lots of attention durin the day and could then concentrate on the others at the weekend and after school

We're thinking of doing this for DS. He's struggling at school with dyslexia and falling behind, although the school is saying it's not dyslexia . We feel he would benefit from lots of 1:1 help at home, which isn't what he's getting at school. He hates school because he's constantly comparing his progress with that of his friends and seeing that he's not doing well. That makes him stressed and anxious and so finds it hard to learn in an environment where he is feeling like that. DD, however, loves the school learning environment and is doing very well there. It seems like the right thing in our minds for him.

I have one in school and one at home. One at school was home ed but chose to go to secondary. I'm on a group on Facebook which is for families in that situation (there are lots of us).
www.facebook.com/groups/homeedschoolfamilies/

I made time to have days out at weekends and spells in the evening with the older one when he first went. He's a teenager now and not really bothered about hanging out with me.
I don't see it as singling out one child I see it as recognising them as unique with their own needs. You may well find that all the family see the benefit of him being more relaxed.

I posted about this the other day. We're planning to take our oldest (year 4) out after the school residential next month. Assuming home schooling goes ok, we'll keep DC out for years 5 and 6 to have fun, focus on what DC wants to learn, extend in the way the school can't as school doesn't really challenge or extend as much as we'd like; in fact DC doesn't really learn much there at all as far as I can tell. Also, it will avoid the hell that seems to be year 6 with constant teaching for the test (SATS). We plan to send DC back into the system for secondary school at this point, but may reassess down the track.

We also have 2 other children, one of whom is also at school and who we plan to leave there as they enjoy it at this point in time. We'll work it so the school going child gets more attention on weekends or after school, while the older one is at activities or doing their own thing.

Thanks for posting the link itsstillgood - will look that up!

Yes,we're doing just that! Took ds out in May of year 4, half way through year 5 now. So far so good - he's definitely making more progress at home. When we took him out we thought it would only be for a term or so and gave our daughter the option too but she declined as it was her last term in primary. She does get a bit jealous that life is so stress free for him! But that can be explained away as the difference between primary and secondary. I do sometimes think we should keep doing home ed for secondary as it's a great life in lots of ways. At the moment school is the plan for year 7 though. Like someone said further up, because you spend time with your home educated child in the day you can give the others more attention in the evening.