Hi, thanks for taking time to read this. I don't have anyone in RL that I can talk to about it as no one was supportive of my decision to HE, so they will just say 'I told you so'
I took my 2 Dc out of school 1 year ago, for a mixture of reasons. Mainly it was to do with Dd being bullied and falling way behind due to the amount of time she was spending out of class due to that and being in trouble for bad behaviour nearly every single day. I was going to leave her brother in school, but he refused to go if his sister wasn't there.
So 1 year on and I really can't see that the pair of them have learnt anything in the time since they left school. I am certain that DS at least would have learnt many things in this time, if in school. Instead all he does each day is play computer games. If I take them away he will scream, shout, hit and kick and refuse to do anything else.
DD has obviously benefitted from not being bullied and constantly being told she is a bad person every day. If I try to do any learning work with her though, she will often whine and cry so I stop. she can't cope with anything harder than basic addition or writing a few words. Any encouragement to try anything a little harder leads to her switching back to the mindset she had in school, that she is stupid and bad and everyone hates her. It is truly terrible thing to hear a young child saying.
Basically I feel like the whole idea of HE hasn't really worked for us. I am to blame for the most part as I don't seem to be able to organise anything that works well for us at all. Too often I have to leave the DC to their own devices as I have unending number of other tasks to do. Really I should be setting up all sorts of fun learning opportunities for them, but by the time I manage that they have lost interest or (in DS's case) would still rather just play a computer instead.
Anyway self-indulgent moaning over, should I be sending them both back to school? Or (I'm really hoping) is there anything else I could try to make HE work?