We have decided that our youngest will not be going to nursery and I feel like a weight is lifted!

[Itsjustmeagain]

I have posted on here before umming and ahhing about Home educating my older children. I am STILL umming an ahhing about that!. I am just concerned as they actually seem to like school so although I am now convinced that delaying school until 7 or beyond would have been beneficial for them I am still on the fence about whether its too late to change.

HOWEVER, both dh and I are sick of having screaming 3 year olds dragged from us (our children have never taken easily to nursery!) and he agrees that starting school after 7 would have been better had we been savvy enough to do the research back then for our older ones.

So our youngest will not be going to nursery and if all goes well that year she will not be going into infant school either.

Our 4 year old who I had to go and pick up today because of so many wetting accidents (she need constant supervision and I feel she is showing some of the same special needs as my older ds) has until christmas and if we are still not happy we will be withdrawing her to home educate.

We have three older ages 9,7 and 6 and we will leave the choice up to them as I dont feel its something I can force on them.

I am so excited - which probably seems odd but I feel like a huge weight has been lifetd at the thought of not having the "oh Mrs Its can I have a word" at the end of everyday.

:) I just had to share with someone! as we are not going to be going into massive amount of details with wider family (who will be seriously against it).

Whoop whoop! And you can always just get the 4 year old out tomorrow if you've all had enough :)

Yay for you

Fantastic. I'm glad you are feeling relieved to have made the decision.

Its awful isn't it? Our wee ones being pulled away from us for no reason other than because we're told its best for them! Well I think its apparent the little ones don't think so!
Its great, since I took my DD (8) out of school (this September) my 3 yo twins have been able to rest, play & get out to parks and just be kids! Same for DD too. She's really starting to leave her school shell behind now. We're living as a family should & the kids are able to be as kids should - free and happy of course you do get bumps when all the kids bicker from being together but they soon realise they have to get along or its back to school for everyone!

Really wish I'd done this from day one though!

Mine went/go to school- but hated nursery so didn't go. It's not compulsory- and I can remember the wonderful feeling when I suddenly though "I'm not doing this any more!"

They then had a long lead in to full time school- I insisted on part time until I thought they were ready. When they were ready, they flew.

I'm really thinking about it after TA - a little whilst pregnant. Dd is 16 months now so still very young.

So much of the day is wasted on class management, lining up for assembly, lining up for lunch, lining up for playtime. Honestly not a lot of actual work was done.

The thought of my dd sat in a box learning what I could teach her or how to act like a drone while it's glorious outside and we could be exploring makes me sad.

Gotta talk dp around yet!

Ooooops! Forgot to add - fantastic, good on you x

thanks!
Thinking- If I take my 4 year old out as well bickering is what I am dreading most. Although I know if I organise and make sure they are not bored it doesnt tend to happen (I keep trying to have lazy days which just doesn't work because it ends up more stressful than just getting on with things!)

Another - A lot of my dds issues come from things like going out to play (when she has decided she doesnt want to!) and sitting on the carpet - she just isnt ready to do these things yet I dont think.

Brilliant - I'm so happy for you . I would do everything differently with my boys if I could go back and have a re-run. However, having been through the process of taking DS1 out of school when he was utterly miserable (bullied, SNs, etc), I didn't hesitate when DS2 also began to sink into the same slough of despond (tummy aches, feeling sick, etc). He's a happy boy now.

I bet your four-year old won't be far behind .

itsjustmeagain thing is IMO 4 is too young to be worrying about going to school and learning! They should be free to play and learn naturally. I find a lot of creative play happens when the TV is off. I only put TV on now for two reasons. A distraction for the kids because I need to cook or they've exhausted themselves with play & need to just chill on the sofa. So really I try limit TV to only when the educational programmes are on (on Pop from 6pm there's Wild Kratts, finding stuff out and history hunters)

We have a few days in but I need to get to the park more for exercise (for myself really ) so "days in" could easily become a day out by walking to the park and throwing a ball about...or take a mat & play with toys in the grass...the scenery may prove more exciting then the carpet at home! just watch out for dog poo

I am also so happy for you. It is heart breaking when your child is being taken from you at nursery by someone you hardly know and all you can see and hear is total upset for everyone. I can still remember sitting in the car not being able to drive because of the tears after leaving my dd1 at nursery. Wasn't till later years I realised I didn't have to put my children or myself through this.
And yes the weight is lifted.